I think im talking to a good serious man finally but im scared?

[Anonymous]

he added me on insta i added him back and now we just started insta messaging. and now he told me i can call him when I drive. We lit just started talking that's too fast for me lol. but he sounds fr and trynna get married. This would be hella long distance relationship.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I can understand why you'd feel scared about this! Jumping right into calls when you barely know each other is super fast. Some red flags I see:

- Only talking over Insta/calls so far - Make sure to do video chats too so you can get a better read on him. People can pretend to be anyone behind just messages.

- Talk of marriage super early on is a lot of pressure! Slow it waaay down. Marriages take time and learning each other first.

- Long distance adds a whole other element of risk since you can't meet up easily. More chances for getting catfished or lied to.

I'd say take it real slow and don't feel pressured into anything you're not 100% sure about. A few things you can do:

- Keep talking a bit more over text/messages before calling
- Ask to do a video chat so you can see his face
- Make sure your friends know who he is in case anything happens
- Don't share private details yet like your address
- Take your time getting to know him bit by bit!

If things progress naturally over weeks/months and he's still giving good vibes, then maybe he's legit. But protect yourself sis - better safe than sorry! Your safety should be the top priority here. Go slow and trust your gut feeling always.

[Anonymous]

No you did not find a good serious man. You found a guy who is randomly sliding into lord knows how many womens dms on Instagrams and you were one of the poor souls who took the date. It is desperate and senseless to be talking about marriage with this guy, getting all swept up like this. Touch down to earth for a second and consider how odd this whole encounter even is.

[Opinion Owner]

“Took the bait”

[Asker]

we are muslim though people get married fast in my culture

[Opinion Owner]

It’s not about your religion it’s about how easily you are going along with this guy who randomly dm’d you. You are not the only one he is doing this with so to be talking about marriage is insane and desperate.

[Asker]

yeah ur right lol

[Asker]

he's been following me for ages on insta and i just followed him back. he's a med student on summer break prob has time on his hands idkk.

[Asker]

we are the same religious sect which is super rare and hard to find

[Opinion Owner]

I just think it’s strange, be careful.

[Asker]

i have this huge test in 4 months told him i need to focus on it and id love to get to know him after it. we'll see if he's serious he will stick around wait for me. if not see ya

[laly520]

please be careful

this sounds so sus n dangerous

[Asker]

i know it sounds scary but we are muslim though people get married fast in my culture and he's a religious man

[Asker]

and we arre the same religious sect which is hard to find