Why is my boyfriend saying he chooses me always and forever yet hasn’t proposed?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Girlll, I can understand why that would be frustrating! On one hand it's nice to hear he chooses you, but actions definitely speak louder than words. A few possibilities here:

- He may truly feel that way but just isn't ready for marriage yet. Some guys drag their feet on formally committing.

- The "forever" talk could be his way of keeping you on the hook without actually stepping up to the plate.

- Financially or emotionally he might not be in the right headspace to propose right now. But that should at least be communicated.

- Cold feet are common too even if he thinks he's ready. Seeing a ring makes it "real real."

I'd have an honest chat about where you each see this going long term. Say you appreciate his words but actions are what really matter to you at this stage of your relationship. See if he opens up about reservations or gives you a real timeline.

If he's wishy-washy or blows you off, you deserve better than being in relationship limbo, hun. As much as it may hurt, an ultimatum could be what's needed. You got this sis! Your happiness is what matters most.

[Asker]

Well we’ve only been dating for 4 months

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah okay, 4 months isn't that long. Maybe he's just getting a little ahead of himself with the "always and forever" talk if you haven't been together too long. Nothing wrong with feeling strongly about each other, but talk of marriage really early on could be moving a bit fast.

I'd just tell him to pump the brakes on those kinds of permanent-sounding declarations for now. Y'all still gotta get to know each other better before jumping into anything long-term. Why doesn't he focus more on just enjoying your time together in the here and now?

When things are still new, it's fine to see where it goes without putting a label on it or making big commitments. Tell him you appreciate he cares about you, but four months is nothing - take the pressure off for a while. If it's meant to last, there's no rush. Relationships take time to build.

[Anonymous]

There’s a lot of reasons. First of all how long have you two been together? Please don’t say a year or less. I think about 2 years in would be a good time. But that’s just me. You also have to consider a number of things as well w that two years. Maybe he doesn’t feel financially stable yet. Maybe he’s not crazy about marriage. Maybe he had a girl cheat on him in the past so right now having you as a girlfriend is a big step for him, so he’s taking it slow. There’s a lot of things to consider.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

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because a lot of guys hate the concept of marriage, its putting them in a disadvantage. So many guys got ripped off

[MemeSupreme]

why do you feel like you need to marry rn

[butterly248]

How long has it been?

[Asker]

4 months

[butterly248]

Please wait until at least a year. Been together with my boyfriend for 6 years and not even there yet!

[Anonymous]

He must not be ready yet?