Are men mostly attracted to younger women and women mostly attracted to older men? Or is that a stereotype?

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Yes, that's mostly true.

No, that's just a stereotype.

Not sure.

[hahahmm]

Men are attracted to femininity. Women are attracted to masculinity. Coincidentally -- for women -- traditional masculinity means the guy provides for the woman. Studies have shown that even hardcore liberal women find conservative (traditional) masculine men more attractive than liberal (soft, soy milk swilling, emotional) dudes. What does this mean? There is some natural biological attraction that is manifest/expressed culturally in the roles the genders had for thousands of years in western society. These biological things can not be switched off simply because one claims the genders are equal or should be identical. I would argue that IF a woman thinks an older guy is more masculine she will find him more attractive than a young guy who isn't. And it happens that generationally speaking, guys are becoming less masculine (acting) on average so yeah, she is going to be drawn towards older guys. On the flip side of that women are becoming less feminine so I would expect them to be getting less attractive to men across the board. But can I prove it? No since attraction is subjective. Definitely from my POV it is true tho.

Do guys mostly/all go for younger women? No. Do women mostly/all go for older guys? No. But they do go for guys who act more mature/older and/or have more resources which was the traditional male role, to be a provider & protector. They go for this when they want serious/forever commitment or when they are just broke and desperate.

[hahahmm]

And I don't think you will see this stuff when you're a teenager. It's more something to see when women are late 20s and up. Typical 18 year-old female can be quite content with the Burger King cashier.

[hahahmm]

Just don't be the guy who didn't set goals & work towards ambition cause you're going to be in a world of pain later in life.

[LazerBean]

This exactly. And people can even smell when a boy is well on his way to growing up into a traditional man, which is why those boys will attract more girls/women even before they hit adulthood

[Flatmanlewis]

LazerBean hit a very valid point. Sometimes it’s the promise of a young man’s future that carry’s as much weight as who he presently is.

[nastyb]

@Flatmanlewis

Most 18 yr old girls aren't concerned about a guys financial stability. Because theyre usually still living off of their parents, enjoying friends at college, exploring all sorts of different guys, finding out what they like, creating memories with friends. Theyre really not looking for a financially stable man to start a family with YET. This won't occur until theyre probably at least 23 when they begin paying their own bills

[RingOfFire]

@hahahmm

I think that is mostly right. But in general I think, for a girl, whether it shifts more towards finding a provider and protector and away from finding the soy milk swiller depends on the age bracket.

Much younger girls, in their teens for example, sometimes want a more feminine guy because it is less sexually threatening and they are not ready for sex and scared of it. I think that's why the "boy band" phenomenon was born.

As they mature their tastes tend to shift towards the provider/protector because that is a man's natural role in a family unit and when their child bearing instinct kicks in, that becomes more attractive.

[tiajoka]

@RingOfFire this definitely happened to me. But a partner within 5 years of your own age is ideal so long as you're both over 21.

[Chazmatazz269]

As a simple matter of evolutionary biology, it’s a cold, hard fact.

[EmyyWolf]

IM NOT ATTRACTED TO OLDER MEN EW. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤢🤢🤢

They look like corpse. Absolutely not.

The women who choose them, want their wallet, not them. Don’t ever be fooled.

The only time I chose a man in his early 30’s, was because he looked like he’s in his 20’s.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/P5CbdmojAHw

[EmyyWolf]

@PointlessNonsenseGuy

[Rebecca08]

For me that's true. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 22

[Roololloo]

Why is a 22 year old dating a minor!!!

[caitycat21]

Where are your parents?

[Rebecca08]

@caitycat21 here to support me

[EmyyWolf]

Why a 22yo?
You do know this guy is basically a PEDO.
This means when you turn 25 he’s just gonna find a new 16-15yo right?

[Finchie40]

Statistic wise , yes this is true for the most part , but it really doesn’t mean anything , because it’s your life and your choice on who you want to pursue a relationship with , nobody else’s decision on who you like and don’t like. Age really doesn’t matter when it comes to falling for someone. I dated older and younger girls’ that we had
Great chemistry and connection with each other. and that’s pretty much all that matters , so that’s why I really don’t hold age as a deciding factor , unless she is under legal age of course , I consider myself wise enough not to go down that road,, even though I have been hit on my some under legal age girls’ before , I pretty much just tell them I I am flattered but wait until you are 18 if they want me that bad lol once a girl is of legal age of consent and she wants to have sex with me and I f am attracted to her. Guess what? I am banging her lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I was very attracted to that 14 year old when I was 16. I was also attracted to the 34 year old at 17.

Sexy is sexy, and we are all going to be attracted to sexy men and women, whether they are 18 or 48.

[DaveJord]

See it's the usage of the term mostly... I can say honestly. But it is definitely a thing and for good reason. It's actually very common in most cultures, but Americans being Americans... we get all twisted up over BS.

[Inbox]

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Although, yes, most men prefer younger women. Some take it too far like those who want below 18. Regardless, men wanting younger women has been going on since the dawn of time. Kings would get married to very young brides not just because they look better, but BECAUSE they could give healthier offspring odds are - a fact which a lot women nowadays don't understand, no matter how puny their houses are and have the incredible achievements of WiFi installed LOL LOL LOL.

[Alwayreckles93]

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[Inbox]

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[Purpleronnie]

I think to be fair we have to qualify the type of attraction we are talking about. A person in their 30’s may be sexually or physically attracted to a a much younger person but may want to be with a person older or similar age for a different or more complete set of reasons. Putting aside paraphilia or other psycho-sexual issues or disorders there are many societal reasons why we may need or want look at attraction differently but to some extent we are hard-wired biologically and chemically to seek the “fittest”.


Generally speaking , heterosexual, biological, gender traditional men will likely never find an appealing 21yr female NOT sexually attractive but attraction is more than skin deep as they say

[Flatmanlewis]

I never found that age was a very critical factor in the women I was attracted to. In my experience though the majority of couples in my work or social circle tend to be about as follows:
50% older male/younger female by 5+ years
30% about the same age (-/+ 2yrs or so)
20% younger male/older female.


My wife is younger than me by several years but that was more important to her than it was to me.

[tiajoka]

Tbh that's kinda crazy that half of your circle has age gaps of 5+ years. Nearly everyone I know is within two or three years; but more often the same age.
The only acception to that is my husband is almost 5 years older than me, but it's still right under the mark.

[Flatmanlewis]

We have had this conversation in our social circle a few times. One dude has a wife 16 years younger than him. It’s kind of weird to be honest but whatever. Not my life.

[Flatmanlewis]

Also, my work environment is uncommon. We hire at 18 and have people well into their 60s in various capacities. The bulk of the main work groups are between 21 - 50 and those seem to be where the bulk of relationships form. This means the span of social interaction is rather broad. Under those circumstances it seems rather common for mid-20 girls to connect with early 30s men.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Stereotype
I will say that older men and younger women do tend to end up together
This is due to social interaction in my opinion not age. There’s a couple studies that found it has more to do with men seeking long term relationships later in life than women. But even that is starting to change

[AmyHew1tt]

It's majorly a stereotype, at least for young women preferring older men. All guys I've seen over 29 look on their way out, and I'd never date over four years older than me.

[normalice]

Men tend to be attracted to women with low expectations. Women tend to be attracted to men who are more likely to meet their expectations. This is correlated to the age gap you describe but not caused by it.

[strateguy632]

1 yes men age 30 40 are attracted to younger than themselves age 20, due to instinct of family, 2 no but by age 20 she already got hurt from guys her own age so find a guy age 40 who likes younger.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think younger women are attracted to older men within reason. As long as he's not her dads age. Older guys tend to be settled and not going anywhere which is attractive to younger women.

[RebelinSteel]

Nah does not work like that and I don’t even think it’s a stereotype outside of social media bollox.

[4ngelic]

i think most guys prefer women 18-35 especially early twenties. but i dont think women prefer older men at all, just maybe guys who are a little older than them (on average) or the same age

[Apple1996]

I have only seen that on the internet/with celebrities. Irl I barely know any couple where the man is older and if so it's only by a year or two

[Billlewis]

Younger women are often more accepting of very advanced kinks, as well as meaner, in my experience.

[HighValue]

The SUCCESSFUL long term relationships I have seen of 40+ years together, the man was usually 7 to 14 years older.

[HighValue]

Also, if being close in age made relationships more successful, why are the majority of people not still with their high school partner 10 + years later.

[nastyb]

I would say it is true to a certain extent.

But from experience, I find that women are attracted to men slightly older while men tend to be attracted to significantly younger women.

[Gochogirl]

I am attracted to people within a short range of my age. I would not date an older man.

[msc545]

Better sex with ytounger women, and more money from older men.

[WhitneySnow]

I think most people are attracted to people around their own age, but there are exceptions