Is approaching men considered masculine behavior?

[Anonymous]

by nature, men are designed to pursue, chase, be proactive, much more goal driven , assertive than women. if a woman takes on such a role, would she be too un feminine?

[Summeroflove]

No lol. Don’t listen to the idgets. If you like someone make your move or limit your options. Also I don’t like the idea of “chasing” someone. Either someone’s inreeeted or they’re not. I’m not going to chase someone who isn’t interested and you shouldn’t either.


Don’t waste time on people playing games or who aren’t interested. Don’t play games yourself.

[RavVid]

You chat men up and make it apparent you are not the kind of girl that calls the police if a man exhales towards you.

Some girls have me given openings to ask them out that I could've driven a MACK truck through. I think that way is better.

[IslaTheWitch]

If I believed it I wouldn't be married until now, lol...

Sometimes waiting for men to take an action will make you wait a lifetime :D

[Avicenna]

No, and women generally do it differently than men anyway

[SotiCoto]

I'm not going to answer that question.
Rather I'm going to advise you stop thinking like that. Whether something is "considered masculine" or not should not be a factor in whether you want to do it or not. Go with what you want to do, rather than socially assigned gender roles.

[Asker]

then you're gonna see all the men on here complaining about how masculine or feminist women are nowadays. or compalining about how no woman wants to be a stay home wife

[Anonymous]

"by nature, men are designed to pursue, chase, be proactive, much more goal driven , assertive than women."

Oh no, the feminists are going to burn you at the stake for acknowledging those facts.

But to your question, no it doesn't make a woman unfeminine to show interest in a man.

[Asker]

it is masculine because you're taking the lead. taking charge is a manly job

[HighValue]

No. There is nothing wrong with a woman initiating things. It doesn't make her masculine to be the one to ask the man out.

[Asker]

taking the lead is masculine. femininity is supposed to be passive

[DryGermanGuy]

No and quite frankly more woman should approach men, so this sort of question does not even arise anymore.

[BarryLiverstone]

Maybe in the short term, but we daily can take on masculine and feminine roles / energy to accomplish things. As we live in a society I think it’s better to flow between these then to worry about always being one or the other. Does that make sense?

[BoopBoopBeep]

No there's 4 billion women on the planet, I'm not chasing any of them.

[Berethor]

Yea it masculine behavior, but many men don't mind if a woman is approaching them.

[Juxtapose]

No lol, initiation is not something owned exclusively by men and shame on anyone who thinks that.

[Asker]

feminine women do not initiate , take lead. Femininity is supposed to be passive.

[spartan55]

@asker
That's not true. The days of women showing up and expecting the guy to do all the facilitating are gone.

[Asker]

@spartan55

well thats the same reason why men are complaining about feminism and how masculine women are nowadays.

[spartan55]

@asker
That's a completely separate argument.

[Juxtapose]

There is absolutely nothing about having two x chromosomes that presents you from initiating. That is purely a cultural phenomenon.

[Asker]

@spartan55

its not a separate argument. you can't just expect women to be masculine when it suits you and feminine when it suits your best interests

[Asker]

@juxtapose

there's also absolutely nothing about having two x chromosomes that insists that she must be a feminine stay home wife either.

[spartan55]

@asker showing interest in a guy is not masculine, that's absurd. It's not to suit my chosen interest, it's to learn if she is willing to put in the work too.

[Asker]

@spartan55

showing interest takes a certain type of boldness that is more common in men than women.

[spartan55]

@asker why would a guy approach a woman that shows zero interest? It's not because he's 'not man enough' to let her know, or chase her. It's just not worth it. Just showing up and looking good is NOT good enough. I will definitely put in the work necessary to date/get into a relationship /maintain a healthy relationship. All day long everyday. But if that isn't reciprocated by the woman of interest I will be gone to find one that does.

[Juxtapose]

I never said anything about stay at home women.

[Asker]

@spartan55

showing interest as the "first move" takes a certain type of boldness, assertiveness that feminine women do not have. Boldness, assertiveness are masculine qualities.

now, if a man approaches a woman. she shows interest, this is not masculine of her. because reciprocating interest is completely different from taking a risk and boldly approaching a man

[Jersey2]

I think in the past, yes. But not now as things have changed. If she wants him, she needs to say something.

[BigD214]

I would personally never have a problem with being pursued. I've always been an assertive man and have pursued what I've desired. I always tell people to believe in themselves enough to at least attempt to acquire what they want.

[Pohjolan]

No, approaching someone and having a conversation is basic socialising.

Or its just as masculine as when you approach other women.

[SunnyRS]

No, I don't think so.
It shows she is confident in what she wants and I love a confident woman.

[Anonymous]

No jesus.. trust me , men would be so relived if you guys make the first move

[jahaims]

No, it's how you go about it

[NathanDavis]

bullshit

[spartan55]

No, she wouldn't.

[Jamie05rhs]

No; not at all.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Yes it is

[OtterMan68]

not at all

[OddBeMe]

Co soldered by whom?

[war_daddy]

yes it is