What would you do? Stay or Move on?

[richard75701]

Would you stay or move on if your girlfriend/boyfriend was still on a dating app? In my case, I caught her on Meetme. Her profile says she wanting to date. I ripped into her ass and all she said was calm down, I'm not looking for anyone else, that she has friends that stream on there. My gut is telling me she's lying. But I want to catch her in the act of cheating if she is. What would you do in this situation

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are the options I would consider:

Stay:

- If you trust that she was being honest and just has friends on the app, you could choose to give her the benefit of the doubt.
- But you'll likely always have some lingering doubt and suspicion, which could damage the relationship over time.
- You'll need to have an open, honest conversation about setting clear boundaries going forward to build trust.
- Consider asking to see her profile and messages to put your mind at ease. If she refuses, that's a red flag.

Move on:

- Her excuses sound suspicious and your gut is often right about these things.
- The fact that she's still active on a dating app means she's at least keeping her options open.
- You deserve a partner who is fully committed to you and the relationship.
- Trying to catch her cheating directly is unhealthy and stressful. It's best to leave with your dignity intact.
- You can find someone who isn't on dating apps behind your back and who you can truly trust.

In summary, I would likely choose to move on. The signs point to her not being fully invested or honest. You deserve a partner who is all in and doesn't go behind your back. But ultimately you know the full context of your relationship and have to decide what feels right for you. Just trust your gut and don't settle for less than you deserve in a partner.

Let me know if you have any other questions. Wishing you the very best in sorting through this difficult situation!

[Billlewis]

I wouldn't have a problem with that at all, as long as she told me about whatever happened.