Do we subconsciously respond with jealousy to positive things said or done by someone else if we haven’t done it or feel like we can’t do it?

[Bigupss]

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I never did to my recollection although I always admired such people instead. I've never understood jealousy. I'm no saint and can be prone to anger and other negative feelings but jealousy was never one of them. Maybe I'm too vain?

The way I always looked at human beings is that every one has different strengths and weaknesses as well as endless hidden potential. One might be a fast runner but can't lift so heavy, another might be a powerlifter who can lift so heavy but can't run that fast.

Those are simple examples but I figure examples like these apply to everyone. Every single person is likely better, or at least has the potential to be better, in at least one thing than anyone else on the planet.

With such a world view like this, you never get jealous in my experience.

[Bigupss]

Well that’s a great trait to have and a great way to perceive things which helps you be the non jealous person that you are. I don’t mean to get too personal but I remember having a deep conversation with a close friend about my year journey of giving up porn and how giving up porn made me feel prettier. When I said feel prettier I meant I felt more confident and my self esteem felt higher. Now, this girl has been my friend for years. Been through hell and back together and her response to me was “I find it weird that you think being pretty has anything to do with porn.” When I literally never said it did. I specifically said it made me feel prettier not that giving up porn makes you prettier but I feel as though she heard it that way because though she didn’t say she was jealous deep down she may have felt like I did something she feels as if she doesn’t have the strength to do. That doesn’t mean it’s true but in her mind it may be true. So, subconsciously she responded in a hateful way.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

She was still a porn actress when you told her that? Might have bruised some soft spot for her.

[laly520]

no I dont