Guys, Guys: What's your most important dating Do and Don't?

[DishLady]

1. What's the one thing you absolutely look for when you're dating?
2. What's one absolute dealbreaker?

Updates

1 y

The piggy bank 😂.

Actually, there are times I’ve offered to pay for a date and the guy got upset. BUT to be fair I also don’t order or ask for anything pricey on a date. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Awesomesauce2005]

Don'ts

• Be on your phone and give one word answers throughout the whole date.
• Race to pay for anything before me on the date.
• Be emotionally absent.
• Get mad when im nice
• Grope me ( Grab my crotch) 3 mins into the first date.
• Lie about being interested in me to get free food.

All of which have actually happened over the course of several different women and occasions.

[DishLady]

My goodness…

And the “DOs”?

[Awesomesauce2005]

Pretty much anythin else lol. Its self explanitoity

[Juxtapose]

1. Effort. If you're not even trying and you expect me to do all the work then fuck that. Someone who is invested will likely be willing to listen to me and make compromises as well.

2. Materialism. If you expect me to be a piggy bank, you are gone. I am not a "provider", I'm not a second fucking daddy. Be an adult and pay for your own shit.

[DishLady]

#1 right on. #2 see the “update” (it posted there instead of as a reply for some reason).

[Juxtapose]

Haha well I have had women offer to pay for the whole thing and that made me happy enough that I actually paid for them voluntarily without them asking.

Guys who get mad at women who offer to pay are fucking stupid.

[DishLady]

Agreed. But also I think it's a fair point (esp. with how pricey things are today) that women should at least offer to pay 1/2... and consider sticking with very modest/reasonable purchases in case the guy DOES insist on paying.

[Juxtapose]

Well the thing is, I don't plan to even have children so the woman has absolutely no disadvantage towards making money that I myself would not also have. She is a fully capable adult and to act like it is otherwise is infantilizing her.

[Juxtapose]

Someone with your attitude though would be pretty easy to get along with and reason with.

[Juxtapose]

Most women are a lot more chill in my experience than guys make them out to be. Guys need to stop going for these bitches.

[DishLady]

Thanks, J. Yeah, agreed.

[exitseven]

It makes me angry when somebody screws with their cell phone the whole time. I am happy that cell phones were not a big thing when I was dating.