Why do I always end up attracted to men I hate?

[Anonymous]

I get over exes faster than men I hate. There’s a guy I had as a lab partner last year for an extended project last and I hated him, we fought 24/7, he honestly was a bad person in his personal life from what I could see, beyond that he was awkward, and had no interest in me. Physically he was attractive but aside from that I hated him and ranted about that man all the time.

Since it's been so long I have to hold myself back from bringing him because I still think about him but it a not even hate he's just so attarctive. Sometimes we see each other in the sci buildings and I wonder if he also feels that tension. I do this with any attraactive guy I claim to hate. This is the one I'm stuck in now but it's happens in the past too (at times it's gone on for years), I want to stop it's delusional and inconvenient to always be stuck on men I have no reason worrying about. How do I stop I know it's weird and sounds boarderline mentally ill?

[FunkyMonkee]

You're a girl! It's par for the course!
I can't TELL YOU how many women I've met over the past 40 years who whine and cry about how their boyfriend is so mean and abusive to them but, they REFUSE to leave him because, "I LOVE him!!". Okay, suffer! Or, if they DO leave him, they go straight for the next guy that will treat them just as bad, if not worse!
I'm told women have some kind of radar to help them pick the right guy but, from what I've been seeing, it's set in reverse! They run for the hills when they get a chance to be with a nice guy, like me!! "I CAN'T be your girlfriend!! You won't beat me up and treat me like shit!!" But, guess who becomes their emotional tampon when he DOES abuse her? They sure know where my shoulders are, then!!

[NamerOfStars]

You don't stop- you simply tell your endocrine system that it is YOU, not your brain, that determines your actions.

Then you live up to that.