If someone was very attractive, but had a toxic personality, would you still date them?

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QuickToAsk · Accepted Answer

No way. And please, please tell me this is just a hypothetical question. So many young women your age royally mess up their lives doing that. They always wish they could go back & change things but by then it's insanely too late. Talking turns into dates, dates turn into sex, sex turns into pregnancy, pregnancy turns into a fatherless child, lifelong mental scars ensue. It happens all too often but no one ever thinks it'll happen to them. They always think it'll be someone else; not them. Don't risk it. Most of what I see on Youtube is videos about young women who are addicted to toxic traits in bad boys & how it ruined their lives; they lose their minds & welcome pregnancy, thinking they'll change the dude into a good man & father, while still keeping the sexy traits that attracted her in the first place, but it won't happen. He'll be gone. He'll be already on to the next woman to impregnate & then dump. Don't become a statistic by chasing a vice. It will never be worth it. Again, I hope this was just a hypothetical question, but looking at your age, that's the prime time for bad boys to strike & ruin your future life & reputation for decades to come. It's. Just. That. Serious. I try to help out where I can. A casual date with a toxic person today can lead to tons of problems later. Tons.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

see this is where people mess up number one the person is toxic so that's a no number two people look at the outside of a person before they look at the inside that's a no no no no LOL

I need to look deep in those eyes I need to feel their heartbeat I need to hear exactly who they are and understand them as a person not what they look like not what they sound like but who they truly are

I'm not in that much of a hurry to put myself in a position that I'm not going to like and I know that is a downhill road from there I want to be happy and there's a better ways to go about it

Minahh · Accepted Answer

Heck no as my relationship coach said even if he was from gold and had a 20cm cock it's not worth it. Not as if it mattered to me anyway as a domme but yeah she's totally right. When you prioritize your peace, self care and a man should add to your life if he doesn't you don't need luggage that stresses the shit out of you sprinkle sprinkle

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

No way. I say that but I did date a covert narcissist in college at one point. But generally speaking, no lol.

Summeroflove · Answer

Hell no… Looks are one thing. But if someone is nasty on the inside. They will make you absolutely miserable

ManOnFire · Answer

I already did that and it was one of the worst decisions I ever made. Not only was she toxic but she is the type of person who tries to control groups of weak minded people so that they'll always be loyal to her, and she can use them whenever she wants to go against someone.

coachTanthony · Answer

Maybe smash that is about it.

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

I'm not dating at all. I don't have female friends, at least not IRL. Online dating is a waste of time bc who wants to create a profile just to be ignored or spammed with bots? Or worse finally connect with someone only to find out they don't want to date, they want to sell their OnlyFans subs?

Dating is a huge waste of time and money, I'm getting out of a bad marriage and don't see the point of being anything other than single. Nobody has my back, never will, and the dating pool treats men like trash. Why waste my time?

So no, I'd leave in the middle of the date if she displayed toxic traits but there's no dates happening so it's a moot point.

tremendousfern · Answer

Personality wins out over everything else. Obviously looks is what piques initial interest, but if I couldn't stand a hot girl's personality it would ruin any interest I had in her.

The reverse is true too. If a girl is pretty plain looking but is an absolute sweetheart, then it would make me more attracted to her.

Biancam13 · Answer

No. When I was younger, I used to find mean hot guys (the rude player type who isn't nice to girls) attractive. But that was because of my own low self esteem and trauma; I was seeking validation. But after maturing a bit, I do not want those guys anymore. Even if they're my "type" looks wise.

Being kind, mature, funny and respectful is the most attractive combination. Even better if they're hot.

hahahmm · Answer

No. it's like asking, "If a lake looks nice but you know there's toxic chemicals in it or zombie sharks, would you jump in?"

Sometimes we need self control in life to avoid problems and seek out what is in our best long term interest. Want to see how people look who didn't develop that skill? Look at old homeless drug addicts for example.

BazookaTrouper · Answer

A toxic personality is an automatic disqualifier to me. I can feel physical attraction to a woman, but if I either pick up red flags off of them or know she's a real POS I won't giver her a chance.

I knew of 2 women who I not just found attractive, but was infatuated with them for years (separately, not both at the same time). It was difficult, but eventually I overcame it. When I got to learn what they were like personality and behavior wise, my brain pumped the brakes and told my dick "ain't no way".

TenderFantasy · Answer

Attraction to me, or at least from what I've learned, is subjective.  And yes, I did just that when I was younger lol.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Before yeah I defo would, but now nah. I don't ever want to feel heartbreak that deep ever again lol.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

I don't see any positives just negatives. Emotionally, mentally, physically impacted negatively. Your sleep cycle and eating habits could be negatively impacted. Could become distant with friends and family. Could lose your job. Could end up turning to alcohol, drugs, food, self harming etc as a coping mechanism. In other words turn into a downward spiral. To that I say no thank you.

Staximus · Answer

There was this girl who was kind of a regular at the bar I worked at. She was 6 feet tall and beautiful, my manager said she was a model. When she got drunk she turned into the wicked witch of the West and I wouldn't fuck her with somebody else's dick.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Absolutely not. Plus, what if their toxic personality includes being bad to me? That's not ever going to slide once we see through the physical beauty & see what the "beauty" underneath looks like (AKA ugly heart).

ImHere22 · Answer

Nope. Because that so called good looking person is now as attractive as a hazardous waste container filled with used diapers.  Personality makes or breaks a relationship

Drew-1990 · Answer

No way I would, looks may draw me in but personality is what keeps me around. A toxic girl is not worth any amount of looks. You can be a 10 and I would say no.

AManOnTheWeb · Answer

Nope. You can't have sex all day long. You actually have to spend time with this person with your clothes on. If they're miserable to be around, it's just not worth the stress.

lightbulb27 · Answer

anyone can go on a date or two. but I see toxic personality now, heck no, it's a no. back then (your age), I wouldn't know a cream pie if it hit me in the face.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

No, I make a relationship with a mind, not appearance. So if his mind is twisted or toxic, there is no reason to stay, not even a reason to start the the relationship...

DevikaButts95 · Answer

How can they be attractive if they have a toxic personality?

AndreaTwo2 · Answer

No, definitely not, I would steer well clear!

selfish-and-cruel · Answer

Life is too short to be stuck with toxic people. I wouldn't.

Radiate143 · Answer

No, why would I do that? If they had a toxic personality, I probably wouldn't even find them attractive to begin with, no matter how good looking they were.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Been there done that, probably would again I get limerence easily. So it wouldn't be a objective choice really.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Hell no. I’ve been with too many attractive yet toxic women. Ended up taking one to court. I’ve been alone for 9 years now by choice. Women aren’t worth it. They’re all the same.

Fuentes · Answer

Why u sneak dissing me again? Lol  JK

Katebfun · Answer

NOPE> I've learned from past lessons to love myself more then them. I don't settle for scraps.

Sameone · Answer

It's happened to me and it's was worst experience so from me taket as advice don't keep dating because the person is not going to change his self for you is just going to hertin you

Shgshshdg · Answer

No. I want to date a man who has a good personality and face/body I find attractive.

82lynx · Answer

From my point of view, anyone with a toxic personality loses physical attractiveness very quickly.

Paris13 · Answer

Dated Plenty and Many But Not Toxic Kind. lol I would Never Pick That. xxoo

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Looks mean nothing to me if the person has a toxic personality.

robhazelnut · Answer

Please pardon my vernacular; hell to the naw.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Date? - yes.  Start a family? Move in with? - No

JacobJordan · Answer

No. That is why a lot of women today are single and miserable. They are attractive but they are despicable human beings

RingOfFire · Answer

Can't answer because I don't know what a "toxic personality" is. Some people like some personality types and others don't.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. I can manage stress as it affects my mental health.  I seriously need to be at peace nearly all the time and a person that's causing me trouble just can't be in my life.

Iamherrrr · Answer

Nope. Some women would because they like to have the attractive man that all the girls want. He cheats on her but still comes home to her at night, you know type of thing. I'll always choose my peace

Fireguy17 · Answer

Not a chance. Someone's personality is way more important than their looks.

tzdc21 · Answer

Beauty means absolutely nothing without character. It means nothing.

Tina19 · Answer

Looks doesn't matter for me how they behave with me is most important

AngelLily · Answer

Nope I would Find them unattractive based on personality,

Phoenix98 · Answer

Hmm 🤔 no I’ve kinda been down that road already and it’s not worth it lol at all.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope. Personality is the larger part of attraction for me, so if that sucks I don't care if she looks like Venus.

douride2 · Answer

I try to avoid toxic people. I would never date one.

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

I like toxic people, so the answer would be a resounding yes.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Nope, I will never be with someone that hurts me or my daughter ever again

nawtee_me · Answer

Nope, I probably would not make more than two weeks before I would not be able to stand being around them.

exitseven · Answer

The problem is that usually when you figure out a person is toxic you are into the 3rd or 4th date. Sometimes it is too late by then.

MrMore1 · Answer

DEFINITELY NO, BIG FUCKING NO. 
 beauty is ephemeral, kindness is forever

bolverk · Answer

No, I would not date them, that they are physically attractive (8 - 10) would not make up for a toxic personality, I'd rather date that are pretty (5-7) with comfortable personality.

Wiredone · Answer

No I would definitely not date someone who was toxic. I don't care how beautiful she was

Slapmynuts · Answer

Absolutely not! Been down that road before!😉

DagonbroughtMehere · Answer

"As long as an enemy is judged solely by His appearance, His victory is assured."

msc545 · Answer

In the past I might have done this once or twice. Much to my regret. Never again!

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

No way. I'm smarter than this. That's one of the easiest way to get your life ruined.

Paul09 · Answer

No way , never. Not worth your time. It's ridiculous to be with someone just for their looks.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. If the persons annoying, then I’m annoyed and I don’t want to annoy anyone either. Moving along ….

Stella98_ · Answer

No sounds like good way end at the morgue or prison.

justabuddy · Answer

I dated a narcissist once. Looks is not worth the pain.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Nope. I'd still hit it tho lol

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