Can going to the gym help you get a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

You go and work out and improve your physique increasing your value. Does it help?

[zeitgeist057]

I don't have any conclusive evidence. I never went to the gym girlfriend-less and walked out with a girlfriend. But logically, here are some reasons going to the gym can help you get a girlfriend:

1. You are going to be more fit.
2. You are going to be less stressed.
3. You are practicing a good habit, which is both good for your psyche and for your status in other's eyes.
4. You have a healthy activity that makes for good conversation material. i. e. you can chat up a girl with some of the exercises you do, why you do them, diet changes you've made, your favorite exercises, issues you've had with certain equipment/exercises, your goals, etc, etc, etc,.

[Anonymous]

In my experience so far, what helps is you becoming content with yourself. Take care of yourself. Go to gym, but to stay healthy. Not to pick up girls. Go to bar, to socialize. Whatever you do, just do it for yourself. Be independent.

And it is also useful because you are not disappointed by the outcome. If you go to gym, with the expectation of getting girls, you might be disappointed. But if you go to gym to stay healthy, you are most likely not gonna be disappointed.

These small things effect your daily mood, and ultimately, effect your personality. It will help you get more approachable, more fun to be around. In the end, that's more important.

[nerdybutlazy]

kind of it depends on what time of girl you want, not all girl are attracted to ripped men and some women don't really stick around for a relationship if you only have the looks but it'll probably make it easier for u to get laid but again not necessarily a girlfriend

[Asker]

a lot of girls on this swear you all have the same physical preferences

[nerdybutlazy]

I mean no not really maybe some but personally, a guy being ripped is a turn off for me

[Asker]

Navyrobin thinks all you girls choose the athletic type

[nerdybutlazy]

well that's kinda like saying all guys like big butts, it's not true but it's an oddly generalized thought

[navyrobin]

@Asker Physical attraction is incredibly important for any romantic relationship, you're acting like it's not important and it is. If all women would have the option to choose between one really hot athletic guy versus a fat guy, 90% of the time they'd choose the athletic guy.

It's not something that I made up. It's just how shit works. It's like telling me Not all people would choose to live in the beautiful house if they had the choice between an old fixer upper and a gorgeous luxurious house.

Of course not all people would choose the gorgeous luxurious house, but most absolutely would if they had the option. This is universal knowledge lmao

[jennifer_bloom]

A little bit of exercise helps but don’t over do it. In the same way men don’t like woman who wear too much make up cause it doesn’t look normal - girls don’t like guys who are too muscular cause it doesn’t look normal. A little bit of muscle can be hot though.

[hellacray]

Haha well it hasn't worked for me. Altho I do go to the gym at irregular hours where it's kind of empty. And I have my headphones on pretty much the whole time.

While I think improving your physique helps, but unless you're like a model don't expect women to be flocking to you just because you got in shape.

Just get in shape for you and don't do it just to get a girlfriend. Cause I think doing it just to get a girlfriend is having the wrong mentality.

What happens when you do get a girlfriend? Are you going to start slacking? Afterall you have a girlfriend now which is the whole point of going to the gym in the first place right? Or maybe you see that losing some weight got you a girlfriend and then maybe you think getting even more ripped will get you a model girlfriend. You know it's like trading up.

So yeah do it to improve yourself that should be your biggest reason for going to the gym.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Being physically fit does make someone more attractive, generally, yes.

But the benefits of exercise are so much better than just getting a girlfriend. Exercise helps keep one mentally healthy, physically healthy, sets you up for a higher quality of life, and allows you to develop mental, emotional and physical fortitude.

Basically, yes. And so much more that the girlfriend becomes a bonus.

[Asker]

I just care about getting a girlfriend. If that'll increase my chances, then hell yeah

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Go for it, dude, yeah! But you'd best to more than just work out to keep the girlfriend, otherwise you'll be too boring for her to stick around. Personality is as important as body - and for many of us ladies, it's even more important than body.

[Asker]

Personality don't matter. If it did, a lot of guys wouldn't be single right now lol

[Barbaric]

It is important. A lot of guys think that "being nice" is a personality when it isn't, they're boring, and that's not what women mean. They mean interesting, funny etc.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Asker - so, good news, bad news.

Going to the gym, for you, isn't gonna help you get a real girlfriend. You might get lucky once in a while, but with your "personality", you'll be lucky to be more than just a hunk of meat.

[Asker]

Personality can only go so far. The physical aspect is more important thus why im working on that

[Hermes-Paris]

Keep up a healthy lifestyle which includes gym, eating well, and having a well balanced lifestyle and the women will find you. But yes it is pretty much a give we humans are attracted to healthy people in general. So go ahead and plop down some cash and get busy.

[Kaazsz]

Going to the gym and growing muscle also makes other men respect you more and treat you better. And when other dudes treat you better, so do girls. And when girls treat you better, other girls notice and treat you better.


The rich get richer and the poor get poorer basically.

[RawIronhide]

Why don't you try to develop your personality? Of course it helps but to many guys think it's going to save them. Like if they got muscles, girls will like them. They're not wrong but it's like they believe girls only date guys for their muscles. Some girls like guys who are smart or funny it's kinda a shallow train of thought to think you just need muscles.

[AlienParasite]

Looks cause attraction though personality is what keeps people. It may help you to get more chances to meet women, but for any of them to become your girlfriend personality compatibility will play a big role.

[ManhattanMan1212]

Can I ask you a question

[AlienParasite]

@ManhattanMan1212 Sure

[ManhattanMan1212]

Would you continue dating a attractive guy even if he doesn’t have a big penis?

[AlienParasite]

@ManhattanMan1212 Yes, maybe. Or maybe not. Depends on if I like his personality and how well he manages in bed despite of his size.

[ManhattanMan1212]

What if he’s great with his tongue and fingers and makes sure you cum

[AlienParasite]

@ManhattanMan1212 I guess I would keep dating? But as I mentioned not all is looks and sex. If a guy doesn't fit the type of personality I like I wouldn't feel ok dating him.

[ManhattanMan1212]

I understand that. Im 7 inches length and 4.8 inches thick. Is that a good size

[Asker]

The physical aspect is more important since that opens the door.

[Bananaman177]

You can raise your odds of finding a girlfriend by 2-5%, but if your overall score is below passing, chances are, a 2-5% raise isn't going to help you any bit at all.

If you're short or ugly or poor or you come from a broken home or a bad upbringing or if there's anything physically wrong with you, it doesn't matter how "fit" you are, girls will still avoid you like the plague. They'll roll their eyes at your big muscles and say, "Oh, he's just compensating."

[Bandit74]

I think it can help but face and height matter more and if you suck in those areas having muscles isn't going to make a difference. Also to a certain extent how aesthetic your physique looks is based on your skeletal structure and insertion points so you could have two guys with the same muscle mass but one could still look far more aesthetic than the other.

[front2back]

I can tell you as a guy who lifts more than my weight easily and had been lifting for years:
No. Women of course don't mind a more muscular physique, but ever other piece of the puzzle like your facial appearance, charm, social status, etc. Needs to be there.

And there is NO gym for the face.

[DizzyDesii]

It’ll work for having an attractive body but hopefully the guy has a cute face. Thats whats more important... and faves dont change easily

[Novacane]

Interesting! So does that mean facial looks are more important than physique looks?

[DizzyDesii]

@Novacane yes. A body can change with a workout. A face usually needs surgery. So yea its best the face already look good

[Novacane]

Facts! I guess going to the gym this whole time was pointless

[DizzyDesii]

@Novacane no because you still want them to be attractive overall. Just saying the face is the most important part

[Novacane]

That's true! just feels like if you don't have the face then you are at a disadvantage.

[DizzyDesii]

@Novacane i mean my babies gotta get one of our faces. He needs to have a cute face lol

[Novacane]

That's true! can't argue with that. Us uglies are just out of luck lol

[DizzyDesii]

@Novacane lmao no one is ugly. Possibly not as cute but def not ugly

[navyrobin]

@Novacane No, the face is not more important.

[DizzyDesii]

@navyrobin well he asked me, so to me it is. But we all have our own opinions so i’ll respect yours as well

[MissDawn7961]

yes and no ! no for - no girl wants to see a man all - sweaty , stinky , looking bad , fat , wet from sweat and ugly either - ! however , yes because she might like looking at him - flexing his muscles - to impress her as well ! thanks

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Every girlfriend I've ever had hated when I flexed my pecs. Chicks hate flexing.

[Petra150]

I'd say if you live a guy , and he's personality and everything else is fine , it doesn't hurt him having some muscle too, as long he doesn't look like a guy who have he's brain in he's over arms like Dwayne Johnson

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Women aren't attracted to fitness in today's society. Today women have a tendency to date across and up dominance hierarchy scales. Realistically women only consider the top 20% of men average and the top 2% extremely attractive.

There's no formula to getting women outside of having a lot of social influence, money, and potential to move up.

[SpeshalK19977]

I don’t think girls give a shit about looks as they are very non sexual

Maybe looks will help 1% out of 100, but girls care 99% about personality, something I lack,
And even tho I’m good looking, getting girls is very hard for me cos I don’t have good personality

[bamesjond0069]

Yes. Makes you feel better health and energy wise, feel more confident, and look better. Im 33 and i had a 19 year old tell me im way more physically fit than the average guys her age and im the most athletic of any guy she ever hooked up with. So yeah it seems to help quite a bit. I also feel strong and capable as fuck because i do mma so i know i can kick most peoples ass easy.

[Louistruman19]

How tall are you, how much do you weigh, and what's your body fat percentage?

[bamesjond0069]

@Louistruman19 im 5'10" around 165 and no idea but i have a 6 pack. Most guys have floppy arms, chicken legs and no six pack so you dont have to be a fitness magazine cover man to stand out from the crowd. Just always improve yourself little by little.

[TheAfrikan]

Going to the gym helps one to get fit and healthy plus attractive.
But if you want to get a girlfriend then do approach them basically through doing something you have got an interest in.
It can be going to the gym to meet them or walking to the park and approach them.

[JDavid25]

Well, it'll definitely get more women attracted to you if you stay consistent and start gettin a nice body.. But, that's usually a smal part of what women like or just the beginning.. It'll take time though..

[JosyJosy]

It can help you attract a girl, but you'll need more than a good body to keep the girl

[Vivaldi]

Like having a handsome face?

[JosyJosy]

@Vivaldi... sigh... look at what the others are posting... I'm sure you'll figure it out what I'm trying to say

[Vivaldi]

Unless a man has a handsome face, I don't think having muscle does much. Face is the most important one.

[JosyJosy]

@Vivaldi You didn't look close enough, I see

[Vivaldi]

Face matters the most. The rest matter less.

[JosyJosy]

@Vivaldi I give up. Just know that the answers are there, you just have to allow yourself to see them

[Vivaldi]

I don't have a good face but I am not older than 30 either. People on GAG dont even fucking know how to estimate one's age.

How do I look older than 30 when my hair and beard is too black? ↗

[Anonymous]

In a way maybe. It could maybe make you first impression better. I don't know what you look like.
But if your personality isn't great I doubt that the gym only is going to help you.

[Brian___1731]

No, sure the body might attract some but the aim should never be to attract people, it should be to improve yourself and increase your strength and confidence