Will I ever find partner?

[Anonymous]

Am I cooked as women if nobody wanted to date me in 27 years?
I know that I never been wanted truly, and i can feel it.
One guy said “you can feel and say openly that I’m not that much into you, but still want still sexual relationships with me? You have low standards”. And also he said I say too much negative things about men and other people in general. But I feel like, I’m just not pretty enough, and people try to find any excuses to not be with me. I still didn’t lost virginity cause two guys rejected me, even if they wanted me one time they didn’t continue our sexual relationships and left it undone. I don’t know, I kinda feel like I have autism or something and can’t control my thoughts and what I say. But everything I say it is what I truly think. And i feel like I’m always right that’s why people don’t like being around me cause people don’t like truth.

[HollyK21]

If you’re putting yourself through all these trauma-inducing situations with repeated failed attempts at dating to go along with it then to me that’s a sign to give it a rest. Take some time to heal what’s been done or said to you and figure out who you really are as not only a person but as a woman, that way you’ll have a better idea of what you’re looking for. If your self worth is on the floor at this point then that’s going to show itself in both the way you date along with the things you accept from men. It’s very concerning for a man to feel like he can openly degrade you with no repercussions.

[DishLady]

The guy is right. You need to show that you respect yourself and not just go for whatever happens to be available.

[Anonymous]

Or you might have to just admit/accept that you're kind of an a**hole. You're NOT right. You might not be wrong either. But having a viewpoint and deciding others "just don't like the truth" doesn't make you right.

You might not ever find a partner. At least not one that you'll hang onto. But in the meantime what you can do is take a long hard look at yourself and ask yourself why that is. Is it them? Or is it you. What can you do better. What would make you more "partner" material. This may not guarantee you anything, but you can improve your odds at least.

[Zack-Bann]

Honestly most girls that I knew who struggled with this growing up went through a similar journey


They eventually threw themselves into the gym, cross fit, pilates, all that stuff
Became unrecognizably hot and healthier in the mind thanks to the training


Eventually met a man who didn’t waste too much time proposing


It’s not rocket science
No point in throwing a pity party over the ones who didn’t want you
Just keep your head up and move onto those who do

[Anonymous]

I'm in a similar position as a male. I've never even gotten to the talking stage. I wish I could say it was because I was ugly or undesirable, but there is way too much evidence to the contrary. I know it is because of my poor social skills, and I believe I come off as intimading. You shouldn't give up hope yet. There is plenty of time for you to find someone.

[slatyb]

What are you doing to meet men? How do you look and dress?

[Asker]

Actually one of them my classmate and roommate, and other one was friend of my roommate. I wear simple cloth, jeans and sweaters, long sleeves, and I think I kinda look cute (I’m Asian), but probably other people don’t think so😭

[slatyb]

If you are hiding your figure in baggy clothes, men will assume that you aren't interested in their attention. Dress as you please, but if you aren't going to dress to show interest in meeting a man, you'll have to approach them.

[Staximus]

Sounds like you just don't have any social skills