Does being single for a long time make you feel unhappy or worried that you'll never find anyone?

[DenizLikesTennis]

This one is for the super honest guys and women :P

Yes, it actually does🧠

No, I am happy💪😊

I don't know🤷‍♂️🤷🏽‍♀️

[DaveJord]

I want to say kind of... yes. I mean I was married for 20 years. Got divorced... but once scorned you start to key in on some things when meet someone new and start dating someone. So got to step back and remind yourself that you can't hold other people responsible for what some other person did to you. So you play it cool and then over time it kind of builds, and you talk about it with them and then something triggers in you and you end the relationship, because you know you have just been down this path before.

So yeah you start to think that something is wrong with you, and then you meet the next girl and you start dating and then you feel better until months later the cycle repeats. Its not that I want to marry again, and they all understand that but then they want these committed long term relationships... which means that you both are supposed to be working together and preparing for your futures together. But that also means they have to accept change and be willing to make changes, as well as you need to be willing to change and grow with the relationship.

So when it goes sour your like was it me?

[Paul09]

To each their own. But to me it did put a toll on me. I overthink things, and in not sure if I'm good enough for someone or if they are good enough for me. Am I not that attractive, like I'd love to figure it out. Maybe it's all in my head, maybe people are too picky. Wish I met someone with the same values. But I don't see those types.

[DenizLikesTennis]

That is a good answer👏 nailed it

[Paul09]

I guess a lot of us go through the same things.

[introvertedHeartache]

When I was in my early to mid 20s I didn’t really care so much but once I hit late 20s and 30 and started to see all my friends get married and have babies while I’m still single, then it started to sink in. I spent so many years enjoying my single life that I forgot how nice it is to have someone to share a life with. Now I wish I had dated more when I was younger because at my age it’s all about raising a family of your own and it makes me sad knowing I’m the only one of my friends who can’t find someone to share my life with. Dating when you’re in your 30s is so much harder than in your 20s. :(

[Tina19]

Relationship drama always causes me stress i find myself to be more happy when i am single and have no responsibility of fulfilling someone's expectations

[Jennz6]

Me too

[PJH359]

I really feel that it depends on circumstances, where you are in your life and what their priorities are. For example, let’s say you’re a 39 year old single woman (never married, no kids) and one of your biggest dreams is to have a family. Through the experience of having known a few such women, they definitely develop a subconscious anxiety about “being too old” to start a family. To certain women this becomes a major concern. And without a prospective husband/father on the horizon, they might feel hopeless. As if their dream will never be fulfilled. So on the other end of the spectrum there are those (like myself) who had children relatively young and accomplished much of what I set out to in life very early on. Coincidentally I am now single, but the possibility of being alone for the rest of my life doesn’t bother me…. because I am not under time constraints anymore. I don't know did that make any sense? It did in my head but as I typed it, not so much 🤓

[ALPHABLACK]

No at all it's the opposite being single for long only makes you understand that you don't need anyone else, if you take just one 2 seconds, 1 to think how carefree your single life is and 1 second to think how stressful your non single life was

I think you will be very sure that you are far more better off alone

[NathanDavis]

nope... been single over two years now by choice

not a single worry whatsoever, not unhappy either... lol

whenever is the better time to get "back to it" I'm sure it won't be an issue, lol

[Anonymous]

If it did... I wouldn't have rejected the ones that approached. Most people are ego driven and that means you are in a relationship with their ego... which = waste of time.

[dolemite89]

just because you are single doesn’t mean you have to be a monk/nun 😂

[DenizLikesTennis]

True. Absolutely right. The feeling is valid that occurs once in a while where you feel lonely and hopeless. It's normal and okay

[Anonymous]

No, quite the opposite. When you've been single for a long enough time you start to question why you ever wanted to date in the first place. Life gets real simple when you take women OUT of the equation.

[Anonymous]

Unhappy and I've long since gotten used to being alone for lie due to physical circumstances outside of my control.

[TrillXHippy]

It most certainly does make me feel that way. “Oh it’s so great to be single don’t have to worry about anything blah blah blah.” That’s a lie

[ODC2112]

I don't a partner seek actively, sometimes some womans seek me.

[Jennz6]

I don’t know, I think that I am happy for now but long term, we’ll see

[Emmaks]

Don’t know. I feel like I’m in this boat and it will pay off massively with a good girl

[poneglyphs]

I've always been single my entire life so yeah...🥺

[Likes2drive]

It does have me concerned

[captain_voidwalker]

Nope I'm quite happy bieng single.