Added the guy I like on social media and now he looks at me differently?

[dani42595]

So I work with this guy and I only occasionally see him when I get floated to work in his department. I also see him for the most part in passing since we currently work different shifts. This unfortunately makes it difficult to talk to him. We’ve interacted a couple of times. I decided to put myself out there the best way I know how at this moment and add him as a friend on Facebook. We do have some mutual friends too so it’s not totally obvious I looked him up. He accepted my request. Ever since I did that I have seen him a couple of times and definitely felt him glaring/ looking at me. I’m worried maybe he thinks I’m creepy for adding him, or if he could be attracted to me or interested now. It’s hard to assume due to limited interactions. I’m definitely at a stand still. Usually when I like someone I try to do something about it since life is short and you never know. I felt that messaging someone I don’t really know would be too forward at this time and maybe I should just let this be for now. Also I may be working the same shift as him this upcoming year and might see him more then. Just wondering if anyone has any advice on my situation. Thanks!

[MoniqueTLC]

I don't think you should read too much into it. You might be misinterpreting his his look. Perhaps he's wondering why you have not messaged him, or, he's just 'looking' at you. If you end up working the same shift as him, I'd definitely interact with him then but until you know for sure, or now, I'd just give it a few days. If you want to message him, go for it!

You could keep the message casual like; 'Hey, excuse the random add! I saw we have mutual friends so thought why not' or 'Hey (name) decided to add you here seeing as though my shifts don't allow me to chat to you' or anything you feel comfortable with.

Do what feels right for YOU. You're right, life is short, and we always seems to stop ourselves from going for something because we're scared of the outcome, if it goes the way we don't want it to, but, what's the worst that could happen? He could tell you he's not really interested and that's okay!

[Guy13]

It sounds like he is confused about your intentions after addition to Social Medis. I think an honest approach clarifying things would be good for you both.