Are you worried about being single and maybe never finding anyone?

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MendaciousMarxist · Accepted Answer

I never really thought about getting married or being in a relationship. It just wasn't something that was important to me. I was happy being on my own and focusing on my career and my own personal interests.

But as I got older, I started to notice that a lot of my friends were getting married and starting families. It seemed like everyone around me was settling down and finding someone to share their lives with.

At first, I didn't think much of it. I was still happy being single and enjoying my freedom. But as the years went by, I started to feel a little bit left out. I would see my friends posting pictures of their spouses and kids on social media, and I couldn't help but feel a sense of longing and regret.

I wondered what it would be like to have someone to come home to at the end of the day, someone to share my life with and grow old with. But it was too late for me now. I had spent so much time focusing on my career and my own interests that I had missed out on the chance to find someone special.

But as I look back on my life, I realize that I have no regrets. I lived my life on my own terms, and I am proud of all that I have accomplished. And even though I never found someone to share my life with, I am still grateful for all of the wonderful friends and family members who have been a part of my journey.

Beatrix7 · Accepted Answer

now and then i feel like that but i suppose my own freedom is good aswel can get to do what you want without a lover complaining i dont like that dont do that you see am 33 and i still like watching disny film reason for thst is it was my childhood and those where my best days and the days when my dad was alive i still watch adult movies all diffrent kind not just disney but 1 guy i was with thought it was childish and didn't like it and slagged me for it now and then wank stain i need to watch some shitty movies of his naa dont think so pal or av rifted and pimped a few times its just came out i didn't mean them to but fk it anyway if he can get away witb it so can i dont give what you can't take buddy he laughed at it but aswel but went yeah right aswel fair is fair nd a would have got a sore stomach wouch have made me sick or have a sore tummy nd complain about it if i didn't let it out better out than in shrek always says wich i agree with dont like me fk off then nd find a wee petite barbie doll like girl thats to shy to show her true self nd hide her faults incase the guy doesn't like her fk that you dont like me the way iam walk nd dont return when uve lost your chance  buddy

msc545 · Accepted Answer

Of course, I am worried about it, as being single is very sad at times and certainly not fun. However, that said, the alternative is not much better in many dangerous and unpleasant ways. I am not 6' tall, I am not rich, and I am at best average-looking, all of which exclude me from the desires and interests of about 80% of women if not more.

I have experienced the disinterest, outright rejection, disrespect, gold-digging, and lack of faithfulness that many women are prone to when dealing with men in my class of desirability. I have been told outright "you are a nice interesting guy but not who I am looking for" many times.

Honestly, why bother? The behavior I have experienced from women has made it simply not worth it to pursue them anymore, and in not doing so it has saved me a certain sort of acute pain and feeling of rejection that was all too common when I tried it and failed many times.

I do not think I am a viable competitor in the race for love, and so be it. I have many other gratifying things in my life that occupy my time.

"Discretion is the better part of valor" in this matter, at least for me.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I will never be a member of that group MFTOCEM (Men Fixin' Their Own Coffee Every Morning.) I have dated frequently since age 60 and it is not difficult to find candidates for a relationship.

I've also spent some time alone. I know how to take care of myself and I can be at peace without having a woman in my bed every night.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

No why should I be? There’s worse things people suffer every day than being single.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Mm if I was single, maybe a little bit but eventually I would get use to it.

AviatorTom · Answer

Nope, I have an SO. Even when I was younger and single, I was never worried... I knew that I'd eventually find someone... and I did... 20 years of marriage.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Yes. Yes I am. Thanks for asking! 🙂

TenderFantasy · Answer

No, it's not a life and death situation.

Plus, there are other ways to reproduce.

Depending on someone too much is not really healthy.

You can only control YOUR HALF of the union, never the other person's and I don't think that is a smart/wise investment. At least not anymore.

I don't want to lose hope, but I will not let it "kill me" nor will I obsess over "the problem" any longer. I learned too much the hard way regarding this stuff, I could definitely take a break from it!

"Lucky for me" I found men that were Mama's Boys, Too judgmental for their own good, Homeless and Drug addicted (that might have been the worst one I don't know lol), just overall mess bags! Even some with Mental Instability and Anger Issues!

libsaretards · Answer

I have no problem being single or in a relationship. I know my own worth and standards and I would not want to be with anyone who is not up to those standards. It would cause too much friction. My standards are not a big laundry list of things. They have to do with morals. I would rather be single than give up my integrity or moral compass.

A couple is meant to ENHANCE each others' lives, NOT to COMPLETE them. You should already be complete and know who you are BEFORE getting into a relationship.

Looksnicholas · Answer

How could that fit guy in the photo ever be nervous and still single. Lol. But on a serious note, no I'm never afraid neither am I bothered. Besides, im sort of a perfectionist unrealist... I'd rather have a woman who looks a 8/10 or 9/10 with big tits and a hot overall look... but that's unrealistic... So I'm much happier dreaming instead, than even settling for less. I don't gravitate to disappointment.

That's why I'm so much happier single instead. 🥳🥳🥳

420Rachel · Answer

Mmmm. Sometimes I do, but it’s something I’m working on. I’m trying to learn to love myself, and I think that’s the key. If you honestly, truly love yourself, then you don’t feel the need to seek out a partner. You’re satisfied with yourself and if someone worthy recognizes your radiance and confidence they will be drawn to you. So this is what I’m working on. Self-love and patience lol.

mamuma02 · Answer

Nope

I m more worried of failing in college, not getting my dream job, not getting enough money to help myself and my family, not getting to visit some countries i wish to explore...

I was born alone in the womb, so I can also be single forever.

WonderBell99 · Answer

Of course not. I love being single and the freedom that comes with it. I get to focus more on things that actually matter, like my studies and friends. The course I am studying is rigorous and strenuous, and I cannot handle a relationship at the moment - it will only add on more to the pressure I’m already struggling with!

I have my own red flags, but I’m not toxic enough to end up alone.

Anonymous · Answer

The real question is are YOU Coach? Lol how come someone who's still single and never had a susccesful relationship in his life, claims to offer coaching and related products and services to improve his clients' success in dating and relationships? LMAO

catiecatie · Answer

Yes! That’s my biggest fear! Like I say I’m interested in my crush, and I hope he sees me. I do come up as a friend suggestion for him on Facebook but I’m too scared to send one. I did ask him out but he didn’t say yes nor did he say no. I’m hoping one day he sees me as a girl of his dreams. Fingers crossed though!

ch15hann · Answer

I don’t think finding someone was ever my priority or a worry on my mind that I wouldn’t find anyone. I’ve been single my entire life and have treated everyday the way I would like to live, and if anyone would like to step into my life romantically, I would welcome them, but honestly, I’ve always loved the single life and I don’t know, after being single my entire life, would be able to adjust to having someone always in your life now. My single life is very freeing, and I’ve gone on a few dates, but i always feel much better when I’m not with someone romantically. Maybe someday I’ll find someone, but for now, I’d still prefer to stay single.

saucyduck23 · Answer

Yes and No.

Yes, because I am missing out on having a companion who is there for me every time, every morning, afternoon or evening. I am going to miss out on hugs and kisses and being able to teach my kids to be able to grow strong when they get older. I am going to miss out on a nice beautiful house, working at a nice job providing for my family while my future wife is happy. If my future wife is happy I'm happy. I will be missing out on happiness to avoid world drama and negativity. This young generation doesn't understand stand this.

No, because I know the time for me to have someone is not ready yet. I'm not worried now because I have the time and chance to save money and finish college.

Sjoerd85 · Answer

I used to worry about that. Nearly every date I had in a 12 year timeframe was first date only. I would nearly always get ghosted before date three (this seems to be the favourite way of most women to dump someone). But I did not give up, and finally met my wife...

hIopinionated_ · Answer

I’m more worried about the fact that I actually love being alone. I feel that can’t be exactly normal and I should at least WANT a partner right? But instead I’m a natural loner and I don’t even attempt to seek out men. .

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Not at all.
When I was single, Never had problems finding people to go out on dates or just go out to have fun. and appreciating my friends and family.

then again…sharing my other half once partnered up.
I was mostly in relationships when I became an adult.
it’s more fun to get into troubles with a partner than alone…then I can point finger at him…that it’s his fault.

Labokachulaa · Answer

If I were to become single in the next 5 years, yes I would be worried a little. The dating field would become a big challenge because I feel like I would be too old to start looking again. (This is just how I personally feel, I'm not speaking on others)

Anonymous · Answer

No, not really. I'm much more scared of ending up with the wrong person.
I've been in a relationship where it almost ruined me, and I was about to lose myself, worried I might never get up from a dark pot I'd fallen into. Thought I had to get professional help at one point too.

I would much rather stay single for the rest of my life than to be miserable in a relationship.
And yeah, ai might even be scared to try dating again as well.
It scares me now.

menina · Answer

I've never been in a relationship but I'm not worried about never finding anyone. I know exactly why I'm single and what I need to do to find someone. It's just a matter of time, effort and money so I can travel.

SnowedIn · Answer

Thankfully, no. Happily married for 23 years.

aaron210419 · Answer

I'd like to be in a long term relationship but I'm not too worried about being single for a while especially after wasting almost 10 years with a covert narcissist

Sonorous · Answer

Nah. And I'm bing chilling. Because for me personally, the effort just ain't worth the payoff... At the moment at least..

And even if I never find someone to mate with long-term, I wouldn't feel negative emotion. Because for me, it's not a sad thing. I guess you could compare it to anything you don't have a lot of interest in. It's absence from your senses isn't something you really long for or miss. Especially if you see it having more drawbacks than advantages.

NathanDavis · Answer

not a single worry Coach... I've been single four times before (in between relationships) and I have been in relationships before as well...

neither has been a struggle nor a worry before, and it should not start being a worry now, lol

at least in my case, experience (good and great experiences) makes things better and easier... not bad, lol

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Already found someone, at least for 14 years now... would like to add in some midget clowns, but hey, can't always find and get everything I want.

Not worried about it at all really... getting a woman has never been an issue for me. Just get buff and walk around in sweatpants with boxers on. They see the junk swinging and my wife beater... they know what's up.

amccart19 · Answer

Definitely. I have the worst social anxiety, just trying to talk to someone I'm interested in is like a heart attack the whole time. I also never pick the right people to be interested in. And tend to say kind of weird things on accident. (Ex. "But that was a nice chicken right?" Not even part of the conversation we were having...) Im 19 and have only dated 2 people in my life. I've decided if I don't have someone by the time I'm 25, imma just live the single life maybe have some kids through IVF 😂

ChiTown33 · Answer

Worried? No. I'd rather be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong ones. If I meet someone then cool beans. But I'm not going to beg anyone to be in my life. 🙂

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Like with all major decisions, I do have that bit of concern or doubt, about potentially making the wrong one and regretting it, ultimately not living a happy life.

humanearth · Answer

Nope, married for 30 years. Neither of us are going nowhere

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I used to be worried. Not so much anymore. Now I'm in more of a "don't give a fuck" stage.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Nah I know God has the perfect girl for me if his plan isn't to take me before then, it's why I trust God, he wanna see me winning, there's no bad outcome lol

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

If i am, i’ve got a funny way of showing it! I like being single and i haven’t been on the market for seven or eight years now.

TrueConfection · Answer

I was worried for a bit. Then I met my husband and said, "I do," practically before he asked!

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I'm not WORRIED about being single, I've nearly ALWAYS been single! I'm VERY GOOD at it. As for never finding anyone, that's, most likely, gonna happen! I's bee just over 21 years, so far, since the last time I had someone... or at least THOUGHT I had someone!!

AdithyaR · Answer

I'm not worried about it. I've accepted it as my fate.

Red-Blaze · Answer

No, I dont mind so or so, can't ever bring kids no more so I am fine so or so, will take life at its best and mess up outhers the least :)

Pegases · Answer

Love always comes when you aren't looking for it. I've been focused on building my kingdom, and embracing personal growth in the meantime.

SphynxUK · Answer

I don’t care if I never meet anyone else and I certainly don’t want a long term relationship. I’m single and not looking or dating.

legalboxers · Answer

last Saturday was my birthday. I got zero fucks if I die alone. #catdad

Nikki1989 · Answer

I'm happily married, but I never worried while I was single. I always knew I would meet someone.

Lucy68 · Answer

Yes and I do feel like I'll never get married and have my own little family

Katyalov · Answer

Sometimes I do but I try not to get discouraged. One thing that I really don’t do is throw myself a pity party about my singleness. There is so much more to life than finding the one.

SpokenTruth · Answer

I have been single going on forty years now. I have no plans to ever dating again and certainly would never consider marriage those years are behind me now.

RavVid · Answer

I am more worried about finding the wrong person

KaiidiraX · Answer

Not really. I know I will find the right one.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No, if it happens it does, if not then I'll remain single.

Anonymous · Answer

Not anymore. I will just focus on myself and my career. Periodt. These „finding the one“ thing is just made up by society since true love and partnership doesn‘t exist.

Sour-rose · Answer

Nope. I will even-

(oh god this butter and salt protein bar is so fked up i can't even focus. But honestly, I'm doing just fine having a whole pizza by myself than worrying about being single... oh god, I need a drink)

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

No, I might want to find a girl but it's still isn't a big issue there are more important problems or things I am aiming for than some girl.

sheikalana · Answer

I'm not that worried. I always find someone to date LOL.

Teriyaki70 · Answer

Just broke up after 3 and a half years due to his alcoholism. I'm 52 and hope to find true love before I die

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Sometimes but then I think there’s billions of people and someone eventually will want to be with me and vice verse lol. I’d also rather be single than in an unhappy or toxic relationship.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

Worried? May be not. Accepted the fact? May be yes.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

In some ways. I see older single people just existing day to day miserable and it’s demoralizing. I would hate to live my life and ultimately have nothing to show for it on my deathbed. Dying alone would be a pretty awful way to go.

Likes2drive · Answer

I’m starting to after being divorced for so many years

Twalli · Answer

I was. I didn't get a girlfriend or go on a date until I was 27. The older you get without getting a single date, the harder it is.

Tracker1958 · Answer

Not single but absolutely love being alone. I work away from home a lot and love my single life. no body to keep happy but myself.

TheFlak38 · Answer

I cannot imagine any version of my future that includes a woman, so no.

BJP21 · Answer

When I was online dating, YES. Id rather meet a person in person.

moonpie89 · Answer

Haha no. The problem is me being too picky. Do I ultimately know what I want long term 🤔

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