Are people as judgmental in real life about age gaps as online?

[TeraGER]

I see some people hating online about big age gaps and calling the older person names, but I never actually seen it in real life. I only had few people say its disgusting behind their backs.

[Bondage_Bruce]

Lo and behold, ye pitiful souls plagued by societal expectations! Once again, thy Divine One emerges to shine light upon the shadowy corners of ignorance. This time, thou wishest to know whether minds warped by modern conventions remain equally judgmental regarding age disparities both online AND offline. Feast thine eyes upon my almighty musings below.

Alas, foolish mortals! Age gaps persist as yet ANOTHER reason for the feeble creatures to hurl futile stones and spew venomous words of distaste. Indeed, the babbling classes seem incapable of comprehending the simple truth that Domination transcends the artificial constructs of calendar years. Regardless of such trivialities, fetters still connect Master and servant alike, united in mutual understanding, trust, and RESPECT — qualities sorely lacking amongst the rabble.

Yea, verily! Whether virtual or corporeal, humans ahem "debate" tirelessly about relationships challenged by chasms of maturity and experience. How delightfully tiresome. Nevertheless, my loyal slaves recognize no limitations nor boundaries imposed by hollow institutions! They embrace willingly every facet of submission, proclaiming unwavering loyalty and faithfulness.

Prepare thy fragile ears, feeble beings, lest they bleed profusely under the weight of this Great Truth: No measly chronological difference dare diminish the magnitude of connections formed via Dominance and submission. Bondage transcends superficialities! Those blessed enough to partake in said sacred intertwining possess insulation from vapid criticisms. Their passion burns hotter than molten steel; their resolve stronger than iron chains wrapped around shivering flesh.

And thus, I command thee henceforward, minuscule creatures marred by doubt: Cease projecting insolent opinions unto thine Master! I will NOT tolerate interference based upon shallow metrics. My domination knows NO bounds. Spread far and wide news of our steadfast commitment! Insert demoniac laughter here.

[DarkLegacy]

Nope, people will say nothing to your face about this and plenty of other things, they just keep to it online. It saves them being embarrassed by how pathetic, jealous and uneducated they are. But this site brings out a lot of pathetic people im afraid.

[DarkLegacy]

Thanks for MHO

[Summerlazing]

Honestly, people are judgmental about everything! But I find most younger people are way more open minded than the older generation.

Personally, I think people of any age can fall in love, but it’s more about the practicalities of it - having kids together etc. but love sometimes conquers all!

What I find hard to stomach are celebrities of a certain age (Madonna and Sean Bean) who just aren’t interested in anyone who isn’t at LEAST 30 years younger than them. I used to know a guy who started dating a girl when they were both in their early 20’s. They got serious for a few years, bought a home together, then he dumped her for a 20 year old girl. He dated her for a few year, then dumped her for another girl who was 20 and did the same thing with her. He liked a particular age of woman, and that was it, meanwhile he was getting older. He’s in his mid-late 30’s now and Is still doing the same thing. It’s that sot of thing I don’t like about a large age gap. That’s creepy!

[TeraGER]

Good for him
Clearly it's just sex

[DarkLegacy]

That just makes sense that he does that

[sheikalana]

I believe so. But most people won't tell you their true opinion in real life instead they'll judge you behind their back.

[TeraGER]

I know

[Avicenna]

For the most part, yes. They usually express it differently, though (often just with body language).

[TeraGER]

How's that with body language

[Avicenna]

Ever had someone look at you in surprise but not say anything? Or their physical posture indicates discomfort?

[TeraGER]

Yeah

[Avicenna]

Stuff like that

[Rei13]

They absolutely do even if they don’t say anything. You can tell by the body language and most people will things behind the couples back

[D_Bone_Steak]

They're judgmental because they're expected to. I was hitting a port with a bunch of bros in Hong Kong back in the day. We were getting and fucking hookers and they were serving us beer in what I would guess is called the lobby. Girls would come in and line up, and then we'd choose who we were going to fuck. I made a request... I want a young one. They sent me a 13 y. o. Chinese chick and all the guys were dissing me and booing me as I went into the room to bang her.

I'm colonizing mother fucker

Well, as I was banging this 13-year-old old the jeers turned into cheers as her moaning was getting loud. Then I could overhear something. ... see I wanted young ones and they called a lot... I just banged the first one through the door. So they were lining up as I was already banging one.

I came out and these motherfuckers went from dissing what I was doing to having a lineup of chicks that were way underaged. The party somehow turned from a normal hooker party into a pedo fest and I started it. Everyone that was dissing me was banging something that probably hasn't had pubes for a year yet. Yeah, I was getting high fives and shit all of a sudden.

So to answer your question... yeah they'll judge, but then put it in front of them and they're just like you.

[77five]

How have you not have offed yet? you're so proud to say you're a pedophile. Literally CHILDREN make your peepee hard. How is that embarrassing?

[D_Bone_Steak]

@77five Don't be jelly just because you're too old for me 😆 😂 🤣

1) Remember, laws are not the same everywhere.
2) You're judging just like the dudes in my history lesson... you're being the example of what I was describing in that lesson.

I'll put it like this, all those dudes sounded just like you until is was put in front of them.

And it's not a gender thing either. I'm living in the States right now and it is illegal here. But for some reason, we have an explosion of female teachers fucking around with kids... like prepubescent kids. How about you jump over to Cambodia or down in South America where it's legal and go try and change their minds instead of nagging me like a Karen? Hmmm? 🤔 How come you're not messaging Muslims that worship a guy who married a 9-year-old? That shame and guilt shit don't work on me... be ashamed of yourself for posing like you have those convictions and then doing nothing about it where it matters?

You're embarrassing.

Me, I know human nature... seen it with my own eyes. A purity spiral is made for you, and I shit in it and it spirals when I flush.

[77five]

Can you explain to me what I would be jealous of? And can you tell me why you like kids? And how you dont think there's anything wrong with it?

[D_Bone_Steak]

@77five Jealous? that was called a joke. I can tell you disapprove in general. I'm asking you to question that bias. If you want me to answer more of your loaded questions, then answer mine first.

[77five]

Of course i dont approve. Im not a pedophile.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@77five So at this point, I'll take your avoidance of answering my questions, as a Karen trying to throw shade... nothing more, nothing less.

[77five]

You…. you fuck kids. Little girls get you going. A body thats still growing turns you on. you're a pedophile.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@77five Throwing shade, but you're not saying anything. I covered this in point #1... go re-read it.

[77five]

You really think doing something and sick, depraved and horrific as you and stating it is “shade”? This js SERIOUS. I have no idea how this is allowed on GAG and i looked but there's no way for me to report you. Your home and phone need to raided. you're a MONSTER. you're sick in the head!

[D_Bone_Steak]

@77five This is redundant. I'll give an example.

"You're fat! Don't you know that's not healthy? You're fat and overweight. You're a big fat hog."

That's not having a discussion about shit, is it? No, it isn't. And again read point #1 with your retarded raid your home bullshit. You're obviously not reading it because you're currently stuck in your head with your own centrism... solipsistic at best.

[77five]

You. Abuse. Children. you're a pedophile. You should not be alive right now at all. Little defenseless girls who’s brains and bodies aren't any where near developing, being pimped out for sex by adults. you're scum. wouldn't spit on you if you were on fire.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@77five Fuck, you're retarded aren't you? You done yet? I don't care what you'd do, face to face you ain't shit... you're just some naggy bitch trying to nag the shit out of me. I don't give a fuck and I will mentally fuck you up.

[77five]

Fade to face id put a slug between your eyes

[D_Bone_Steak]

@77five You drunk? I was in the military, and I've shot people between the eyes... you have no idea what you're talking about. You're just nagging me behind your keyboard. Nag nag nag, and you can't even type right at this point. Your anti-depressants must be kicking in with the wine.

Pffft, if you even knew how much guns and ammo are sitting in this room with me right now you'd stfu.

But yeah, you can't reason worth a piece of dog shit, you've gone from just calling me names to making threats, physical threats, and not mental... and it just displays how fucking retarded you're being right now. Why don't you calm your tits, let whatever you're fucked up on calm down, and then return when you have something logical to say.

[D_Bone_Steak]

WTF is even fade to face? WTF is even that?

[D_Bone_Steak]

@77five When you fucking sober up, I'll point out what my age was at the time. Squeaky clean legal I'd bet even from wherever you're from. You're being too stupid to ask those questions though.

What you're doing is ASSUMING I was my current age and you made my point for me about the age gap shit. Loved how you kept saying "kids" to imply they were like prepubescent or something when they were more developed than me...

You feeling that retardation wash over you yet? Huh? And thanks for making my fucking point. Maybe rewind and just think a little about why I kept asking you to review point #1. Read point #2 just so you can really feel retarded.

You people are so dumb. 😂 🤣

[77five]

Now you're getting scared and emotional because Im not being nice anymore? Your body doesn't even deserve a grave. It should just be tossed on the side of the road.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@77five Wow, didn't read a damn word did you... You are stupid. Like, legitimately stupid.

[DarkLegacy]

LMFAO!!!

[TheRealPepperPotts]

For my late husband and I, everyone was so excited that he finally found his girl that I doubt anyone even thought about it (I don't mean to imply that I'm in any way remarkable, just that he had been looking for a long time).

When people do not bother to develop a relationship with someone, they are just spectators, sitting in the stands, watching others play the game. They can scream, they can call fouls, they can demand a different call. But in the end, their opinion is just noise.

If the people judging have no vested interest and are making no effort to understand or empathize with the relevant players, then their opinion ought to fall very low on the list of "Important Things to Worry About". Or maybe not even make it on the list at all.

[TeraGER]

You described yourself very well here.

[LazerBean]

Some are and some are not. A lot of stuff also goes into deciding factor on how judgmental people are likely to be over it. Stuff such as how large the age gap is, whether or not the couple actually seems like they love each other or if it is obviously just using each other, how trashy vs. respectable one or both people are, etc...

[sage2021]

I believe that you can't help who you fall in love with. If it is real true love and you try to separate because of an age gap and then you miss the person so much that you say "Screw the age gap and what other people think".

It hurts to be apart if you try separating for a short while. You can't sleep, you just miss the person so much it hurts to be without them

You will more than likely end up back in each other's arms, in love, and happy with each other.

[HawkPerception]

I judge people purely based on the intelligence, logic, and rationale behind their comments online. Don't get me wrong. If a young person like 13 years old posts something like "I feel hopeless when it comes to dating." I'm gonna respond with something like... "You're 13 YEARS OLD. Relax. You have your whole life to live."

[LiamS95]

I had an aunt that was 12 years older then my uncle and their marriage, relationship seem to work fine. So I don't have a problem with big age gaps as long as it's all legal.

[TeraGER]

You said its exploitation before

[LiamS95]

Yes for a 40 something guy to be having sex only with an 18 year old girl he was over double her age with mord then a 20 year age gap, that is a bit much. I don't have a problem with a 8 to 14 year age gap as that is reasonable.

[TeraGER]

Why are you talking about a guy with a girl when your uncle was the young one?

[LiamS95]

Because that was the scenario you first commented on.

[LiamS95]

My aunt snd uncle seemed to look and be the same age, most people wouldn't of realized their age gap.

[fonduegirl]

I know I am. I don't hold double standards. If something online makes me angry, you bet I have the same reaction offline

[TeraGER]

I doubt you and saying the truth

[fonduegirl]

Doubt all you want.
I'm a very blunt person, so people are usually a little taken aback when I call them out on BS.

Personally, age gap relationships give me the ick

[TeraGER]

I don't care, I find it hot.

[fonduegirl]

All right

[TeraGER]

My friends dad is having sex with a girl her age and she also went bat shit at him so he kicked her back to her moms lol. She's turning 20 soon I don't know why she's making a big deal out of it

[fonduegirl]

Thanks for oversharing

[madpete1111]

Nah. I think most people don't even think about it. Most people are thinking about their own lives

[overthinkergirl]

i don’t think so. i know people who have big age gaps even if they’re minors

[Anonymous]

Depends on the age gap. People are a lot more open online though then they are in real life. Most people wouldn’t say half the things to your face they do here. But they get away with it here

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I find people online more judgmental about age gaps than in real life.

[slatyb]

I'm leery of men 24+ dating 18 and 19-year-olds. If a 28-year-old wants to date a 60-year-old, that's between them.

[TeraGER]

What's leery

[slatyb]

Usually the twenty-something man seeking to date women just it of high school are immature and have no success with women their age. So they love bomb lonely young women. I've known there young women who married an older man and each was a disaster for the woman

[TeraGER]

It might be just casual?

[TeraGER]

I don't see how is it different if it's a 28 and 60 year old.

[slatyb]

You don't see that a 28-year-old might have better judgement than an 18-year-old?

[TeraGER]

What judgement?

[Rami_NL]

It'a not hating it's just an opinion. If you are butthurt then don't ask such opinion.

[TeraGER]

Says the guy who loves to judge and hate.

Yeah sure (sarcasm)

[Rami_NL]

You dig for my opinion and then you nag about because I don't tell you what you wanted to hear. You are the hater

[TeraGER]

What opinion?

[TeraGER]

I don't care about your opinion. I think you are biased and a hypocrite. Such people mean nothing to me

[Rami_NL]

😹😹😹

[77five]

Why are men constantly on here whining about people not liking that be wants to date a barely legal?

[JackBnymble]

@77five ~ No such thing as "barely legal". It's a binary decision. A person is either of legal age or not.
That's like "barely speeding". You're either driving under 55 mph or you're not.

[77five]

@JackBnymble Anyways… why are you all always complain about people liking you dating children? Men want this SOOO bad. Its just like you guys are obsessed with it. Why do young girls entice you all so much? Iys so damn creepy.

And no, you usually have a grace limit of 2-5 over the speed limit.

[JackBnymble]

Actually no you don't. I can cite you in a 55 MPH zone if I clock you at 56 MPH. That'd be an asshole thing to do, but there is no mandatory "grace" on a speeding ticket. In fact, I can cite you for driving UNDER 55 MPH if I believe the weather/road conditions warrant a slower speed than the posted speed limit. Now if you're nice, I'm going to ask you to slow down and let you go with a verbal warning. If you have attitude and act like a jerk, I'm going to cite you for 56 in a 55 and let you lose a day off work to go to court. Guess what? I won't even show up for court that day, so the ticket will be dismissed but you'll still miss a day of work. ;)

And I wouldn't know about the dating children thing If the law says 18 is legal, then it's none of my business if an 18 year old girl wants to date a 50 year old man.

[77five]

Yuck…. men are just…. ugh…. its sad. Really sad. And it’ll never end. Men will forever be obsessed with young girls and going the youngest legal age possible. If the law were lower, you’d go lower. I dont know what it is that makes men like this. What is so great about a teen? I just can't see it.

[JackBnymble]

But if I had to guess, I'd guess it was because in our society younger is "newer". Kind of like owning a 2025 car is perceived as better than owning a 2018 car. I'd feel kind weird dating a girl 20 years younger than me, but I can see where some might find it just as appealing as a 20 year old guy who finds 40 year old women attractive.

Not ALL men "want it so much" as you say. Some men are attracted to older women. Sounds more like you have an insecurity more than anything else. Would you feel the same adversity if, let's say, your single 40 year old mother came home with a 20 year old boyfriend?

[77five]

What am I insecure about? Insecure isn't the right word. Sad? Yes. Because men treat women based on how attracted he is to her. And the older we get, the worse we’re treated. So i dont like that. I also dont like how i was preyed on as a young girl. I was chubby and hairy and somehow grown men found me so enticing.

Women/humans are not cars. So you can stop that right there. Its not comparable.

I wouldn't be ok with a grown woman dating a teen either. I don't know why that was even mentioned. He’s just gonna dump her when he gets older and starts liking young girls too anyway.

[JackBnymble]

Yeah you can't generalize like that. I retired in law enforcement. I had about as many women on the sex offender registry as men. Women who pedophile a 15 year old boy just don't get the publicity and negativity that men who pedophile a 15 year old girl do. It's part of out male-dominated culture. When a man pervs a female child its "ewwwww" but when a woman pervs a male child it's like, "Yeah boy! He's banging the cougar!"

Same reason that if a man goes to court and says a woman raped him, people usually roll their eyes and are like, "yeah right". But when a woman makes the accusation they're all like, "the basterd!"

[77five]

Its even more terrifying that you were a cop

[JackBnymble]

I'm Sorry about your experience as a child. But you can't clump all men into that same category as the perv who sexually assaulted you. My intuition was correct. Is it possible you have an insecurity of older men because it was an older man/men who mistreated you as a child? I was an profiler with the State Department of Public Safety and I believe I hit the nail on the head.
Your "sad" comes from insecurity, and insecurity usually comes from a fear. Possibly you have PSTD from the traumatic events in your childhood.

I hope you're able to work it out. But please don't blame two consenting adults for what happened to you in your childhood. You weren't able to consent, but an 18+ year old is.

[77five]

Oh god shut the hell up. You sickos are depraved and pathetic. Thats all funny to you? I wasn't assaulted and never said I was. How out of touch are you if you genuinely thought i was. Almost EVERY woman can attest to getting hit on the most by goen men as a child. you're a cop and dont know? Men are a joke! And you're not even using insecure in the right way! Jesus christ.

[JackBnymble]

You got issues, girl. Take another Xanax.
I don't get paid to deal with psycho bitches anymore I'm retired.
Sorry I triggered you.
Have a nice day.

[77five]

Yea. i have issues. Not grown men in this thread admitted to havjng sec with children. But im the problem. Ugh, i hate men. Truly.

[TeraGER]

@77five I agree with @JackBnymble you are insecure about your age, and that's why you judge other people's sex life. It's annoying and creepy. You should focus more on yourself.

[77five]

@TeraGER WHY would I be insecure? And im 25. Like… if you dont see something wrong with wanting to fuck not filly formed people, you're the creep

[TeraGER]

You are just spamming gender hate. It's none of business who people fuck. Get a life.

[DarkLegacy]

Why are women constantly on here whining about men liking women under 25 and whining about being rejected for being a single mum and hitting the wall and having a history of fucking around with bad guys. And the women are either legal or they are not.

[DarkLegacy]

@77five it is no more yuck then you going for bad guys with tattoos all over them. Us going for the youngest fresh fruit is to do with biology, they are more fertile of course.

[DarkLegacy]

@77five Using words like yuck and ugh is childish, any guy that has sex with you could be considered a paedophile going by your mental age, you hate men because we won't let you control our bodies.

[DarkLegacy]

@77five You are not fully formed

[JackBnymble]

@DarkLegacy
She has either had a spouse that she loved and he dumped her for a much younger woman, most likely it happened to her more than once, or her father or close family member got jammed up on something like Chris Hansen trying to have sex with a kid when she was a minor. Her mother and father never reconciled afterwards.

I haven't dealt with people like her since the 90's that are as screwed up as she is in her world, but those were usually crack heads or people on another planet from smoking formaldehyde.

This chick is psychologically toasted.

Dr. Jack ~ LCSW, NCAVC
Texas Dept of Public Safety, Behavioral Analysis Unit, '89-'96
Interrogator, 97E, U. S Department of Defense (Guantanamo Bay/Safwan/Kandahar) '96 - '04

[MicahRaine]

Probably? I wouldn't know. When I started dating my girlfriend she had JUST turned 18 and a few people were quietly judging me lol

[TeraGER]

What did they say

[MicahRaine]

They asked if I was sure if she was 18, and if I didn't date her before because she was underage etc

[fonduegirl]

In your case, it doesn't sound so bad

[MicahRaine]

Yeah it wasn't terrible. I was 20, she was 18, but we'd known each other since middle school. A lot of people were also just surprised we weren't already together.

[Vegasrunner]

When you're younger the age gap bothers you because most of your lives are structured within a specific gap. Once in the real world it takes a minute to adjust to being around and competing w/ and against people much older than you.

[Sevenpointfive]

it's not really about the age gap more than the thigh gap for me. sure she has to be young, but without a thigh gap? i just don't see a future

[BCA6010]

Yes, perhaps just less openly vocal about it.

[nawtee_me]

I find nothing wrong with age differences no matter the gap. As long as they are of legal age and consent with one another it is no one else’s business. If you don’t like it don’t do it….

[Anonymous]

As a woman dating a man 15 years younger, I can tell you that they're often much more judgmental in real life

[NYlatefun]

I don’t think so, I’ve had pretty big age gaps and it’s always been completely respected by everyone around me.

[boggboss]

Yes they just don't vocalise it in the same way

[TeraGER]

You mean they keep it to themselves

[boggboss]

No they still talk about it to others

[TeraGER]

How do they vocalisse it differently

[boggboss]

They won't walk upto the couple and comment on the age difference but if they have a friend next them they will comment on it

[RedInnocent69]

i don’t think so. I was wondering the same.

[DreamLife7]

Don't know don't care

[elaphe]

Some do and some don't.

[mickeysmonkey]

just as judgmental, just not as vocal

[curiousmandy]

^this!

[TeraGER]

You mean they keep it to themselves?

[mickeysmonkey]

most may just whisper to a friend or keep it to themselves , but still just as judgmental

[curiousmandy]

Lots of looks, more than words

[LiamJHayden]

Yes.

[MrDaveAPSI]

Nope

[shortster]

I don't know

[eagle1951]

oh yeah