Does anyone have any advice for me?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I'm the definition of a screw up and failure. I'm 22 and I'm unemployed with no education whatsoever. Ironically, I didn't start off like this. I started out with a great job straight out of high school and I was moving out of my parents house at 18.

When I was 18 I got a job as a wildness technician. It was a out of state job, so I was moving out at 18. I got the job two weeks before graduating high school.

Unfortunately, the work was extremely physical and I was fired in three weeks because I was fat and out of shape. I went home and manged to find a job but it was at a daycare for 5 dollars an hour and a I had to move back in with my parents. Unemployed for three years with every opportunity I got paid less than 10 dollars an hour.

Finally, I got lucky and got a paid internship. 15 dollars an hour plus benefits. But then my mother had a heart attack and had to travel out of state for emergency. Unfortunately, these types of internships wanted you to stay in state, so I had no choice but to quit.

It's been seriously killing me inside. I feel like a loser. I was never the type of person who bragger or acted like I was better than anybody so I don't understand why my luck has been so terrible or why I had to fuck up so much in my life

[Anonymous]

First, stop focusing on those results. (Stop)
Focus on what you want. Do you know what you want? by the way you have been humbled. See it as a blessing and take the good from it. Now you know life isn't so easy and everybody who is a so called "loser" isn't necessarily losers. Losers are those who don't try at all or give up. You're not the only one who has been there.
2nd it has nothing to do with bragging or acting like you are better than others. Being honest and working hard doesn't mean you will be successful. It's not that simple. You have to begin getting an understanding on where results come from. They don't just happen. This is an orderly universe. A half sane person can see that. Start to understand you are the highest form of creation of the planet. You have the ability to change. But if you don't know how to do that then you will habitually stay losing or getting inconsistent results. Your results tell you one thing... It tells you where you are programmed. If you want to change your life you have to be willing and able to change your paradigm; self-image being the most important of that paradigm. Now that might sound like a bunch of crap but this is the best advice you will ever get. Start studying YOU. You can do anything you want to do and be whoever you want to be. But you have to get understanding or you will never be much more than what you are now. Luck is just a word we made up to explain the unknown causes to known effects. Luck doesn't exist. It doesn't. Start getting an understanding on what I mean. You're not a loser. Everybody is losing at something. Weight, relationships, etc etc. Just don't give up. Figure out what it is I'm saying. Primary causes are not external.

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[TheFlak38]

Judging by your description you're at the bottom of the hierarchy and you have no choice but to struggle to get higher. What Im writing you right now aren't my words. It's what Jordan Peterson advises to people in such situations. here is an exercise you can try:
1. Write on piece of paper your ideal life. Daydream about everything you're asking but be realistic. Write about your ideal life in 3-6 years down the road.
2. Turn the paper around and now do the opposite. How fucked up will your life be in 3-6 years if you fail at everything you want to have in the first step?

Now you outlined two versions of your future. One good, which is like heaven on earth and one bad which is your own personal version of hell. So what are you going to do next? Will you start working on yourself and try to achieve your ideal life? "Yeah I want to but this is extremely difficult in my situation". I know it is. But if you don't do it you will end up in your personal hell and be completely bitter and miserable for the rest of your life. So what is it going to be?

[exitseven]

okay- you have had some bad luck. Look at all of these things as a learning experience.
The first thing is to get in some kind of diet and exercise program to get in shape. You do not ever want that to be an issue again. Think about what you want to do with your life. 22 is not the end of the world. I teach computer science at a college and a lot of my students are older, They were unsure of what they wanted to do or they were in the military. You are more mature so you might be a good candidate for college.
I guess the most important thing is that you are not a loser.

[Avicenna]

Lots of people have trouble getting started. First decide what sort of work you're suited to.

[joeldalton]

So what do you want to do? What kind of job do you want?