Can anyone help me? any advice?

[Anonymous]

Hi, I’m taking G. E. D classes for my G. E. D/Diploma and i saw this cute girl In the class, I want to get to know her but I don't know how to approach her properly. I don’t want to screw anything up or creep her out. So what should i do? Can anyone help?

[Massageman]

"Hi, I'm Anon! I saw you in class and I'd like to get to know you a little better. (At this point, if there is something SPECIFIC to clarify/justify the second sentence, say it now. Examples, if true: Your answers in GED class are great. What are some study pointers you could give me? or. I see you have your gym bag with you. Are you a runner or gymnast? I'm a runner, too. ). Could I take you for a coffee or tea and a chat?"

When you are having your coffee/tea, be sure to ask her "open-ended" questions (which require an actual, multi-word, thought-out answer, and not yes/no ones. Example: Open ended question. Why did you sign up for GED class other than to just get a GED? or. Tell me about your favorite type of music. Closed end questions. Do you like Dr. Asimov, our math professor? or. Do you find politics a pain?

A fairly consistent rule is to avoid any "do you like/ do you feel" questions: instead, try to use "Tell me about...", "what do you think about...", "if you had one wish... type of sentences.

[Part2603]

If you say something deliberately weird or wacky, that will distract from your social weirdness. Saying to her "My favorite thing to do on Saturday night is to bottle my farts.", will immediately get her away from thinking about like, how tall or popular you are, to the absurdity and grossness of farts.

And if she is grossed out by you, like if she knows you're a creepy weirdo that has a crush on her, then what's she gonna do? Cry to her friends about your joke? OF COURSE that line made her uncomfortable, it's supposed to make EVERYBODY uncomfortable!

[Asker]

Ok? Wtf? That doesn’t help at all.

[Part2603]

What don't you understand? You're worried about "being creepy". Fair enough, you're young and nervous. I just TOLD you one way to deal with the nervousness. BE WACKY. Do you not understand how being wacky would help reframe the exchange?

Whatever, you're welcome to timidly ask her for her class notes and then end up her friendzoned study buddy.

[thatshydork]

You could say something like this; “hey! I’m (insert your name here), what’s yours?” And then if she responds in a way that signals she wants to continue the conversation, ask her questions like “what’s your favorite part of this class?” “How’s your day going?” “Did you do anything fun recently?” Just simple kind of icebreaker questions like that and then if she wants to get to know you too, she’ll eventually start to open up more and ask about you as well. If she’s shy like me though, she might take a while to open up.

[Asker]

Signal? How am I supposed what that is? Then what am I supposed to do if she’s shy?

[Asker]

I’m shy too, I’m introverted and my social skills suck. I can’t talk to people easily and stuff

[thatshydork]

Well I can’t say exactly what the signals will be because I don’t know anything about this person, but if they’re making it very hard to continue a conversation, that’s a good sign she doesn’t want to talk or that the timing isn’t good.

[thatshydork]

That’s ok, I am too, but asking those kinds of questions helps fire up a conversation if she also wants to talk to you.

[CMeow]

Sit near her in class. An easy way to start a conversation would be to ask her a question about what you learned/what the assignment is/if you could copy her notes, etc. once the class ends. Because she will be seated near you, it will seem like you just asked her because she is the nearest person. Then you can become comfortable interacting once in a while. This way would be the least direct as far as showing her your intentions but might help build your courage to talk more about stuff not related to class

[Guy13]

Say hey and formal introduction like you got yourself together.

[milkov]

Smile to her first or even just have eye contact then do it a few times until she notices your existence and when she got used to your face, go up to her and talk to her about stuff in class like, "How did you do on the quiz?" She'll answer something even if it's small. Then just follow up with something about your subject or your course.

Then you can ask her about something in the surface like her name

[Asker]

How? My social skills suck. I always freeze up and never know what to say. It’s not as easy as you think it is I don’t want to screw anything up or creep her out. So what should i do?

[ilikesnow]

go up to her and say hi before / after class, introduce yourself, be nice to her, maybe ask her some questions like: 'why did you sign up for this class? do you like it?' type of questions.

[Asker]

How? My social skills suck. I always freeze up and never know what to say. It’s not as easy as you think it is

[Asker]

I don’t want to screw anything up or creep her out. So what should i do?

[ilikesnow]

i know its not easy, my social skills suck as well. but keep in mind if you don't even give it a shot she probably won't notice you, and that's not good right? maybe you can try make some friends in that class first to practice

[Random_g]

I don't know about how to approach her because it differ from every individual, but one think for sure if she is introvert avoid asking for phone number , you will freak her out even if she was interested in you

[gorydetails]

Go up to her and say "hi, I'm (your name). We're in the same GED class.. what's your name?"

[Anonymous]

I’d leave her alone. You’re there to do school work, so is she.

[artsy_dragon]

Just say hi and start with casual conversation

[Asker]

How? My social skills suck. I always freeze up and never know what to say. It’s not as easy as you think it is

[artsy_dragon]

I would normally know how to reply to this. I'm sorry I'm n9t in a good headspace rn