Ladies, can you ever hate a guy you use to loved and block him forever?

[Jamesdann]

Ladies i have a question, can you really hate a guy that you used to be closed with and be romantically involved with, and blocked him forever, suppose the guy was just overreacting on some things , he never abuse you, he never cheated on you, he did loved and care for you, it was just a miscommunication and the guy did apologized for his actions, can you really ghosted him, disgusted by him, calls him a psychopath and block him forever , with giving a chance to reconcile and work it out?

[Anonymous]

I don’t have to hate the guy, blocking just means I’m very much done and want to be left alone. Some guys just don’t know when to stop, they will keep finding excuses to reach out or think I’m only angry and need some space. No, if I block you and not even just unfriend, that means our ties are officially cut.

[Jamesdann]

That is a really good insight, so here is my situation, i told her i like her, she said she had no interest, telling me to find other options, she ghosted me, blocked me, yell at me, i moved on, then after a while unblock me, telling me she misses me, asking me if i had moved on, i said yes, she blocks me again, yell at me, telling me to F off, so you can see, how this is really messed up, i don't know if its really over or not

[Opinion Owner]

Is there more to the story? Judging by her reaction I would say it is over but it just seems like a harsh response to you simply saying you’re into her. I couldn’t imagine yelling, cussing, blocking a guy just because he confessed interest, I would make some space between us so he can move on but I’m not going to be mad or punish him. Doesn’t make sense.

[Jamesdann]

Exactly i was thinking, like i have never done something that would push her to the point of yelling, cussing at me, all i did was telling her upfront that i was into her, you know we have even kiss, it was wonderful i must say, but the whole time, i had been gaslighted, i really love her you know, i would never understand what would make her to say something that would really hurt me intentionally or unintentionally, like i understand we all make mistakes, but it was just an innocent miscommunication you know, like I'm not perfect either, i may have have overreact or being desperate at some point, who doesn't, you know before she had unblocked me and telling me she misses me, she had once threaten me and threaten to report me to the police or what not, i had feared for my life and career, when i had done nothing to abuse, nor stalk , nor harassed her in any way, i was really into her and at the same time it really hurts me to the core friend.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, well if things are as you say then that is definitely an unwarranted reaction and behavior! I cannot imagine how a person would react so badly just to a guy saying he likes them unless she is bad at expressing herself. Anyway, even if she were to come back again I wouldn’t let her. It’s ok to love her but love yourself more and respect your own boundaries. There are limits to the disrespect and only so much you can tolerate, I would just be done and miss her from a distance.

[Jamesdann]

That is exactly how i am feeling friend, like i can understand if she would just get angry for a while and then try to work things out, but i just can't imagine from someone who i am so closed with saying and behaving like that, i can understand if she had some problems but you know it is uncalled for, i have been ghosted and ghosted that i have literally became numb from her action, she showed interest i pursued her, and when i showed feelings she became cold blocked me, ghosted me, i moved on and became devastated at the same time, i might tried reaching out through other means maybe that's my mistake for reaching out but who wouldn't right, when you got ghosted out of the blue, when she unblocked me, i asked her why she blocked me, im curious, then she says that i didn't listen to her nor take it slow and that there was another guy she had been seeing and hanging out and thats why she blocked me, and then she says that things did'nt work out between them , there was something missing in him, and she misses me, and now i've felt like such a fool, i think i'm just the rebound guy here, i did fell for her, i was traumatized, deeply hurt and i feel like such a fool for continuing to pursued her, i wanted to move on my friend, its really hard.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry about that dude. There may be more on her end that she didn’t explain and lack of explanation or understanding is what has you so upset now. I guess if she can’t be bothered to be decent and give you a proper goodbye then she isn’t a loss. You want people in your life where it’s just as important to them not to lose you as it is vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Lots of girls do that.

[Jamesdann]

Do they end up coming back or they just move on?

[Opinion Owner]

Most move on.