Picture this. You're F 27. single. just finished uni. returning to your hometown. no friends back home. worried about the future. what would you do?

[Heyheyhey5]

I'm just about to finish uni. I've been lonely here years. I have a best friend & some other close friends. but I've still felt very lonely at times. been told it gets harder when in your late 20s especially 30s! want to meet a good man but he's probably already snapped up by now. I'm probably not going to meet a decent man at a club or a pub to be honest and there's no rule book and how to meet men after this.
I've been dumped twice and was in a relationship that lasted 6 m, single for another year then I had another boyfriend a month then I got dumped again from what i can gather they didn't think we were compatible ) . I've been single for over a year now.

It's sad really because I went out a lot hoping I meet somebody and now I'm retuning home single how am I going to make friends back home in my hometown which has got like 14,000 people. I can't afford to live on my own so il be with family. I feel like I'm going backwards, not forwards.

its been so limiting! I felt super sad because I had to go to clubs with friends and I never slept with random people but I did hope one day I would just meet a nice man! and it hasn't happened I'm really worried. I worry my life's going to go back to what it was before - i I had no friends. not close to anybody back home, from high school (they were mean!) . i don't even have friends in my hometown. although my best friend and others want to stay in touch and meet up- but they live miles away. It won't be the same.

my town back home has quite a rough element (im no snob but i dont want to date a guy who swears and swigs stella around town thank you ). Please don’t say use dating apps. have in the past, long story they don’t work, tried many different ones.

"oh you'll meet someone" I'm 28 soon s. its hard. i won't just have a relationship for the sake of it either. then we would have to probably date for a while. that takes time..

I'm upset. If you have any advice or thoughts id appreciate it.

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Psych undergrade student by the way!

[D_Bone_Steak]

Oh gawd... lots of words when I'm just trolling for the most part. I'll read... hold on.

You're right... what kind of man goes to a club to pick up his one and forever? Nobody that's smart... unless you're just looking for sex. You will not meet long-term potential in those settings.

Alright, you get dumped a lot... you do go to clubs despite what I pointed out already... just factor that point in.

You're fucked... I read it all and I'll be real with you right now... you're fucked in the hopes of finding Mr. Perfect... and that's part of the problem.

I feel your education race is basically you doing what would be attractive to a woman... because that's something a man would do in order to attract a woman. I'm going to skip your mistakes and give my best advice.

Stop sleeping with guys that are better than you and start dating guys that are physically on your level. If you're a 5, then date a 5. Don't try to date me.

I would fuck you and promise to text... and then just conveniently forget to. If you don't also have almost 6 pack abs, and you're built like a thumb, then WTF are you thinking is going to happen?

So you're pretty smart... supposed to appeal to my sapiosexual side? But... so many reasons I won't even list. Look girl... you can memorize shit for a test but that doesn't make you smart in my book. Your question told me in big red letters that you're retarded. I have a degree too, but I am not going to talk about it like a retard.

I've lost interest so I will shorten this up... You're sleeping with alpha dudes at best but you're not alpha female... You're smart, but not smart in the way that matters, feel good about your grades, and you're obviously just another chick that wants a "me" or even "more" but you don't meet those qualifications yourself.

In fact... I think you're so dumb that you'll never realize you're not worth the effort for even a guy like me... because I'm not the best.

You're retarded. Probably look like a basic bitch and don't realize you would've pulled your man if you just did the treadmill for as many hours as it took to pull one of your classes.

[D_Bone_Steak]

https://youtu.be/nxg4C365LbQ?si=QakfCZnmZYD0UgOU

[elaphe]

My god, you make men sound like douches. Your "alpha male" talk and posting a picture of a dude who is supposedly you with six pack abs makes you sound arrogant and like a "retard." Try working less on your body and more on your attitude. Stop ranking people with numbers. Try seeing people as individuals. At your age you should be more mature. To be frank, you sound narcissistic and insecure for an 18-year-old.

[Yannae]

I am F 27.
I am single.
I finished Uni.
I returned to my hometown.
There are no friends home.
The plan.
My hometown is pretty lively with lots of events and clubs to go too (I don't speak about dance clubs but sports clubs). I have to pick one or two clubs and just go there, talk with the people, bond and maybe I'll see them at an events outside of the clubs.
Same with work, work in my hometown would be great, if not, there are still events that my colleagues would want to go to that I can join in on. This week there was a 20 mile run for example. Some of us went!

[samavia]

Hey. I read it a few times. I don't know the solution yet but trust me I felt the pain. I wish I could help you out. I'll pray for you. And if I get a solution or advice I'll definitely tell you.

[LiZiqiLiZiqi]

Take a proper rest. Your life is your own. As long as your life is good, you don't have to care about what others think.

[Lynx122]

I don't know how to help you I've never lived life as a woman. I've realized lately how vast the world is and how dumb I am compared to everything there is to know. I spent my whole life trying to learn and understand things and I still feel so dumb. I thought I must be getting somewhere by now but it's not true.

I feel lucky that I have my girlfriend. She accepts me and loves me the way I am, even when I get a big head and say stupid things.

[Firestar01]

Find a decent job and go from there? That's the most important thing. You can get friends later!

[genericname85]

i mean it's your home town right? i'd look who of my old contacts is still around.

[Iron_Man]

Take some time off and find yourself a job

[RedInnocent69]

Why didn’t you meet one at uni?

[Nikki1989]

27?

WTF?

[Heyheyhey5]

nice language. Really helpful!