Can someone advice me?

[Anonymous]

I'm a young girl and I joined this app recently.. I need some advice from older people. Do older guys like younger girls that much? I've met a guy and he's older than me by some years, he's really sweet with me and he acts a little too kind that I started thinking he only likes me because I'm younger. I really like him but I'm also a bit afraid because i dont want him to like me only because im younger and unexperienced, I don't know how to proceed from now on.😓

[BonzoInBitburg]

Take your time and don't rush things. If he tries to isolate you from your friends, run away. If he gets along with your friends in a social setting, that's a green flag.

[Asker]

He likes to make sure I only talk with him and I don't hide anything and sometimes he's getting mad when I don't do as he says. But then he's so sweet I feel guilty that I keep seeing him but I can't help but give in when he's so affectionate.

[BonzoInBitburg]

He shouldn't get mad when you don't do what he says. Sounds sketchy.

[Asker]

I belive he's scared to lose me? that's what he told me. I feel bad about myself but he helps with my daddy issues a lot and I can't let go.

[firenine909]

Not all older guys but there’s definitely some who’d like girls like you.


You have to check to see whether he has romantic feelings for you or if just sexual

[Asker]

I'm getting mixed signals. He likes seeing my body and he always compliments then he says he can't control the things he'd want to do with me, then he tells me my body doesn't matter and he loves me genuinely for who I am and for my sweet personality.. then he gets mad at me for not doing things he asked for.

[firenine909]

What has he asked you for? If I had to guess I think he sees you more sexually and fetishizes you but I’d have to hear what he’s asked of you

[Asker]

things like to not talk with specific people, to not wear some clothes and when we text to send him nudes so he can look at them when we're not together.

[firenine909]

He doesn’t want you talking to specific people because he wants you to only be interested in him (a little possessive). What types of clothes doesn’t he want you to wear?

Send him nudes? Yeah he thinks of you really only sexually. If you want a sugar daddy and to fuck older guys go for it but otherwise I’d stay far away from him since he definitely views a girl like you highly sexually

[Asker]

Skirts, dresses and so on.
I don't want a sugar daddy nor to fuck with older guys I just wanted some of his attention and love, I also likes when he praised me.

[firenine909]

I think he doesn’t want you dressing too sexually so guys aren’t making moves on you and reaching their hands up their skirts

If be fine with giving you some appreciate and praise if you need it but I think he’s using that to get in your pants. He seems like I’ve said to probably be sexually fetishing a girl like you

[Asker]

Yes, maybe you're right.
Now that I think about it, I was really just naive to fall for him.

[firenine909]

It’s not bad that this happened. You can always learn from it. But to me he’s being very possessive of you and your behavior and he gets upset when he can’t see your nude body

You’re a cute girl, I want to to make sure you feel safe and happy

[Asker]

I think it's really the best to avoid him.

Thank you a lot, you were really sweet to me!🥰

[firenine909]

Yeah no problem! I’m glad I was able to help you 😁. If you’d like to chat more dm me, I don’t think I can dm an anonymous account.

[Asker]

If I follow you can we chat more? like THATS HOW IT WORKS? I'm really confused about this app😓

[firenine909]

Lmao 😂. If you click on my username there’s like 3 icons at the top. Ones a person icon, you’d have to like me first, the one I believe to the left of it is the dm button you click on that once you do follow me

[HelpfulWoman]

whats the actual ages involved here?

i've never seen a dude over 20 into a girl under 20 who had viable reasons other than the girls' naivety

[Asker]

18 and 25
I feel bad about myself for sticking with him but he's so sweet with me most of the time, he helps a lot with my daddy issues. But of course he has his red flags too.

[HelpfulWoman]

therapy can also help with your daddy issues without inevitably using you for their own needs (aside from being paid for their service).

[HelpfulWoman]

(also reading your other response to another), easy skip girl. Your standards don't even need to be off the floor to know this. Get rid of his dead weight. it will never end well.

[Asker]

At this point, yes I understand what your saying. Therapy would be the best, thank you a lot.

[Wiredone]

Don't have sex with him right away. Make him wait for it until you get to know each other better. If he pressures you, he only wants sex from you and you should end things with him

[nawtee_me]

I have always preferred girls younger than me so he could really like you. However do be careful because a lot of guys only want sex and once they get it they leave….

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

If your gut says he does... believe it

[Iron_Man]

Yes they do