Do you care about an age gap?

Question

Whats the max? And do you mind it? I'm a bit older than my man

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

I actually prefer an age gap at this point (58). It's not science by any means and not true for all women but my experience is that a LOT of women in their late 40's and 50's have a lot of baggage they are dragging around. I can't fix that. So I won't try.

I've dated women these ages in the past few years...

25 she went after me.

27 she went after me.

28 she went after me.

35 she went after me.

37 she went after me.

45 she went after me.

I honestly don't chase younger women and I can be really hard to get to know. Dunno why they kept at it till I gave in. I have actually been shocked by the age gap some of them found acceptable.

Mid 20's are too young in my opinion. They were relatively mentally mature and fun. And they were more physically able to keep up with me. But there were too many cultural and experiential differences for anything long term.

Early 30's to late 40's seems to be the sweet spot for me. Completely matured personalities. Know better what they want. Still great looking and great in bed. Still able to do stuff like skiing. Better able to connect based on experiences and culture.

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

So long as you’re less than 3 years older than him all is well

Personally I don’t mad age gaps

But I do recognize that the bigger the gap the harder it is to build for the future

A nice rule of thumb I like is:
Take my age divide it by 4 and use that number as a gap in either direction

So me being 27 now means any girl from the age of 20 to 34 is close enough to me to be somewhat relatable (the closer the better naturally)

And yes the gap gets bigger as I age because adults don’t change all that much between one or two years not like kids and teens who become a whole different person every year (but I have no intention of dating those)

naartjie · Accepted Answer

People who say “as long as they’re legal” scare me cause the legal age could be 11, and it is in some countries, and they’d be down. I’ve met people with this mentality and they’re scary.
I’m 24 and I wouldn’t date younger unless he was super mature nothing you younger than 21. Oldest I’d date is 30 and that’s kind of pushing it.

Malriarch1990 · Accepted Answer

Lol. You and me. Hated guys close to my own age. My husband is seven years older than me. Max difference, which is subject to change as we get older, is 15-18 years. Have trouble with the idea of dating someone who is old enough to be my dad or younger than me. Have always preferred guys at least three years older.

Summeroflove · Answer

Not over child bearing years and not under 18…. It matters to make a genuine connection

Finchie40 · Answer

Nope age doesn’t matter to me if her and I have great chemistry and connection together

LouieLouie69 · Answer

It really doesn’t matter what the age gap between two people is! When there is a genuine connection it doesn’t matter if there is a generational gap!! Remember, the heart wants what the heart wants and there is a bit of a security feeling being with someone older than you and vise versa it gives a nurturing personality someone to help, guide and take care of when with someone younger than them!! The point to remember is there is ONLY the two involved opinions that matter and who gives a #^#< what any “ Outsider “ may think?

Anonymous · Answer

Why does everyone talking about age gaps on here always freak out about age of consent? I have never had a guy care about age of consent when I wasn't 18. I have had tons of guys way older than me hit on me and I know my friends went through this also when we were in school. It was constant. But on here it's like the holy grail like no one would ever consider it if a girl is one day under 18. Phonies.

Shiprex · Answer

If you're a bit OLDER than your man (your profile says 20) then maybe you're treading on thin ice.

I think age gap is less important than maturity. Girls are told and conditioned to believe they are more mature than boys from the moment they can talk and it often causes them to get into things that are way beyond their capacity and opens them up to manipulation and heartache from users and players. This will taint their view of men as they get older and perhaps make them bitter IF they let themselves get into a habit of serving themselves up to guys who may be the hot stuff of the village but are really just dudes who know how to manipulate girls with things that excite them.

Once mature though there shouldn't be an issue with 10, 20 or 40 year age gaps if both are in stable life states they can return to should things go south.

NathanDavis · Answer

the biggest difference with an ex-girlfriend... was, she was four years younger than I am the rest were closer in age or my same age

Valdemort · Answer

Depending mostly on the emotional connection I feel with someone.

Realistically I won't go beyond 15 years over very quickly, but I imagine if I really feel attuned to someone, I might be open to it.

I don't remember ever feeling attracted to someone younger, but can't entirely say it wouldn't happen either.

BonbonEmpress · Answer

I'm already married with a 1 year age gap (I'm 23 and my husband is 24) but if that weren't the case I most likely wouldn't date people that are either younger by 3 years or older by 7 years but for the older people if I just seemed to click with them so well that I could make exceptions.

Tarifa · Answer

I prefer a little bit younger, but that's just me. I think all my girlfriends have been younger. My current partner is as well.

I think that an age gap becomes problematic - or difficult to handle - when it's more of a generation gap, i. e. when you approach the age of the father of the girl you want to date. Again, that's just me.

Stevepro68 · Answer

How much is a bit older? The age you have listed is 20. 16 years to 30 age has a magnified effect. If you are 55 and your dating someone 45 who cares. If you are 40 and dating 25 starting to be creepy. If you are 20 dating 16 can be illegal. So it's situations dependant.

4ngelic · Answer

yea i dont want to be a baby cougar or dating a much older man. ideally the closer in age the better for me. i'm 24 for reference. the absolute youngest i could date would be 20 1/2, and absolute oldest, 33. though those aren't ideal, 23-25 would be the best

emeraldsaphire · Answer

For the most part I don't, I don't have a max. I get concerned when we are talking about older guys 27+ going after barely legal girls. It  can  be predatory.

lucas262 · Answer

Honestly I'm most attracted to older women.
Never had much luck in my 20s sp om glad to know many women like older men. At 40 if I take care of myself and make some money I could still pull a 20 yr old. Trouble is many people will accept a 40 yr old woman dating younger men, but they will be much less likely to accept an older man.

silvermoon84 · Answer

How big is the age gap? My age range is between 30 and 50, so ten years either way. I prefer men my own age but as long as he’s in the age bracket I mentioned, I will date him.

I’m not a sugar baby or a cougar.

NicholasRedone · Answer

I think all couples on Earth should always be legal age plus - aka as long as a person is a legal adult and the other person in the relationship is a legal adult - couples are a couple as long as it's legal and all legal :)

Peterpanpan675 · Answer

Honestly it's a huge problem. It feels like I am a parent not a partner. She gets really annoyed by me parenting her. But I have to because she doesn't know how to do anything right. Like she has the turn the credit card around a bunch of times to check out. I know the cashier hates to see her coming. she asks stupid stupid questions to. They must hate us because of the dumb questions she asks.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Til a certain extent yeah.. Moreso with a younger woman than an older.. I won't go younger than 21.. And I won't go older than 45.. Unless she is fione.. But I also want children so I prefer a slightly younger woman..

Levin · Answer

Well, I think you can guess. I prefer younger. I could go much younger. But most important thing is emotional connection and that she stays in shape/cares about her health.

slatyb · Answer

No one else's opinion matters. I occasionally worry about very young women (18-22) being pursued by older men, because in my experience those relationships have been bad news for the woman.

HungTexan · Answer

I dint think it matters. Age is just a number. When I was 18 I had a relationship with a 40 year old woman. She was awesome, and taught me so much about sex.

Anonymous · Answer

You can't grow old with someone who is already old. At some point, you will still be young and active being married to a senior citizen where you have to change their diapers, make sure they dont fall and remind them to take their meds

Apple1996 · Answer

I prefer men a little bit younger than me. Id only go older if I really really liked the guy

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

My husband he is a lot old. He is the best He is all about family and we share the same values and we bought love our God Jehovah.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Older or slightly younger for a woman is fine. Dating younger men has always seemed weird to me.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I'm just about six years older than my wife. Originally, I'd wanted to stay within two to three years.

RandomUser1000 · Answer

As long as both are adults and good for each other.  Then the number doesn't matter that much.

MicahRaine · Answer

I think age gaps become less and less of a concern as people get older. 18yo dating 20yo? normal. 40yo dating a 34yo? not normal, per se, but totally okay.

fantasticass · Answer

Age doesn't matter. I'm 63 and my boyfriend is 48. ✌️

Caroline91 · Answer

We have a 15 year difference. It works for us.

Abbycado · Answer

I date around my own age. I don't see that changing.

stratford · Answer

Doesn't bother me as long as we're into each other. Judging by how amazing you look in your profile picture, I expect your guy can't believe his luck!

LiamS95 · Answer

I have news for you if your boy is younger then you he isn't a man yet, considering you're only 20.

molonski2 · Answer

Yes , at the age of 20 the guy should always be the older party.

AnonAndrew · Answer

As long as both parties have reached the age of consent, anything goes in my book.

exitseven · Answer

I uswd to think 10 years either way would be okay. Now that i am old I think a woman ten years older would be on medicare.

Staximus · Answer

If you're 20 and dating a younger guy you might have a problem psychologically and with the law

Desi_Butcher · Answer

Nope. Idgaf. Unless she's a minor then you have to f*king care about the age gap lol.

Agape93 · Answer

Long as they are at least 18, and still have a pulse, not truly.

Spencer10 · Answer

None of my business... as long as its legal. If it works it works.

Emmat178 · Answer

For me personally a few years younger or maximum 10 years older is fine. Everyone has their own preferences. I do think that a late teen (18-19) dating someone much older is creepy though.

SunnyRS · Answer

It does a bit to me, well mainly age is not the issue it's the change in perspective due to the experiences people have with age. I prefer women who are a bit like minded with me.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I've dated girls 20 years younger. Depends on the girl.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Do I care? No. I mean it’s a fair trade honestly. She is using him for his resources, he is using her for her body.. do what you do

WonderingManII · Answer

If it works for you two, then don't knock it.

GAGsucksballs89170 · Answer

I mean, ultimately, age shouldn't matter, but, to a point. I mean we don't need pedophiles out here, right, republicans? Right?

Anonymous · Answer

I’m talking to a guy who is 48 and I’m 31. But it sucks , he acts like he is 21. Sigh…

nawtee_me · Answer

The girl I am talking with now is 30 years younger than me. I have dated girls 40 years younger when I was younger.

TallAnon · Answer

I think it's a lot about maturity and emotional intelligence, and obviously 18 is a hard limit. At 29, I think 20-21 is the lowest I'd consider.

Professor-college · Answer

Well it actually older than your boyfriend or husband he's very lucky to have you... That means you have the beauty and intelligence of a excellent woman

OlderAndWiser · Answer

How much older are you?

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

No, or doesn't matter. My wife is 11 years younger than me and we have been together for 20 years.

AydenHazor · Answer

No issues with an age fall as long as both parties are consensual and legally able to consent

12karen · Answer

I don't really care about age gap, I'd date a guy 8years older And 3 years younger

dudeinohio · Answer

I have limitations. No one older. 7 years younger max.

Rohaan2020 · Answer

I’ve always loved it with women older than me… and i don’t care avout age gap untill shez between 20-55

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

How much older than you man are you? No I don't care about the age gap and my max is 10 years

forensicexpert · Answer

I don't think so.. my boyfriend is 35 and im 20

shortster · Answer

Not really. As long as everyone is an adult there is no maximum.

rizzzz007 · Answer

I don't care about age gap but yeah maturity I would always expect.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I do. I'm just not a fan of a big age gap because it just feels out of place for me.

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