Would he mention a girl he's hitting on?

[Anonymous]

I've been hanging out with this guy, and we had a little bit of a disagreement, and our relationship must be kept a secret at work.

He mentioned that this girl at work asked if he was texting me. And I asked why would she ask that, and he said he didn't know. And showed me texts she sent him - they were about work and something she had lost, and then asked somebody else to find it. He said she asked that out of the blue.

Would he tell me about her and her question if he or she was hitting on eachother?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a weird situation for sure. I don't really know this guy so it's hard to say for sure what's up. But here's my thoughts:

Most guys probably wouldn't go out of their way to mention some random girl at work if there wasn't something at least a little interesting happening there. Why would he even bring it up to you, you know? The fact he showed you their texts too makes me think he wants you to know he's talking to her.

It is possible she just asked innocently and there's nothing going on. But it's also possible she likes him and was trying to subtly get info on you guys. Or maybe HE likes the attention from her. Either way, I'd be a little suspicious now that this other girl is in the picture.

If it was really nothing, I feel like he wouldn't have made a point to tell you. I'd just be cautious. See how he acts around this coworker next time you're together. Pay attention to how much he mentions her. A secret work relationship makes things extra complicated too. Just watch out for yourself first. Don't let anyone make you feel weird or questionable, you know? Trust your gut on this one.

[CodyWalker]

I have no clue but personally I think keeping a relationship secret might be a bit of a red flag the reason I say this is I don't know the reason why it's being kept a secret.

Personally I have lost my binder of school work at work and I texted a lot of people randomly to see if they seen it.