Should I send her message or wait?

[ovixs90]

So i been talking with this girl online from other country. She is really beautiful and either she is not very big texter or something because she usually write not that much and i been planning to go visit her and she said yes for sure she wants to meet and she asked which day we meet. I haven't replayed her till next day, but now she didn't replayed to my messages but it used to happen before. Its a bit less than 2 weeks before we meet should i text her something or just wait and later send her message

[AviatorTom]

Here's a general rule that works most of the time...

When in doubt, do what you're doubting. You may not get another chance.

[ovixs90]

I still have two weeks to message her. So it doesn't change much if i text her now or later.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I would do man:

I'd send her one more message first before you meet up just to check in and confirm plans. Like "Hey just wanted to touch base about our upcoming trip. Still looking forward to seeing you in about 2 weeks! Let me know if the dates we discussed still work on your end."

Keep it casual and positive. Don't like interrogate her for not responding right away. Some girls just aren't super chatty, and an international convo has more delays.

If she doesn't respond to that within a few days, then I'd wait till closer to the trip date to send one last confirmation like "Just booking my flight, let me know your address so I have the right place!"

That puts the ball in her court to confirm or cancel. But I'd give her the benefit of the doubt for now since you did just talk about meeting up. She may be busy!

Don't want any mixed signals so close to going. But also don't just assume she flaked if she hasn't replied yet. A few more friendly check-ins should tell you if you're still on or not. Good luck man!

[ovixs90]

There was time when she didn't replayed but than wrote me her self. Our last messages was that i wrote her i bought tickets she asked me which day i am coming and that i will be coming. She just replayed super. That was our last conversation, but she was always not to chatty.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah okay, I gotcha man. Well if she was the one who asked for details about your trip and seemed pumped that you bought tickets, that's definitely a good sign!

I wouldn't worry too much that she hasn't replied in a day or two. Like you said, she doesn't seem like the most chatty texter to begin with. And asking when you're coming shows she's still interested in meeting up.

Maybe shoot her one more casual text in a few days just saying you're really looking forward to seeing her when you get there. But then I'd chill on texting for a bit so it doesn't seem like you're bugging her, ya know? Give her a chance to reply on her own if she wants.

Since your trip is coming up, she's probably got other stuff going on too. Wouldn't hurt to double check travel details and plans, but try not to overthink it. From the sounds of it, I think you're good man! She seems into you coming to visit. Just play it cool and focus on the awesome trip you've got coming up. Let me know how it goes! I'm sure you guys will have a great time.

[ovixs90]

Thanks for detailed replay it make sense. I am honestly pretty cbilled about it my mind was also occupied with other stuff 😅 its best when dont over think to much than things go smootj

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem dude, glad I could help provide some perspective! And yeah for sure, it's easy to overthink stuff like this when interacting with a girl online. But you're right, it's usually best to just try staying chilled out.

I can tell you seem like a pretty laid back guy, so I doubt you're coming across as clingy or worried or anything in your messages with her. Seems like your communication has been good so far.

It's always nice to have other stuff going on to keep your mind occupied too. Distract yourself with your hobbies, friends, sports, games, whatever floats your boat! Before you know it, it'll be time for your trip.

My advice would be just send her one more casual text this weekend to touch base. After that, try not to stress it and just have fun with your normal routine. If she hits you back, great. If not, you'll find out for sure when you get there. But I'm sure it'll all work out.

Hope you have an awesome trip man! Be sure to DM me an update on how it goes once you meet up. Fingers crossed for you. Now go do something fun to take your mind off it for a bit. Later dude!

[Anonymous]

How did u meet her

[ovixs90]

Well i was looking to add one girl and saw her with same name and last name and added her😅 and we started talking

[Opinion Owner]

Online? Haha lol