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There's this girl that I went out with recently and she told me that she was just sad about her break up with her girlfriend so she went on the dating app but now that she found me, she deleted the app. I didn't think much of it. Later, after a month of talking and going out, we had a fight and I blocked her and within 3 days, she was on that dating app again. I saw that she was on dating market and decided to unblock her thinking that she is with someone else now but when I unblocked her, she started texting me. We went out again. And then I realised that she is talking to some other guy from that dating app while she is talking and going out with me. I don't get it why talk to me after I left and that too when you have someone else in your life. I didn't like that situation so I left her again.
Why would she do that?
Why would she do that?
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You two didn't agree to be exclusive as a couple... dating is for finding and connecting with a potential partner who is interested in building a relationship with you. Clearly she has a priority of finding someone who she vibes with, and connects with to build that long term relationship type of commitment she is looking for. SHE knows what she wants for herself, and is putting herself out there until she finds it.
You chose to block her, so she moved onward. Nothing wrong with that. You two weren't a couple, and if you were, you choosing to block her after a fight / argument showed her a lot about you. Maybe she wants to find someone more suited to her, but gave you a second chance to see if things work, and how YOU would handle the situation.
She had already given you an opportunity and you ended up blocking her, for some people, there's really no correcting that behavioural image when it's so prevalent that early on in the dating stage.
She is not looking for a long term relationship though. I was looking for a long term relationship. And this was not the first argument but it was something that pushed me to block her. Most of the arguments were about her not wanting a long term relationship and her marrying someone her parents decide (arrange marriage) and how it is better to go out as just friends and not get feelings involved because her marriage is fixed or how she is from a conservative family so she can't talk for long. Now that I think about it, I am not sure why we even went out in the first place considering her marriage was fixed way before we met. Thank you for your comment. It made me realise something that I was not able to before. by the way, we are in our early 20s and not from the US.
AH, traditions / religions have a HUGE play on peoples lives. You both are still super young, and honestly if she has an arranged marriage, she could be seeking for the fun of it, seeing who is out there and available to date until she has to tie the knot with her arranged partner.
Sometimes, depending the religion, if the woman finds a partner herself, she can have the option of marrying that person, instead of her parents forcing her to marry and begin a totally new relationship with someone THEY chose.
It's good you have gotten out of the situation, it doesn't sound like either of you could benefit from being in a committed relationship, since the religious / traditional beliefs are not in alignment. I hope you find someone you can obtain that long term relationship with, and who is interested in committing to you. Don't give up! You have tons of time to find the right one!
Thank you Sally!
All the who-texted/blocked whom is tmi... Bottom line, you're questioning whether she's hoping back on the app too soon after her breakup. But the actual question should be "why" not "how soon" -- she's clearly insecure and also doesn't KNOW herself. She went from a girlfriend to you... you're her rebound... you don't know how many other times she's done this so you might not be "the rebound" from her last relationship, you may just be "A Rebound" from a long line of rebounds hailing back to her last meaningful relationship...
YOU should move on and not mess with this chick. SHE needs to find the therapeutic app and ditch dating apps altogether bc they're not doing what she wants them to do for her.
Is never jumping back in an option?