I met a guy online we matched a lot, we had strong feelings to eachother but I used filter in pics, when we met he didn’t like me same what?

[Anonymous]

So we still have very strong feelings for eachother but bcz with filters i looked super pretty and i wasn’t that good in real, he became unsure about that, we met couple times hugged and kissed me but he was treating me differently , i felt that he is unsure about me, we had argument and he admitted he doesn’t love me as much as i love him and that i looked different than pics which plays a role, i feel so bad coz he really tried to convince himself to like me in reality and im like do i look that bad, there's no much difference about filters tho , if i took without filter my face looks assymetric and way different.. when i do makeup it looks close to it i even look better in reality but when i met him i wasn’t in my good era … he also looked different than pics in pics he looked more big in reality he was thin and stuff but i loved him still and didn’t care whatever he looks like.. i know im so wrong and i need help but also he told me he can't leave me and he cried, he is lost and doesn’t know what to do.. im lost too coz i know i can make myself look a lot better but I don't know if i should try anymore in this relationship the love i have for him is too strong that i never feel like i will have this with someone else

[Anonymous]

Never knew filters make such a difference.

I don’t know what to say maybe because it’s the first time you met, he didn’t feel it.

you know online dating is different from reality.

It’s not about looks, it’s about the vibe you/he feels when meeting each other in real life.

[Asker]

True … coz its not much difference but also he said personality is different too i wasn’t so comfortable bcz it was first time, he also looked different to me, but I don't know if we should end it now or give it another dating, he kissed me multiple times so he didn’t feel anything maybe

[Opinion Owner]

I personally oppose online dating but If you really think you like him enough, give it another shot.
It takes time to get used to someone’s presence.
He’s still a stranger.

[Asker]

Im not sure if he wants that im like a burden for him

[Opinion Owner]

My advice, never think of things from this prospective.
Always give value to yourself.
Using the word burden wouldn’t work for your benefit today or in the future specially as a girl.
You’re a human not a speed bump.
Trying seeing it from your part, why would you want him, is he if value, would he help make my life a little better and does he suit me.. etc

[Asker]

Wow thanks🙏🏻

[BonzoInBitburg]

Filtering pics is lying about your appearance. I wouldn't be interested in someone who does that

[Anonymous]

This is why you should wait to develop feelings for someone until after you meet them in person.

[jahaims]

That's what happens when you lie. Duh

[Asker]

Probably it was dishonest, but i managed to meet him soon and told him if he doesn’t like me or feel samething to leave me.. i told him i look different than pics