When should I ask someone out once we start talking?

[Anonymous]

So I started messaging this girl since yesterday and only talked briefly. I was thinking of asking her out now so that way we get to know each other more in person rather than through texting. But the thing is that I don't want to rush things because I know that pushes most people away. But at the same time I don't want to take my time and then I'm too late. So how long should I wait to ask her out?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo I feel you, it's tough figuring out the timing with that. Personally I think a couple days of chatting is usually good before asking a girl out.

That way you've broken the ice a little, but it's still pretty new so it doesn't feel like it dragged on too long over text. And meeting up is always better to really get a sense of how you vibe in person.

I'd say like another day or two of casual back-and-forth messaging could work. Try slipping in some compliments too so she knows you think she's cool. Then when you ask, be chill about it - like "hey we should grab lunch/coffee sometime and chat some more."

If she seems interested still after that, she's probably down to meet. And if not, no biggie, you didn't wait too long. Better to take a chance fairly soon rather than waiting so long she loses interest, but also not rushing it the very next day ya know? Just feel it out and see how the chatting goes. Good luck man!

[Tharithi]

Do u like her? Or u just trying to get a girl since u are desperate

[Asker]

I know I am desperate, but I would genuinely like to get to know her better and would rather do that in person

[Tharithi]

U are desperate for any girl , not her. Hire a escort

[Asker]

I don’t want sex, I want a genuine connection with someone. Someone I can cuddle with, hold hands, go on dates, and someone I can get old with

[Tharithi]

Exactly u don’t want her. U want the attention. Don’t ever get into a relationship because u want to satisfy your needs , but get into a relationship because u wanna give the world to her. Or else it’s not gonna work. Love is about giving

[In_Trance]

As soon as you feel it's time