Why can’t I get a hot nice girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I’m a nice guy with a lot going for me. I’m tall, fit and handsome. I’ve done howdoilook questions and I’ve had positive feedback even girls saying I’m model looking. I’m Indian.

I’ve only been on one date with a pretty Italian girl in my life. She really liked me but I had to break it off because I was moving 😢 I am 25, older than the age I accidentally put.

I’ve been rejected plenty of times too. It’s kind of crazy what these girls expect. I just watched a video of a guy saying how he could go on a date everyday if he wanted and I was like yeah because he’s handsome but with Caucasian features. The reality is racist I think. People like white skin not brown skin.

You’re probably not good looking enough

You’re probably good looking enough

[Flatmanlewis]

Why can’t you? Who knows. I assure you people rarely see us as we see ourselves so your assessment of the kind of man you think you are is not accurate at all. We would probably have to know you on a deeper level to dissect any personality issues you may have.


Your focus on looks is a bit telling since most men compile their list of an ideal woman based on her looks and yet women tend to compile their list based on a broader range of attributes. I don’t think racism has anything to do with it but there is generally a tendency for people to date their own kind - be it religion, ethnicity, political values, interests, and so on.

[LiamJHayden]

Define "nice guy." A "nice guy" who is only that way to the "hot girls" is a fraud, and women intuitive know that it is manipulation.

Even if you are genuinely nice to everyone, that does not mean that women, let alone "hot nice girls" will find you interesting.

[Anonymous]

I don't know any person that claim to be “a nice guy/girl” usually are pretty entitled and insincere in their actions… You’ve mentioned nothing about your personality and is only focusing on your appearance so maybe there’s your answer?

[LadyKitty]

Maybe you need to look at your personality rather than your looks. Be realistic with your standards and you will have a better time.

[Avicenna]

Because it's hard, that's why. Wailing about it is a waste of time. Maybe lower your standards some on looks. Average looking women your age are not unattractive.

[Staximus]

Unfortunately "birds of a feather flock together" is the way it's always been. It depends on what part of the world you're living in. Looking for an Indian girl would probably make things easier.

[Anonymous]

You need to learn and understand how to build attraction. Without this, almost nothing else will matter in that department.

[genericname85]

probably cause your social skills are lacking.

[SolitarySolace]

Because hot women have entitlement issues. And nice women are manipulative.

[jahaims]

Having racial preferences for dating isn't inherently racist

[OddBeMe]

Perhaps your standards are so superficial there is no “miss right” for you.

[boggboss]

Your still on here crying that your not white?

[Asker]

I don’t want to be white though

[Asker]

I’m too proud of who I am and how my country will win in the future

[boggboss]

Yet you go on gag weekly to say how u are perfect but because u ain't white u can't get women😅