Girls, Does nervousness or lack of eye contact affect whether or not you would date a guy?

[kitten_man]

No, I value openness and authenticity

I want someone charming

[naartjie]

Sort of yes, I do prefer a man in control and after everything I’ve had to deal with in relationships, I, for once, don’t want to be the one in charge/control/confident/leading. I don’t have time to build up a new man and show him what to do, the bare minimum.

[kitten_man]

Yeah that’s really cool. I totally know what you mean. Everything’s just there and figured out. Like right this way. I love taking a girl in and doing that. I’m actually saving up for apartment and know where my life is going. I know what to invest in and how to communicate, but my mental health struggles are a part of my life journey. I just want to be seen holistically and be appreciated for the good I bring into the world

[SueShe]

I don't date, never have and not planning on dating. There are way too many problems being in a relationship, mainly in my age group.

However, nervousness is a sign of a lack of self-esteem, shyness or being introvert. I view lack of eye contact is also as a sign of low confidence and submission. Those are not really very good traits of character for a person that is seeking to meet a person for the purpose of dating.

Nevertheless, there are much more important aspects to a person than lack of confidence. You have to look at the global picture and I am more interested in a person's character, personality and intellect rather than more superficial traits such as height, looks and physique.

[AmyHew1tt]

It only becomes a problem if he won't open up. There's a guy I have on-and-off light feelings for. I keep trying to make friendly overtures, but he's so closed off that it's frustrating and unattractive because emotional intimacy is integral to me. I understand of course, because I'm extremely nervous and have a hard time making eye-contact. But I'm also self-aware enough to try not to let others feel uncomfortable, and I open up quickly if people are friendly to me and show genuine interest.

[Autumnfall27]

I like a shy guy and he still won’t speak to me. Still staring at me… a year later. Safe to say i want a confident man who can be straight up with me. Just walk up to me and say it.

still waiting for the shy guy to build up his confidence

[dustybiker2]

Confidence is attractive.

If a shy person talks about their own interests they can appear more confident. Trick is encouraging a convo in that direction.

[BraxtonsGf]

If they can't maintain eye contact, it seems like they like you cause there acting all shy

[rachel776]

it depends on the situation particularly

[laly520]

idm it