I am in desperate need of some serious guy advice😂?

[beautyisall603]

Okay so we’ve been together about 2 years now and at first he was really loving and sweet and caring. He always wanted to be around me and talk to me and express his feelings to me. He asked how I felt and actually listened and cared. But now he’s grown really distant. I’m not sure what happened but over time it’s like he just went off into another world. He doesn’t cheat. He doesn’t talk to other girls. It’s almost like he just stopped caring maybe? We’ve lived together off and on for The whole time we been together due to circumstances. And over the past year, he’s stopping sleeping with me, both literally sleeping and sexually. He doesn’t tell me he loves me unless I’m feeling insecure and I have to voice it to me. He doesn’t ask how I feel about anything or if I am comfortable with something. He has brought my ex around knowing I didn’t want him there. He gets mad when I get upset about literally anything. He takes his anger out with me. Sometimes he gets up in the morning and just leaves. Doesn’t say anything to me. And I know for a fact he isn’t cheating. He’s 100 percent loyal. And I’m at a loss. Does he not love me anymore and just doesn’t wanna hurt my feelings? Does he not wanna be with me anymore? Does he just need space? Mind you, this has been going on for QUITE some time. Is he just going through something he doesn’t wanna talk to me about? I don’t understand. And how am I supposed to start into a conversation about it when he doesn’t ever wanna y’all about anything? Is it over? Do I just need to leave? Please help meeeee

[Aysen]

People normally don't fall out of love like that unless there's something bothering them mentally/emotionally or they're focusing their attention on something they believe is more important than the relationship itself.

You're right though; sometimes reality takes people away when life becomes difficult and/or stagnate. It's important to ask your boyfriend why he's been feeling distant like this for a long period of time and not talking to you about it. This could be from a personal problem of his that's consuming the majority of what he thinks about every day, maybe he's depressed about something he's lacking in his life or perhaps he's settled with what he has and doesn't have the energy or motivation to change it. The sooner you find out what the issue is, the sooner the relationship can be recovered or broken apart depending on the direction of it.

Nothing is worse in a relationship than to leave a problem hanging for months, even years to the point where it become "normal". Getting thoughts from your boyfriend about this is the best way to search and find a solution for it. If he refuses to talk to you about it, that'll be your choice if you decide to stay or walk out of the relationship. I hope he'll open up about this to you sooner then later so this doesn't drag out any longer then it needs to! Being in a one-way street in a relationship is never a comfortable feeling.

[Makeushiver]

Well, the infatuation period always wears off, sometimes for 1 person in a relationship before the other. That diminishes some of the lust and complete absorption of the first year or so but this sounds more than that. Could he have had any personal upset that he isn't sharing with you- a close relative dying oir something of that nature.
Maybe you should suggest that you both start seeing different people while keeping your relationship intact. If it's a deliberate tactic on his part that would call any bluff he might be trying. Any specific examples of his behavior might help. In any case, good luck

[ragequeen]

It seems like he is hiding something. Maybe he is thinking about things in his mind and he is a) too unbothered to share with you or b) wants to fix it himself. Regardless, you need to tell him you how feel. Tell him you get the impression that he is distant and that makes you feel lonely and unloved. If he takes you seriously and truly loves you, he will listen and change or tell you what's going on. If he doesn't try or downplays you, that's the clearest indication that he cares less for you than you think. If he gets annoyed or angry, that's also a big red flag. I get that you love him. But you deserve to be in a fulfilling relationship. You can't just wait for people to change. Some never do, and others do everything they can to be better and salvage the relationship. You need to know who your boyfriend is.

[faithattah]

I think you need to tell him how you feel and how his actions/behaviour is affecting you. Relationships work when there is communication, so he needs to know that if he keeps treating you like that there’s not going to be much of a relationship. Both of you need to be there for each other, I guess if he continues and doesn’t open up about what’s going on and how he’s feeling. I think it’s best you end the relationship or at least go on a break.
I hope it works out for you!✨

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think it's sad he's putting you through this. In my opinion, he should tell you what is going on maybe you should mention going to therapy together with him or seeing a therapist over the internet, I think he should not leave you clueless, this is something a guy should not do to you, I believe you have every right to know what's going on and for him to just leave and not say anything is cold and I think no girl deserves this treatment
my cousin is a woman she says you should leave, the honeymoon phase is over but forgive me if for any reason I am wrong?

[MrOracle]

I have no idea what he might be going through, but if he won't talk about it, or talk about your relationship, then your relationship has run its course, and it's time to end things and move on. In fact, if a guy acts like that for more than a month, and won't talk to you about it, it's time to go. It's one thing to help someone through a hard time, but they have to still communicate with you.

[YaBoiJacob]

I would say that you need to leave. You could try to be diplomatic, but abuse is abuse and that is inexcusable. Just leave, or, depending on how well you know him (which I assume is well because you have been together for around 2 years) if you think he won't freak out, just bring it up.

[flashgrandad]

Sounds like he has lost interest in you sweetheart?
Ok maybe he is loyal and not cheating, but could someone else have gained his interest?
I would be very careful as you say he takes it out on you, maybe he wants to leave but cannot find the way.
My best wishes darling.

[Gedaria]

I would say he has got to a point , but does not know how to go further.
You need to talk and tell him how upset you are, and why.
Most people call it coasting.
It's like putting car in neutral and moving on the momentum of the car, sadly if nothing is done it comes to a halt..

[TheorionMage]

From only what you say, I'd say its over and he hasn't got the spine to do you the service of being honest with you. Many guys just 'ghost' but that's hard to do if you're living together. Reluctant to irrevocably 'burn his bridges'...

[TallAnon]

First of all, yup, he got bored with you. Second of all, is he dealing with some shit? Probably, this is 2020, life sucks.
Anyway, he's taking you for granted and when you "act up", that's annoying to him. Like your PC freezing up and having to restart it by throwing some default commands at it, hold that button, press that, tell her she's special and you love her and boom, it's running again.

[dudeinohio]

It seems to me the relationship has stagnated. I would demand he talk about the relationship, or that you'll leave. If he refuses to talk, then leave him.

[Hangry22]

I think the honeymoon phase is over
Sit hin down and talk about everything because you need an answer if this relationship is worth staying for

[WesBrewer]

sounds like he just doesn't love you anymore, and has lost interest but doesn't know how to end it.

[AmeerX]

Don't dare leave him in this situation. I think he is in some serious trouble he does not want you to know but have to fight himself

[beautyisall603]

He doesn’t talk to me about anything. Didn’t even come to Thanksgiving with my family because he doesn’t like them. He’s talked to me about stuff in the past. And if we’re going to get married and have a life together, why can’t he just at least talk to me about it? He goes out and does things with his friends but I can barely even convince him to go to Walmart with me because I don’t wanna go alone?

[AmeerX]

Please 🙏, don't think bad about it. He is your man. I am sure there is something he can't tell you easily. Please be patient and when he gets close with you, give him some comfort and ask him about it. He will tell you

[FishyNinja]

Maybe he is stressed because of work, family issues , etc..
Ask him whether everything is okay.

[BustyNeedles]

Time to move on sweetheart. Good luck.

[Avicenna]

Is he under stress?

[beautyisall603]

Not that I know of. He doesn’t talk about anything serious with me. I’ve tried, but he just brushes it off

[Anonymous]

we are bored of the same old crap every day

[In_Trance]

Dump him