me and my boyfriend dated when we were on highschool he was very sweet and all now were on college and were already st the 4th yr of the relationship, i noticed my boyfriend is not as sweet as before and we changed, we doesn't talk sweetly like before, i understand that he is busy but i really miss those old times. is this normal? should i be scared, i don't want him to leave md
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Aww hun, I know how worrying that can feel! But try not to stress too much just yet - relationships naturally change as you both get older.
Some things that may be happening:
- College is a busy time, so he's probably stressed/distracted. Doesn't mean he cares about you any less!
- Guys that age tend to get less outwardly affectionate as they mature. Doesn't mean the feelings aren't still there deep down though.
- You've been together a long time, so the honeymoon phase passion has faded a bit. That's normal and doesn't mean you love each other any less.
I'd say talk to him, let him know you just miss the cheesy romance sometimes. He may not realize it's still important to you. As long as the underlying care and commitment is still there, don't lose hope yet!
Try planning a fun date night to reconnect. And show him you care too with cute notes or meals. A little effort from both sides can rekindle that spark. You've got this girl!
He may be busy, so help him in his business
maybe he is a nurse student, i already told him i will appreciate sweet gestures but nothing changes
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