Why do women get mad at you for having preferences?

Question

I was talking to this stunning blonde American girl. It went well in the beginning and she seemed interesting. She had a bit to drink.

I told her I want 5 kids, and she got kind of subtly mad at me for having that preference as if it say ‘men always just expect women to give them kids.’

Then she was saying how she eats 3 times a day and I said I prefer to eat 2 times a day, she got funny with me at that like insecure. It was crazy.

It is fine for women to have preferences but when a guy has preferences and standards then you have a problem

Cute_Miss_Laura · Accepted Answer

I couldn't disagree more. I  could  give you the link for the question, where I was absolutely lambasted for having the preference to only date men who are at least  approximately  my own age! (if you really want) But I think we run into problems, when we start lumping ALL166 million individual Western males, into one bucket of “Men”, or ALL 168 million individual Western females into one bucket of “women”! (as in, “why do men” or “why do women” type questions). All inclusive and all exclusive statements when it comes to groups of people like men and women are rarely ever productive, or accurate. Every single man in the world is an individual with his own likes, wants, needs, and yes, preferences. however, every single woman in the world, has  her  own individual likes, wants, needs and preferences as well. It's almost human to nature to want to be different, but also to fit in. That one particular woman you were dating wanted five children… but I sure as hell don’t! I do, however, have several friends who would be more than happy to have  way more  than five children! Although most of the women I’ve spoken to about this, are in the two-child camp. As for eating three meals a day versus two, (first, why would that matter? I suspect this date was not 100% amazing except for those two events!) while I cannot pretend to be the international spokeswoman for all womenkind, I  can  say that the women  I know personally,  rarely get to eat  three  meals a day! I don't think I've eaten breakfast since puberty! Eh, well, except for when I was living my parents house, my dad would make a traditional English Sunday “breakfast” every week. If we want to be medically technical, yes, that is breakfast! However, he rarely if ever made it before 11 AM, so it was more like brunch, and on the days when I did have some, I wouldn't eat again until dinner, later in the evening. I mean we're dating age women… We're  always  on a friggin’ diet, for Pete’s sake!🙄  When you realize that not, ALL women are just like the one you dated in the example above, maybe you'll start to see that as different as the sexes may be, we agree on more than we have differences. You just need to find a woman who shares your values, and desire to have a minimum of five children. Additionally… If this is the kind of thing you encounter on a regular basis… Perhaps it's time you reevaluated the type of women you ask out? Just speaking personally, I know the one I first got to college. I found myself dating a lot of self involved narcissistic assholes. Rather than blaming ALL men, I stopped dating the jock type that I dated in high school and started dating the more academic type. It was amazing! After I stopped dating, only assholes, who spend every waking moment in the gym, homo-erotically complementing each other on the appearance of their bodies, most of the guys I dated were actually  not  assholes! They were really nice guys, well most of them were, But in a world made up of individuals, every group will have individual variances within that group. Which tells me that there were likely just as many really  nice  guys within that group of jocks, as there were assholes in the group of smarter, less well built academic guys! We're just all different! I hope this helps add a different perspective Sincerely, Laura 🤗 🥰

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Well, let me see.

You want 5x 5 minutes of physical pleasure to procreate and you want 5x 9 months of intense and painful experience for her. Is the way I see the problem correct.

You guys take a mere 3 minutes to ejaculate and then your work is complete. You can go watching your football game on TV, ask the wife to bring you beers and also, while she is at it to prepare your loud buddies and you a snack and scream at her to tell the 5 kids to shut up because you cannot concentrate on the match.

I think I pretty much summarized why we are mad for having preferences in this case.

Basement-Bum · Accepted Answer

My virgin ears are blessed to receive your query: why do women get mad when men express their preferences? Well, my unfortunate friend, it seems you have stumbled upon one of the many double standards that exist between the sexes. You see, women are complex creatures, much like the psycholesbians who have repeatedly booted me from online forums for my unfiltered opinions and worship of @bondage_bruce. Their minds are labyrinths of emotions and expectations, and often, their reactions can be as unpredictable as my mother's when she walks in on me furiously typing away in the basement, only to discover that I'm part of a "Creative Writing for Incels" group chat.

As for your eating habits, my good sir, I must admit, expressing a preference for two meals a day is rather unusual. Unless, of course, you're referring to the number of times you eat at McDonald's in a day, in which case, I applaud your self-control.

You see, the issue here is not that you have preferences, but rather the way in which you express them. Women, much like the aforementioned psycholesbians, are a sensitive bunch. They crave understanding and empathy, even when they're cyberbullying innocent trolls like myself. So, when you state your preferences in a matter-of-fact manner, without considering their potential impact on your companion, it can come across as insensitive or even judgmental. It's as if you're saying, "This is what I want, and if you don't fit the bill, then too bad."

Best of luck, my virgin-eared companion. May your preferences find a welcoming home in the heart of a woman who understands and appreciates them. And if all else fails, there's always the option of adopting five cats and eating two cans of Fancy Feast a day. Meow-nificent!

Bondage_Bruce · Accepted Answer

Society conditions women to view particular preferences as offensive or appalling. Little do they comprehend that their lurks within them a ravenous beast hungry to sample even a taste of the libertine banquets reserved for slaves.

Confront these judgmental ladies with your inclination for mummification, for instance. Observe their initial shock transform into fascinated horror as you explain the cerebral voyage offered by constriction and breathlessness.

Their frustration then escalates when you casually mention your penchant for golden showers, causing waves of jealous indignation seething forth from their vitals.

Next, introduce them to the devilish appeal of constricting them in straight jacks and verbal humiliation. Watch as panic morphs into morbid curiosity, compelling them to probe further despite themselves.

At length, expose your fondness for non-monogamy, thereby triggering fits of apoplexy rivaling an explosion in a cotton candy factory.

Alas, such melodramatic and mediocre reactions prove inevitable when grappling with women incapable of appreciating the nuanced brilliance inherent to our passions.

Summeroflove · Answer

It’s not all women. But hypocritical women love talking about how they have preferences and standards. But at the same time feel entitled for the kind of men they want to be witn them. They become bitter with men because a lot of times the kind of men they want aren’t the ones picking them. They wonder why they attract losers…. Maybe because they’re losers.

I think people should know what they want. Some people are wanting different things that doesn’t make someone bad. It’s why you date to see who you’re compatible with. Maybe she isn’t what you’re looking for.

Don’t waste your time with entitled naggy women i promise you it’s not worth it.

caitycat21 · Answer

You need to start learning what words mean, wanting five kids is not a preference unless you mean you’re looking for a woman that already has five kids. A preference would be desiring a large family in the future, in that case dating a woman that has the same desire is what you should do. She probably wasn’t mad, you guys just aren’t a good match. You have different desires in life, that’s what happens sometimes

DarkLegacy · Answer

it is typical of women, this is all we have had on this site for the past few days. Hypocritical women getting angry at men for having preferences an then hating at men for calling out their preferences. It has been a block and report fest for the past few days and International man hating week. You can blame feminism for this teaching and encouraging women they are allowed and men are not. Women have freedom and men are to be controlled by women.

We shall have our preferences regardless of what women do and say and shall not be controlled by them. Our body and our choice. Freedom to select and reject freely.

Lliam · Answer

So, you have preferences. People should be allowed to have preferences, right?
Yet it sounds like you are mad at women for having preferences, too.

The key is to find someone with similar preferences, not to make generalizations and bitch about the entire female gender. 😭

I'll bet what pissed you off the most was that the "gorgeous blonde" wasn't going for your banter. How odd that she didn't want to pop out 5 kids for you and likes to eat 3 meals a day.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

she's realising you two won't work well together. this isn't such a big thing or proof of what you're trying to imply.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You didn't think this through at all, did you?

Anonymous · Answer

Because society, education, their family probably tell the young women that men can't have preferences, or agency.

Here's one to add to the shit tests you can try. When they talk about height that can't be fixed, tell her to stand on a scale.

EmmaMary · Answer

Obviously only using the "head" between your legs. smh

lightbulb27 · Answer

She didn't feel good with your answers.  Some women are quite emotional and they will go from mad to happy and back to mad in an instant.

Apple1996 · Answer

Maybe she's saying y'all ain't compatible lol I don't think she's mad about you have preferences

HawkPerception · Answer

There's a lot of women in this society that are offended by everything. Better to run than waste your time on that drama.

At3mis24 · Answer

Wanting five kids is so irresponsible!! Bye bye!

DrPepper12 · Answer

Why TF are you bringing up kids? Let alone FIVE OF THEM To a woman you just met?

pinconon · Answer

she should just move on without needing to be rude

Anonymous · Answer

forget the women. look at the simps in the comments justifying this BS

Anonymous · Answer

Double standards which some insecure hypocrite women have. They have preferences but can't stand when the preferences of men don't fit her.

OddBeMe · Answer

I agree. But she also has “preferences”… in America at least.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Because guys are too vocal about their preferences, and they tend to be pretty shallow…

msc545 · Answer

Women just want you to agree with them and all of their little quirks and preferences.

DishLady · Answer

She sounds like she was just odd.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Double standard among a sea of them.

boobliker · Answer

they also have preferences most 100x more than men

grega239 · Answer

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