GFs social media is causing issues. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

So a long while ago when we first started dating we set some ground rules around social media. We both agreed not to add models, as well for my girlfriend it makes her feel unsecure about herself and well I agree the opposite way round as well, having a bunch of muscly guys doesn't help either, we also agreed not to add any sexually.

I went through and sorted my list out, her list was much bigger so looks like she just left it. Later on she has like fully nude people almost on her insta, i'm like yeah bit uncomfortable with that and tell her and she deletes them. A while later the same thing happens again, then after that, so the third time I get recommended yet another person to follow which happens to be fully naked almost, one a female and one a guy, both live nearby and she knows them which makes it even more uncomfortable.

She actually tried to argue about it however, so I simply just added a youtuber from a prank channel not even nude, guess tight fitting clothing but she follows much worse, and she got upset as it made her feel uncomfortable.

we spoke and she decided to go through her list and get rid of a few people. She said sorry for making me feel uncomfortable she would never want to and that she just hadn't gone through her list. She said she would check people as she adds them from now on and realizes why I would feel uncomfortable.

Fast forward to today, so 2 days later after deleting everyone like that from her list. Get a recommendation and she is following like a few youtubers/artist with half naked pictures along with a good few muscly youtubers who work out and post selfies of just themselves topless posing as they are youtubers to do with workout, which obviously makes me feel crap about the way I look.

I guess what I am asking for advice on... is how to proceed next, I'm sticking to what we agreed upon, she isn't and that's kind of disrespectful in my eyes. I could care less who we add, but if she expects me to stick to it, she should as well

[OlderAndWiser]

This is a preview of what a relationship would be lke with her. You talk about something, come to an agreement, and then she ignores it. What do you think? Ready to sign on for a lifetime of that?

[Anonymous]

I don't know why grown adults get so hung up on this childish middle school nonsense. I am not into looking at muscle guys or whatever, I know some girls might, but I know guys like to look at pretty girls for sexual release and it's no big deal. They don't go off with those girls and it doesn't make me any less pretty. If anything it gives him other ways to be satisfied so I'm not having to have sex 10 times a day. When you think about it, you guys probably aren't even going to be together in a year or two anyway, especially if something like this is an issue for you. Just chill out.

[Asker]

Going to disagree with that comment entirely... First of all you might not be into looking at guys like that, you aren't every girl... secondly, I don't want to follow any random girls and I don't look at them for sexual release. Stop generalising and making it sound like all us guys are horny perverts who only view girls as objects. Thirdly if it works one way it should work the other is my main issue

[Agape93]

If she can't agree to the set rules, break-up

[In_Trance]

stop looking at her social media.

[Asker]

Suggestions pop up don't need to actually look at the social... also that's a bit of a crappy reply... of let her get away with it, and yet still follow the rule we set myself

[In_Trance]

This is retarded. There's no benefit to following each other, watching each other, etc. This reeks of insecurity, jealously and toxic masculinity/femininity.

[Asker]

You really aren't getting it are you... we follow each other because my partner wants to be able to tag/post me in pics if she ever does which she hasn't. I spoke to her about it and she doesn't like the idea of me following girls/other people and didn't like the idea of us not having the rule. Yet still doesn't follow it herself.

[In_Trance]

Bullshit. She wants to follow you because she doesn't trust you. Toxic femininity, and you're buying into it.
There is no valid reason to follow each other on social media. you talk and interact everyday. You're more than able to clearly communicate your every though and feeling.

You asked a question regarding social media issues and I'm telling you why it's happening.
You don't believe me? Keep doing what you're doing then. That's your choice.