Why do guys show great interest on a girl at first and use and throw her after they lose the desire and act as if the girl doesn't exist anymore?

[Anonymous]

Do you guys support this kind of actions from these kind of guys? Are these guys great for using and throwing girls? Why does the girl gets bullied, belittled and shamed over if she questions the guy about his wrong? Why do some guys and girls support the cheater guy and belittle the victim girl before everyone? Are girls who gets used and thrown away deserve this shit attitude from everyone including the monster guy who victimized the girl? If a guy is in the same place as the girl, still they will belittle the girl only but not the guy. Why girls needs to be belittled simply for the reason she trusted a wrong guy and became victim of a guy?

I am asking this question by looking at the girls who are being victimized and it's not related to me but I'm eager to get opinions about this topic. Share your views

[DoggyDude]

Thats a lot of questions!

First, "Why do guys show great interest at first then seem to lose it?"

We don't, often we just get afraid.

I have recently run into precisely that, I saw THE most perfect girl and she smiled the loveliest smile I've ever seen. I wanted to meet her so bad that I hung about hoping she would talk to me, but she never did, but maybe she hoped I'd talk to her (and guys are expected to do the wooing, its a hard role).

Next time I saw that smile of the goddess, was when she was standing in the back of a lift, a guy in front had called the lift and it interrupted her trip from B1 or B2 up to 3'rd floor where she works. I saw the smile and it was the most lovely welcoming smile I've ever seen, I hurried forward, I NEEDED to catch that lift! Sadly, the guy who was in front was very large and there just was hardly space for me so I had, instead of standing facing her stand sideways. I turned and smiled at her, but I was nervous as all hell and my smile faultered with nerves; Was she just smiling in a freindly way at a guy waiting for the lift? was she smiling actually at the guy in front (right before I got in the lift I was convinced to my soul the smile was ONLY for me, and honestly, afterward I was ALSO convinced... but at the time...) I thought, oh crap I'm staring and half smiling at her, she'll think I'm weird, so I turned away, and immediately regretted it, now I look like I'm changing my mind or something... so I turned back to her and smiled, but I was even MORE unsure now, not of her, but how to act (of course AFTER I knew I should have just bloody said "Hi!" but at the time this is how it happened). So I was now in a blind panic, I started looking everywhere, at her dress, at her nailpolish at he shoes; No clue why I was doing this I just felt sitting in the lift staring at someone who might just have professionally smiled at me was the weirdest thing EVER! Then the doubts hit me, would a girl like THAT ever like me, even if that smile WAS for me, surely she would get bored of me? (No proud its a thing). I started to convince myself, and so I said nothing, then I realised I'd not pressed my foor reached over looking to all the world paniced and pressed my floor repeatedly.

To her perspective, I'm pretty certain she saw what you just mentioned; Guy who seemed interested the suddenly lost their desire. She couldn't be furthur wrong if that's the impression she took, but maybe she wasn't looking for any impression, maybe she just smiles at people and they go insane :(. I don't honestly know, but its very unlikely I'll be lucky enough to run into her again and fix it.

So, here's what I'll say. Unless the guy has spoken to you, and THEN lost all interests, its more probable he's not lost interest but just choked on nerves.

If he has spoken with you and you've spoken enough to get a feel for one another and his interest has left him; It might be your personality he's found unappealing or possibly its the advanced form of nerves where he's thinking about your life style and his lifestyle and seeing a future where you will decice he's not good enough and trying to bail before he's in love (stupidly, but very typically).

Hope that helps!

[ohsheeT]

Okay first of all you need to start reading the guys better from day one until that day they will tell you exactly who they are just by the things they say and do they will tell you how they are about their friends or talk to people on the phone or talk to you

When he speaks listen to him listen to the words that he's saying but at the same time listen to the words that he's not saying.

Always looking to his eyes he will tell you everything and if he's lying to you he will tell you the truth in the same breath he just doesn't know it..

You are the boss of you you make the rules on how you want to be treated by the things you say and do and the things you allow him to say or get away with if you allow that type of thing he's just going to keep walking all over you

But a guy will tell you in the first couple days that he's with you if he's a keeper or if he's just wanting in your pants and he's going to be gone he will tell you that you just have to listen

[sheikalana]

A lot of women tend to fall easy for guys who sweet talk them. They feel like if the guy likes them they can give it all and end up showing to much interest or doing things like kissing or having sex way too soon. That's why men lose interest most guys lose interest when is too easy for them to get what they want.

[A_Bell]

Sadly, sometimes people change their minds after learning or experiencing more of something.

[TommyMountainFigure]

The girl (s) you're talking about have done only ONE thing wrong. They picked out idiots to date! There is no reason to belittle or bully or shame a girl merely because a date or relationship doesn't work out, but guys who do that? Well they clearly have issues!
Do I support that behaviour? Nope. I admit I might have done some crazy or reckless things in my life, but treating a woman with contempt who didn't behave that way first to me, isn't one of them!