Is my life over? Am I loser?

[OmgNoname]

I'm 25, I have a decent job, got a masters in engineering, I'm fit and not bad looking.

However, I'm still single infact I have never had a girlfriend. Despite the lack of trying. Women don't seem too enthusiastic to talk to me, I don't get any matches online too ( I'm brown man by the way). I just like a loser.

Am I screwed, too unattractive for love?, or is my ethnicity a problem? How long do I wait? Half my life is over already?

[Kelley1]

I cannot answer your question with seeing photos. Insert ibb. co or imb. co into your web browser or else Google "ibb. co image", upload 2 or 3 images and send me the links such as ibb. co/PmKjfGT which is a link showing a photo of me.

My guess is you are seeking girls above your league, likely 7's or above and claim girls that are 6's or below don't count even when they are defintely interested.

As references Kamila Valieva (top 0.0001%) is an 11, movie stars and kpop girls (top 0.5%) are 10's. College pom pom girls (top 2%) are 9's and I am (top 15%) an 8. 7's are top 25% and 5s or top 50%

[Kelley1]

Remove the space from ibb. co/PmKjfGT

[OmgNoname]

I usually don't share pics, but I do want to understand where I stand. So here you go : https://imgur.com/a/FOaMVBK

[Kelley1]

You have outstanding bilateral symmetry, a primary characteristic of good looks and an indicator of good health in all species. You have smooth clear skin, a youthful appearance, good facial features, and a desirable body shape. The only possible drawback would be your height and you don't appear to be below 5'7" which is my height. You would attract me if you are 4 or more inches taller than me and I am a very choosy 8.

It is not possible that you don't attract girls unless you will not accept less than college pom pom girls or their equals. Even if you are 5'6" you will attract 7's and 7's are cute and pretty enough for 80% to 90% of men in your age group.

The only real hindrance I see is if you chasing after waitresses instead of college girls or the college girl type. Typically waitresses, especially if from low income families, are not comfortable around the more educated guys. The exceptions being college girls and their type working part time as waitresses; and, of course, Hooters girls but attracting them would be a stretch.

[b_lova]

While women like what they consider attractive men most care more about men who can make them laugh and good providers. You sound like confidence maybe your issue or that you are seeking the wrong type of woman for your style/personality.

Also you are not a loser. If you feel unattractive start with your hygiene and then work on a different style that you like. Hair and clothes can be influential in a woman's decision to date you.

Look for women who have common hobbies as you. Nothing worse than trying to meet a woman in an environment that is not your style.

With all that having been said, Be yourself!

[BadApple69]

You are not a loser. Only you think like one. Stop with the negative thinking.
Question what are you doing to find girls? Give me a list.
The modern day male thinks he can shop for a girl online like you are buying your underwear on Amazon. It’s not that easy. Online you are competing with every lying POS guy out there who claims to look like a young Brad Pitt. So please let me know where you are looking and I’ll give you some pointers.

[OmgNoname]

Hey man, thanks for the advice. I am trying to join more societies and clubs. I do frequent bars but I do fare too well there.

[OmgNoname]

Any tips on what I can do to improve or where I could meet more people?

[BadApple69]

Bars are not where I would be looking for love… but it’s a good place to learn how to deal with rejection. Which is a necessary skill.
I have found that online is best BUT… not dating sites and don’t look for love. Look for friendships.
I once put an add on a website that I was looking for a woman’s opinion. I got about a dozen replies… out of those dozen I’m still friends with 2 of them and actually dated one of them. When you are on a dating site you are competing against a million guys like I said before. Where ever you search be honest with them about everything. Honesty is something that attracts women. Don’t get me wrong… they can be as shallow as men looking for that hot male bod and pretty face. But the ones worth keeping are looking for honesty and a good personality.
For the past 20 years I have found girls online and I mean a lot of girls. Friends with all of them to this day in fact just started dating one girl who I have called my friend for over 10 years. Met her online… but I was with someone else at the time, but I kept her close.
So the big point I’m trying to make is making friends is easier then dating, it can have similar results and girls are out there who also want males as friends. Just look at this site… girls want males to talk with, to learn from and the same can be said for men.

[IslaTheWitch]

Everything starts with you.

Take a critical look at yourself, at your personality. Are you shy? Backed off? Do you have problems joining or leading a conversation? What about your sense of humor? Do you like to laugh? Can you make people laugh? Or maybe you are the storyteller?

What you look like is important for a short moment. When people get to know you, your personality is more important. Focus on your strengths and build a healthy confidence in them.

And no one promised that by the age of 25, you would have a bunch of girlfriends.

[OmgNoname]

Thanks for the advice, I do agree with what I said. I just don't want to be a bitter man in a few years. Without having experienced love. I guess that's what I am afraid so.

[IslaTheWitch]

You won't find love without finding yourself first

[Tim2nice]

Ok, I’m sorry to be blunt with you, but you’re probably doing something wrong. It could be that you’re not looking in the right places or your approach doesn’t work. Do you smile when you meet or talk to women? Do you know how get into a small conversation with them long enough to be able to ask for their phone number? Do you have any hobbies which would help you meet like minded women? The women are out there and probably thinking where you men are.

[slatyb]

Get some counseling. You can find a partner at any age. What have you done to try to meet one?

[Dnice1]

You're still young finding love takes time believe me I know. I'm sure there is someone out there for you. She just hasn't found you yet.

[OddBeMe]

Obviously your current strategy isn’t working. So changes are needed.

[Kingofkings1992]

Nah. You’re good. All of us humans are fucked in one way or another

[Anonymous]

I am doing much better after turning 35. Also half your life is 40 not 25.

[Anonymous]

The Panic age