Someone please help me? Advice please?

[Anonymous]

I'm an 18-year-old girl who's lonely and I don't have friends. I was raised sheltered. I've never had a boyfriend and I don't have a car yet. I wish I was pretty like other girls my age. I've been crying every day wishing I was pretty and wishing I was like other girls. I wish some guy would find me attractive. I used to ask God why he created me so ugly and why I can't be pretty. I wish I could go outside and have a good time. Can someone give me advice because I feel like giving up on life immediately? I made crying everyday non stop.

[Daniela1982]

Who says you are ugly? Even if you are a bit plain, you can always get dolled up and look GOOD.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Asker]

I really want plastic surgery

[Saggitariusdiva]

@asker please dm me

[freebirdfly]

You dont need surgery, you need to have no fear of failure, we all learn by taking a chance. Looks mean nothing if you have confidence and confidence is very attractive, id give any girl my time, dont care her looks if she can keep her head high and won't let her fears nock her down, im up for anything. Wish you all the best, you got this.

[Asker]

@freebirdfly thanks

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're going through a really tough time. Feeling lonely and isolated can be incredibly difficult, especially at 18.

Here are a few things that might help:

Focus on what you can control. You can't control how you look, but you can control your attitude and the things you do.

Develop your interests. When you focus on things you enjoy, you'll meet people who share your passions. Look for clubs or groups related to your hobbies.

Be kind to yourself. Negative self-talk can be a real drag. Challenge those negative thoughts and focus on your positive qualities.

Seek out positive connections. There are many people who feel lonely or isolated. Look for online communities or forums where you can connect with others.

Remember, you are worthy of love and friendship. Don't give up on yourself.

[ChicoFromThe305]

God doesn't make people ugly, the way human minds reflect an appearance and filter it through their minds creates the illusion of ugliness, we were all born with purpose, there's always someone that will see you ugly or attractive and our judgmental nature is what creates this separation, you shouldn't worry so much about validation from others, sorry to hear about the friends situation tho and family, I hope things get better for you.

[Asker]

Thanks

[DishLady]

Stop wishing and sounding like you're trapped in a box waiting to be let out. Stand up and get out there... work on your appearance, talk to people and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

[Asker]

How I get out their if I don’t have a car?

[DishLady]

Walk, take an Uber, public transportation…. Stop playing the victim.

[Asker]

I’m not playing victim

[freebirdfly]

I like the confidence you have.

[Asker]

@freebirdfly ok

[freebirdfly]

Dam i got a reply i honestly thought this was just bots and a money thing. Dont get how it works just replied to random stuff. it says you asker, dont really get it yet. Think im ditch this. Was thinking it was a chat site at first, but guess not. message me if you want. i assume you had the question at the top. You be fine just bit of time, positive people and ask more questions it how we learn we all not that different.

[Berethor]

Yea looks are important for getting a boyfriend but your innocence is also a good thing, if you don't be anonymous then maybe you find friends, it easier than finding a boyfriend.

[Asker]

I want a real boyfriend in irl and friends in irl

[Asker]

Also most guys I know in irl don’t care about virginity it’s about how she going to sexually pleasure him

[Berethor]

Can't help you, in real life it much harder to get to know people, so good luck with that.

[Berethor]

They don't care about girl's virginity? well too bad for them, virgin girls are best I think.

allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin

[Asker]

Shouldn’t virgin guy deserves virgin girls?

[Berethor]

If you want virgin guy it totally okay but guys tend to care about it much more than girls.

[BetaBucks]

Get in good shape, go outside more, exercise often, go into social settings, read, learn, take a deep breath.

[Asker]

I been so sad I just wanna give up

[Asker]

I don’t have a car

[BetaBucks]

You don't need a car for any of that. Walking is better anyway. It's pretty much a cure for low level depression and anxiety.

If you think this is genuine clinical depression, talk to a doc about some medication.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Asker]

What about finding love?

[BetaBucks]

You're welcome. You'll find love when you get your mind right. Don't put your sanity at risk before then. It will be too much of a burden to you and the dude. You can find companionship on social media. If it's sexual, there's obviously ways to take care of that on your own. You have plenty of time left in life. Nothing to rush.

[Anonymous]

Your age says 25-29 yet you claim to be 18 are you alright or something is wrong you

[Asker]

It’s a lot wrong with me

[MrDaveAPSI]

Be proactive then, fix yourself, if you don't like it. We can't fix you, only you can

[guyinterested]

You may think you are ugly; but there are guys out there who will think you are pretty.