People who think love should have no age gap limit, is 47 yr old women dating 19 yr guy okay?

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Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

It is OK, just weird. What older women see in young men is a mystery to me. 19-year-old men are basically still children.

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

I don’t see the issue. People are allowed to date whomever they wish as long as both parties are of legal consenting age.

MrOracle · Answer

I think it's fine morally, but I also think it's highly unlikely to last. There's very good reasons why the man is typically older - the things most women value in a man over any real length of time can rarely be gotten by a younger man. He may be good for a night or two, but rarely for a year or more.

Otherwise, I don't care what you do, as long as he's an adult and able to make decisions for himself.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Good for her. That’s when men are in their prime 18-25. Enjoy.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's not common, but it's okay. Nothing wrong about it. Both are adults.

RetroReviews · Answer

Since you mentioned the word love in your question then to me it goes beyond just a fling. So I'm always thinking long-term and big picture. I would say this relationship would have a shelf life because that age Gap will always be there as the years progress so if you fast forward enough years let's say to when the 19-year-old guy turns the age that the woman is now 47 , still considered young by many. But the woman is now 75. So is the guy in his 40s that's still got steam in his stride going to think it's hot and sexy to be with a woman in her mid-70s pushing 80? It could lead to hurt feelings and broken heart if the woman in her seventies now is not able to keep up and he still wants to lead an active lifestyle is it fair for him to go out and have fun while she stays at home. I'm sure she would not like that could lead to him saying to her I think I need to go with someone that's younger cuz I still want to go out and do things not just stay home all the time that could break that old woman's heart. Or let's say the woman dies when in her 70s cuz that's very well possible. Then you have a guy that's now pushing 50 who's has to start all over again. Something to think about...

Bricealan · Answer

@Kelly6 I don't know why not. At Firestone, I was 35, and she was near 60 or about that because she retired a few years after I left the company and moved here. One day in the hallway, she whispered to me: "You'd probably do it to me if I let you"? So the couple you mention had 28 years difference. and Helen and I had just about 25 years difference. Very similar... I don't see a problem, the 19 year old is a legal adult

When I was younger, probably that age or near that, in my 20's at least, a neighborhood lady, married with 5 kids that I went to high school with, told me she was proctoring a "study hall" class at my prior high school, and saw two boys chuckling and looking at something on a sheet of paper. She said she walked up and grabbed it, and it was a picture one had drawn..."... of a big ole penis" I casually remarked to her..."Well, that doesn't surprise me, every man wants a bigger penis than the one he was born with".. I don't know for the sure, but I know the woman had to be mid to late 50's , and her husband was a bit older. They were active in the local church, but the "big ole penis" comment stuck with me with the thought that she probably had an interest in younger men. Just guessing.

I don't see a problem with the "may - December" sexual relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

It's key to understand that it's not about the age per se. It's about maturity, life goals, and just being compatible in general.

I get that a lot of people are overtly judgmental when it comes to age gap relationships. My boyfriend is 14 years younger than me. We have an amazing relationship and are highly compatible. People judge us frequently.

However, we're highly compatible in terms of maturity and long term life goals.

I get that a 19 year old guy is technically an adult (if we're saying that anyone over 18 is an adult). However, I have an extremely hard time buying the possibility that even an incredibly mature 19 year old could be anywhere near a compatible maturity level with any 47 year old woman (even if the woman is fairly immature). Moreover, I just have a hard time believing they could in any way be compatible in terms of goals or worldviews.

Again, I get that I get a lot of crap for dating a guy a lot younger than me. I also get that you can have an incredible relationship with someone a lot younger (because I do have an amazing and loving relationship with him). However, I just feel like there's something really different between a guy who's just barely out of high school vs a mature guy who's finishing grad school and about to start a full career. I just don't see how it's even possible for compatibility to exist in the first situation.

Again, maybe I'm being hypocritical here, but I think there's a big different with the kind of age gap relationship I'm in (a 39 year old woman with a 25 year old man) vs a 47 year old woman and a 19 year old man (who's really still a boy).

Lliam · Answer

It's unusual, but they are both legal age and can make their own decisions.

I don't know why they like each other, so who am I to judge.

A 28 year age gap isn't huge. If a 50 year old man dated or married a 22 year old, not many people would have a problem. Rich men in their 60s, 70s, and even 80s date and even marry young hotties in their early 20s, so I don't see why an older (47 isn't ancient by a long shot) woman can't date or marry a young man.

It's a rather large age gap. When she's 88, he'll only be 60, so I don't know how well a long term relationship would work out unless she is rich and he is going to inherit her wealth.

Then again, maybe it's true love. And there is no explaining love. It is what it is.

Mr_twoface · Answer

A 47-year-old may look like she's in her 30s and a 19-year-old may look like he is in his 30s. Age is just a thing. Question is both are compatible with each other and don’t feel one needs to be taught or learned new skills. No one wants to become someone’s “mother” in a relationship.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

They're both adults who cares? It's nobody's business when consenting adults decide to enter any type of relationship. When I was 19 I wouldn't have dated a 47 yr old. I'm 44 now and I wouldn't date a 19 yr old but that's just me. My preference is not for me to project onto others and tell them who they have a right to love. These situations I bet are rare anyway.

Seriously questions like this gets asked a lot and it's odd to me that people think what they feel about this matters. If it's your kid that's the 19 yr old, I hate to break it to you, but they're an adult now legally.

A_Nihilist · Answer

Both ages are considered to be fully consenting adults. Both legally and socially.

Sure some may find it weird. But that's none of their business if it doesn't concern them.

Cougar wants a young buck, go for it!

Young buck has a taste for an aged wine? Great.

loveslongnails · Answer

"Love" doesn't have an age gap limit; it has functionality and practicality boundaries. They might have a great time for a while (though it's difficult to imagine, it could happen), but she is old enough to be his mother. I doubt this sort of situation-ship is really love, but rather lust, and it won't last. At his age, he doesn't know what love is yet, and even if SHE has a clue, she knows this isn't it. She's there for the rod and the adoration/attention.

ShellyB · Answer

This would seem unhealthy to me bc 19 is not exactly an adult, if you said 47yo and 25yo I think that would be OK, but that is JMO!

MsProsperity · Answer

Yeah it is, as long as it’s legal & both partners are okay with it

avery58 · Answer

No because a 47 year old woman's brain has fully matured and knows exactly what she wants, is more emotionally mature etc. A 19 year old's isn't

RHK36 · Answer

People that are of age can do whatever they want. Chances are it's just a lust thing, but I don't know them. Either way not my business so they can do whatever they want.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Seems very weird and gross since he is only a year out of high school with an almost 50 year old. :/ I think the same way if the genders were switched, because what do you see in each other?

Chevy1_kb · Answer

yeah way to much of a age gap 47 going with a 19 year old to much of a age gap deffinetly

FatNeville · Answer

They are both consenting adults, so of course it's okay.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

both are adults, if they don't see any problem, why should I?

Pillubi · Answer

Umm, I do believe age gaps beyond a certain limit is kind of a turn off. I don't like large age gaps in relationships but if it works for them we can't say much right?

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It's whatever turns their crank. If they are into younger people and they other person is into an older person, it comes down to freedom of choice.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

Why would this not be OK? Can you help us understand what you believe would be problematic about this? Why would society want to prevent or punish this?

LaurenM1997 · Answer

They are adults if it was a kid I’d be like no but they are adults

Anonymous · Answer

You can become his mother, you better have money/ assets to keep him interested. Young dick will get get tired of old pussy sooner or later. Even Demi Moore will her looks and money could not keep Ashton.

Sirius1 · Answer

If it’s consensual and mutual I don’t see any issue with it. It’s certainly not illegal. There’s also no risk to it in terms of family making when and if there’s no need for it (if they weren’t compatible or right for each other).

OtterMan68 · Answer

If he's OK going to sorority parties and keggers, and she's OK going to business dinners and functions, who's to say it's wrong.

Paul09 · Answer

Meh. I do not see how it would work out. Your basically part of different generations. How do you find common ground? One is way nature, while the other one is still maturing. Looks weird too. But people can do what they want.

chrissykerdock · Answer

it's not any of my business if you can why not

FunkyMonkee · Answer

That's completely up to them. If they like each other or love each other, let `em go for it1 What's it gonna hurt?

Mark987 · Answer

I find if it's just sex it doesn't matter, but if it's serious then maybe. I dated a 42 year old when I was 25 and it was a great experience. She taught me a lot sexually and how to let loose.

msc545 · Answer

Yes there is no problem. They are all of legal age.

Siri137 · Answer

If it works for them, then why not? :)

motownplayer2000 · Answer

If it’s cringe if a guy (47) is doing that dating (19) females then yes it is cringe the other way. We keep that same enegry

tzdc21 · Answer

Abnormal... but acceptable. Not my cup of tea, but since they're both over 18... have at it.

Booklover_90 · Answer

I’ve just never understood why people would want to date someone who could be their kid’s age.

Jerre · Answer

I see no problem with that. The 47 year old could teach the younger man all about sex, how to make her cum the hardest.

Pterodon · Answer

It’s ok however the immaturity of the teen will be a problem

AngryCarl · Answer

In theory, yes. In practice I wouldn't want to be either part of that relationship.

NathanDavis · Answer

is it okay, in which sense?

supercutebutt · Answer

Sure. But it has a 0% chance of lasting.

Nice222 · Answer

When I was 19 I had no interest in women that much older.

Anonymous · Answer

I think as long as everyone is an adult and consenting it shouldn't matter the age or number of partners you date.

Zlantur2 · Answer

If they both like it then I don't see the reason for others to judge them.

Anonymous · Answer

No it's disgusting and she is a sex predator

CubaPirate · Answer

Fine by me they're very adults

cootjuhh · Answer

must be a good experience for him

Celticwolf78 · Answer

If you want to keep out of trouble

Nifrayu · Answer

It doesn't bother me.

Alex8736 · Answer

As long as the person is over 18 it is legal

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

Yes. Both can make their own choices

war_daddy · Answer

it's ok but the guy is stupid

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yup.

krin_m · Answer

Yes, it is.

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah

Anonymous · Answer

Sure

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