Should I give up trying to find a partner?

[cth2188]

I have a lot of beliefs and standards and I'm gonna be honest I don't feel like I'm going to find what I'm after - the future seems bleek.. I've accepted it , but it seems like there's a tad of hope , but 🤷🏽‍♀️. I've accepted my single life and next week will make 13 years.

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Has anyone accepted their reality when it comes to dating?

[Curi0us0ne]

If you don’t mind me asking, what are your beliefs and standards?

[cth2188]

Rather not disclose that because I don't want a debate on here

[Curi0us0ne]

You can message me if you’d like. I’m a pretty open and accepting person

[cth2188]

Nah not here to disclose that I'm stuck between crossroads now

[Curi0us0ne]

That’s cool.

Are you actively trying to find someone?

[cth2188]

No I'm not

[Curi0us0ne]

So I’m going to be disgustingly optimistic.

I think you’ll find the exact person you need.

Your young and I’m sure you’re attractive, don’t give up and remember you have a lot to offer

[cth2188]

I don't think I'll find her

[cth2188]

Things have changed with society since the pandemic

[Curi0us0ne]

Now you’re being gross lol

You’ll find her and when you do you better tell me so I can rub it in your face lol

Remember you project your thought. So be the bad b or good girl you want to be

[cth2188]

I'm not being gross it's the reality

[cth2188]

Finding a like minded partner is hard who shares the same beliefs

[Curi0us0ne]

I doubt that lol

There are people that act like they’re a married couple in the 50s to the to couples that are in a 24hr M&S relationship

I’m sure you’re just in a low part but I believe there’s someone out there for you

[cth2188]

There is no one who aligns with my beliefs that I came across yet and I date women

[cth2188]

Not on the same path or share the same beliefs in conversation

[Curi0us0ne]

lol why did you automatically think those couples were not in a same sex relationship?

Are you in the USA?

[cth2188]

Conferring to me

[cth2188]

Yes I am

[Curi0us0ne]

Have you tried FL?

[Curi0us0ne]

F**L****

[cth2188]

Not interested in dating g lost interest during covid-19

[cth2188]

Dating ^ I avoid dating

[cth2188]

I don't have time to weed through the dating market to find anyone or go through hoops or loops

[Curi0us0ne]

I think you just need to enjoy it

If you have made up your mind about this, I wish you the very best

[cth2188]

I'm good there and yes I have

[cth2188]

Too risky to date nowadays with everything going on - I asked my parents not to find me a partner or any friends

[Berethor]

You already have children, so you already fulfil the main purpose of having partner.

[cth2188]

Yes, as you do know, I don't date men

[cth2188]

Nor am I having anymore children that journey is over

[Staximus]

My standards are too high and I'm working on that haha

[cth2188]

Same, but not lowering mines

[CozyCoffin]

I haven't bothered in years, women don't pursue men most of the time, and I'm not the type of guy they would anyway.

[cth2188]

Maybe their gay or bi I'm just saying

[CozyCoffin]

I don't care what they are. The point is, I'm not wanted.

[cth2188]

I'm sorry

[Sparkie460]

There is a nice guy out there for you. When you stop looking for him he will find you

[cth2188]

You know I don't date men

[cth2188]

As I'm lesbian..

[Sparkie460]

That's right, I forgot. I apologize. Change it to nice woman out there and she will find you.

[cth2188]

It's OK thanks 😊

[Sparkie460]

Don't try to find her and let her find you

[cth2188]

I think I lost hope there too many beliefs and standards- that's can't be compromised

[Sparkie460]

Never lose hope 🙏

[cth2188]

Already did and covid-19 and a lot has changed how I view dating

[cth2188]

Beyond that I opted out of dating too oversexualized and too many fakes

[cth2188]

That was 13 years ago

[cth2188]

Been out and never looked back

[Squatting_Slav]

Keep trying, I would suggest enjoy the moments focus on purpose and life and it will find you

[cth2188]

Dating is garbage

[Squatting_Slav]

In what way?

[cth2188]

Oversexualized too many fakes

[cth2188]

Covid messed up the dating arena

[cth2188]

Beliefs and a lot of other things

[Jmmmfi4]

YEAH WE'RE IN VERY SIMILAR SITUATION... ID GIVE UP

[cth2188]

Where I'm at

[Zestyassmf1997]

Maybe your standards are just unrealistic.

[cth2188]

Their very realistic

[cth2188]

It's not changing

[Zestyassmf1997]

What are your standards?

[cth2188]

I'm not here to disclose that due to debate

[Zestyassmf1997]

I mean, your standards can’t be that realistic if you literally can’t find anyone who meets them. And it’s likely you know that’s the case, which is why you don’t want to share. Tell me, though, do you meet your own standards?

[cth2188]

I'm not obligated to share my personal beliefs and that applies to someone who approaches me for a potential relationship in which I will disclose that

[cth2188]

I just have standards and preferences in a partner that will need to be honored if not that person isn't right for me

[cth2188]

I have yet to find someone who aligns with me and is compatible beliefs and standard wise

[Zestyassmf1997]

So do you meet your own standards or not?

[cth2188]

Yes I do have yet to meet anyone who meets mines - won't move forward with them

[cth2188]

Complete waste of time there