Loving a wrong guy will make a girl lose her character, values, personality and destroys her full potential and future. Agree?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, this statement is absolutely true

No, this isn't true (explain)

[Kelley1]

No! That is what I did. I lost my virginity as a freshman to big man on campus (smart, hot, and rich) and it didn't take him long. I knew and was told what he was like, but I said he will be different with me. He wasn't. He dated me for a couple of months and dumped me for the next pretty and foolish young thing. So now I am a soiled girl.

However, that didn't destroy me. Certainly that lowered my sexual market value. However, it is not like there is an abundance of virgins that I must compete against. Therefore, although it lowered my sexual market value, it was not demolished and I believe, it is still fairly high; moreover, it didn't change my character, values, and personality.

[Lliam]

"Sexual market value"? Guys who think virginity is of value aren't worth any woman's respect.

[Kelley1]

@Lliam Low value men that don't are not good enough for me.

[Anonymous]

Depends on what one means by "wrong guy".

If you are talking about a player, abuser, user, etc. then yes it is a situation that'll drag her down to the bottom / dregs of her life rather than being of any benefit.

If you're talking about a good guy who say just graduated university & has a large student loan - a "bad" thing to some - then not necessarily unless he's incapable of managing his money.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I can understand any person potentially finding their character, values, and I'd throw in mental health damaged by falling in love with the wrong person, but I think the ultimate onus still has to be on them.

My thoughts are not coming from a callous place designed to be harsh and dismissive or victim-blaming in any shape or form. It's for her own well-being that she starts to recognize that she always had the choice all along to abandon or stay true to her character and values. It's also needed for her to heal and start finding better partners and liberate herself from a form of self-imposed shackles.

This reminds me a bit of a scene from Kingdom of Heaven:

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Same case if a man in this scenario came to me and said he treated his woman poorly because of this and that, perhaps because he was abused or neglected as a child, or even suffered an intolerable ex of his own, or whatever other reasoning for which I am not absent sympathy. Yet I'd give him much the same advice that he must own up to his own decisions if only for his own well-being, so that he can begin to have some chance to grow and not just stay stuck as he is.

[Anonymous]

No, that's a copout for women that want to have an excuse to behave any way they like.

Even some good women will make a mistake with a guy. But the bad ones do not have the good sense to LEARN from these mistakes. A good woman knows her worth and will rise above these mistakes. Bad women Wil remain in the muck and make excuses. A GOOD woman would rather be alone than settle for a man of low character. A good woman has self respect. So while she can be temporarily tricked by a man, it's just temporary. And she learns from it and doesn't fall for the same trick twice. Because a good woman knows her worth. Her father helped instill that in her. So she knows she's ENOUGH without another man telling her that.

[NamerOfStars]

Not in the least. If you lose those things, you lose them because of your own actions and decisions. Now I'll admit that falling for the wrong person can place you in a position to make those poor decisions and actions, but it's not inherent; the choices are all still yours.

[Djaay]

The reason women conclude this anomaly is basically bc they're so emotionally driven and trying to solve anything with an emotionall ineptitude never works. So that gives both to such a question as this. Truthfully , it's still on u regardless through your own position , decisions and actions .

[loveslongnails]

I realize that a great many people believe "you don't get to choose who you love", but I'm not one of them. When you 'think' you love someone and they turn out to be a horrible person, or the wrong person, you can choose to walk away.

You have to "allow" someone who is a bad person to influence you to be like they are. I'm more inclined to believe that someone didn't have a good character or values to begin with and that's why they could be easily swayed.

[IslaTheWitch]

It depends on how much she believes in herself and how much she wants to live the life she is choosing for herself.

[Billlewis]

I would disagree with this position, simply because women have so many more choices, options and fallback measures they can rely on if their first choice doesn't pan out.

[TenderFantasy]

Not always though. If she really loved her ex (like I did) and wanted to make things work, it would be harder to move on from that. Before my last ex, it took me a while (maybe even two years give or take) to try and go out there again. It depends on how hurt the person is or how much effort they put into their last relationship and how disappointed they were. Also, I feel this depends on age. Of course, younger women are going to have more choices. It's just sadly natural because most people do end up either in a relationship, are married or are happily single and don't want to date anymore, they've been had/spent with that type of thing.

[Asker]

Even though, girls are more attached once they are in love with any guy and find it harder to leave even if they are in a toxic relationship. This can set back a girl in many ways

[Billlewis]

@TenderFantasy. True. If she really falls for him hard, or makes a major emotional investment, that could happen.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, picking the wrong man can destroy your life.

[SolitarySolace]

If that were true than all women have none of those things. And they don’t. So I guess you’re right.

[LazerBean]

Not always, but usually yes.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Not if she isn't insane.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I have seen it happen, but its because afterwards they stereotype all men, or because they can't get over the first guy, and either is insanity.

[jaskin777]

Yes agree

[Minahh]

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[Makro00]

You are right. 😘