People who think love should have no age gap limit, is 47 yr old women dating 19 yr guy okay?

[Kelly6]

[Nikki1989]

It is OK, just weird. What older women see in young men is a mystery to me. 19-year-old men are basically still children.

[Kelly6]

@Nikki1989 exactly true

[GoodgirlNatalie]

So how is it OK to date children?

You hate when it's an older man doing a teenager but saying it's OK here.

You just exposed yourself as a massive hypocrite

[electromagnetic]

I don’t see the issue. People are allowed to date whomever they wish as long as both parties are of legal consenting age.

[MrOracle]

I think it's fine morally, but I also think it's highly unlikely to last. There's very good reasons why the man is typically older - the things most women value in a man over any real length of time can rarely be gotten by a younger man. He may be good for a night or two, but rarely for a year or more.

Otherwise, I don't care what you do, as long as he's an adult and able to make decisions for himself.

[Badgirlnatalia]

Your morals are wrong and this is a very bad idea

[Badgirlnatalia]

She could easily manipulate him

[MrOracle]

The primary risk for him would be an unplanned pregnancy, but at her age, that's unlikely. If she was 37, that would be a much bigger danger.

[Badgirlnatalia]

It's not just that she's likely in power here manipulating him with hormones. She's a creep. There's nothing moral about it and anyone who thinks that is a creep too.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Good for her. That’s when men are in their prime 18-25. Enjoy.

[Impjak]

your from ohio fr fr skibidi toilet

[GoodgirlNatalie]

They are not in prime. Men develop later than women actually

[bingbongbangbung]

Women are in their prime from mid teens to late 20s; men are in their prime from late 20s to mid 40s

[GoodgirlNatalie]

@bingbongbangbung exactly, she seems much older than she is and it seems like she has a fetish with teens. What a creep.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@bingbongbangbung keep telling that to yourself of that makes you feel good ;)

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have never dated teens after the age of 20, even though I have been asked out by a few, because they are not mentally mature for me, but is that even a question that a 20 year old body will always look and perform better than a 40 year old body?

[GoodgirlNatalie]

That's more of a case with women, but older men have way more experience hence why some girls prefer it.

Men's value goes up as they age while women's go down

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@GoodgirlNatalie You are either a man hurt by the truth that women, too, find young men attractive or just a woman who has been fed the lies about male prime and female insignificance… In both cases, you are allowed to think whatever makes you feel good and I don’t plan arguing or changing your mind. I’ll finish this sentence by saying that 20 year old man will always be more virile, fertile and sexy than a 40 year old man.

[GoodgirlNatalie]

Lol so many women fancy much older men, you can only speak for yourself

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@GoodgirlNatalie Well, I am not saying older men are not sexy. I was having a wonderful connection with that 44 year old man. He was amazing. I rejected a lot of younger men for him. I almost fell for him. Though strictly physically speaking, youth always wins, in both, men and women. It’s the most attractive in the animalistic way. Women who go for older men and miss out the younger ones, later on in life, go back to dating younger men again, that’s the reality.

[GoodgirlNatalie]

You said a 20 year old will always be more attractive but that's not true it depends on the person. There are tons of ugly 20 year olds.

[GoodgirlNatalie]

Also the truth is women do become less desirable as they age but men are more from a relationship point of view at least. This is supported by studies and biology.

I have a 19 year old friend dating a 48 year old and a 24 year old dating a 60 year old. It's very common but I don't have any guy friends with older women. Prolly just me but I do find that more unnatural.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@GoodgirlNatalie So? 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[GoodgirlNatalie]

Just saying? Does it bother you lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@GoodgirlNatalie It doesn’t lol, I am saying youth is attractive and you are saying the same.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Now be a good girl and have pointless conversations with someone else 😘

[GoodgirlNatalie]

Not really. I am not actually supporting it though? I try to tell my friends it's wrong because they should be dating someone their age. My friends dad also got a girlfriend her age she is 19 and I would never support such nasty behaviour from someone that could be their grandparents unlike you. It creeps me out.

I am just talking about the prime and attractivenes that's all.

[AviatorTom]

It's not common, but it's okay. Nothing wrong about it. Both are adults.

[RetroReviews]

Since you mentioned the word love in your question then to me it goes beyond just a fling. So I'm always thinking long-term and big picture. I would say this relationship would have a shelf life because that age Gap will always be there as the years progress so if you fast forward enough years let's say to when the 19-year-old guy turns the age that the woman is now 47 , still considered young by many. But the woman is now 75. So is the guy in his 40s that's still got steam in his stride going to think it's hot and sexy to be with a woman in her mid-70s pushing 80? It could lead to hurt feelings and broken heart if the woman in her seventies now is not able to keep up and he still wants to lead an active lifestyle is it fair for him to go out and have fun while she stays at home. I'm sure she would not like that could lead to him saying to her I think I need to go with someone that's younger cuz I still want to go out and do things not just stay home all the time that could break that old woman's heart. Or let's say the woman dies when in her 70s cuz that's very well possible. Then you have a guy that's now pushing 50 who's has to start all over again. Something to think about...

[GoodgirlNatalie]

I thought you were strongly against such age gaps. Or is it only if it's an old man?

[RetroReviews]

@GoodgirlNatalie no it's either way, it's not ideal , and don't recommend it , there is something odd and creepy to be with someone your parents/childs age but It is legal but wouldn't be something I would do

[Bricealan]

@Kelly6 I don't know why not. At Firestone, I was 35, and she was near 60 or about that because she retired a few years after I left the company and moved here. One day in the hallway, she whispered to me: "You'd probably do it to me if I let you"? So the couple you mention had 28 years difference. and Helen and I had just about 25 years difference. Very similar... I don't see a problem, the 19 year old is a legal adult

When I was younger, probably that age or near that, in my 20's at least, a neighborhood lady, married with 5 kids that I went to high school with, told me she was proctoring a "study hall" class at my prior high school, and saw two boys chuckling and looking at something on a sheet of paper. She said she walked up and grabbed it, and it was a picture one had drawn..."... of a big ole penis" I casually remarked to her..."Well, that doesn't surprise me, every man wants a bigger penis than the one he was born with".. I don't know for the sure, but I know the woman had to be mid to late 50's , and her husband was a bit older. They were active in the local church, but the "big ole penis" comment stuck with me with the thought that she probably had an interest in younger men. Just guessing.

I don't see a problem with the "may - December" sexual relationships.

[GoodgirlNatalie]

47 and 19 is very innapropriate and destined to fail. You fail to see it because you are biased as its a woman.

[Anonymous]

It's key to understand that it's not about the age per se. It's about maturity, life goals, and just being compatible in general.

I get that a lot of people are overtly judgmental when it comes to age gap relationships. My boyfriend is 14 years younger than me. We have an amazing relationship and are highly compatible. People judge us frequently.

However, we're highly compatible in terms of maturity and long term life goals.

I get that a 19 year old guy is technically an adult (if we're saying that anyone over 18 is an adult). However, I have an extremely hard time buying the possibility that even an incredibly mature 19 year old could be anywhere near a compatible maturity level with any 47 year old woman (even if the woman is fairly immature). Moreover, I just have a hard time believing they could in any way be compatible in terms of goals or worldviews.

Again, I get that I get a lot of crap for dating a guy a lot younger than me. I also get that you can have an incredible relationship with someone a lot younger (because I do have an amazing and loving relationship with him). However, I just feel like there's something really different between a guy who's just barely out of high school vs a mature guy who's finishing grad school and about to start a full career. I just don't see how it's even possible for compatibility to exist in the first situation.

Again, maybe I'm being hypocritical here, but I think there's a big different with the kind of age gap relationship I'm in (a 39 year old woman with a 25 year old man) vs a 47 year old woman and a 19 year old man (who's really still a boy).

[Lliam]

It's unusual, but they are both legal age and can make their own decisions.

I don't know why they like each other, so who am I to judge.

A 28 year age gap isn't huge. If a 50 year old man dated or married a 22 year old, not many people would have a problem. Rich men in their 60s, 70s, and even 80s date and even marry young hotties in their early 20s, so I don't see why an older (47 isn't ancient by a long shot) woman can't date or marry a young man.

It's a rather large age gap. When she's 88, he'll only be 60, so I don't know how well a long term relationship would work out unless she is rich and he is going to inherit her wealth.

Then again, maybe it's true love. And there is no explaining love. It is what it is.

[Kelly6]

@Lliam it’s not long term relationship

[RetroReviews]

28 years may not sound like a big deal in this situation but fast forward to when that 19-year-old turns 50 and the woman is now 78 ... if she lives to be that old kind of takes on a different feel there don't it?

[Mr_twoface]

A 47-year-old may look like she's in her 30s and a 19-year-old may look like he is in his 30s. Age is just a thing. Question is both are compatible with each other and don’t feel one needs to be taught or learned new skills. No one wants to become someone’s “mother” in a relationship.

[Friendlybro79]

They're both adults who cares? It's nobody's business when consenting adults decide to enter any type of relationship. When I was 19 I wouldn't have dated a 47 yr old. I'm 44 now and I wouldn't date a 19 yr old but that's just me. My preference is not for me to project onto others and tell them who they have a right to love. These situations I bet are rare anyway.

Seriously questions like this gets asked a lot and it's odd to me that people think what they feel about this matters. If it's your kid that's the 19 yr old, I hate to break it to you, but they're an adult now legally.

[A_Nihilist]

Both ages are considered to be fully consenting adults. Both legally and socially.

Sure some may find it weird. But that's none of their business if it doesn't concern them.

Cougar wants a young buck, go for it!

Young buck has a taste for an aged wine? Great.

[loveslongnails]

"Love" doesn't have an age gap limit; it has functionality and practicality boundaries. They might have a great time for a while (though it's difficult to imagine, it could happen), but she is old enough to be his mother. I doubt this sort of situation-ship is really love, but rather lust, and it won't last. At his age, he doesn't know what love is yet, and even if SHE has a clue, she knows this isn't it. She's there for the rod and the adoration/attention.

[ShellyB]

This would seem unhealthy to me bc 19 is not exactly an adult, if you said 47yo and 25yo I think that would be OK, but that is JMO!

[Tstrbrainer]

18 yr old is recognized as an adult

[ShellyB]

@Tstrbrainer Yes and no, for example in the U. S. an 18yo can’t buy a beer. There is sort of a gray area for a few years tbh, and anyway we aren’t talking about laws (this relationship would be legal) but about what is “okay” in our opinions and in my opinion, a 19yo is usually too young for that big a difference. However that is just my opinion I am not saying it should banned or anything, just that is how I would feel if for example a 19yo cousin of mine was dating a 47yo.

[MsProsperity]

Yeah it is, as long as it’s legal & both partners are okay with it

[avery58]

No because a 47 year old woman's brain has fully matured and knows exactly what she wants, is more emotionally mature etc. A 19 year old's isn't

[Kelly6]

I agree

[RHK36]

People that are of age can do whatever they want. Chances are it's just a lust thing, but I don't know them. Either way not my business so they can do whatever they want.

[PeachyPie93]

Seems very weird and gross since he is only a year out of high school with an almost 50 year old. :/ I think the same way if the genders were switched, because what do you see in each other?

[Chevy1_kb]

yeah way to much of a age gap 47 going with a 19 year old to much of a age gap deffinetly

[FatNeville]

They are both consenting adults, so of course it's okay.

[LaurenM1997]

They are adults if it was a kid I’d be like no but they are adults

[IslaTheWitch]

both are adults, if they don't see any problem, why should I?