Girls, Struggling to read ex girlfriend, does she want me back, does she just want to be friends, am I overthinking (lol)?

[KlivenotKlyve]

Okay so this girl and I dated for 5 years, we broke up almost 4 months ago, it was a very respectful and amicable breakup. We were in no contact for 2 of those months untill she sent me a letter in September saying how I did nothing wrong and she wished things didn't have to change so soon and she feels like she's needed to experience being single for real for a while (she never really went more than a few weeks between relationships in the past, I was her longest and most serious). We met a week ago and I said I'd like to try again sometime and she said she wasn't closed to the idea of trying a relationship again but she needed to figure out a few things for next year, she asked me "what would you say oof I asked you to be my boyfriend right now" and I said I'd say no because I want to take things slow and make sure it's the right decision and she agreed. We spent the rest of the meeting just chatting and laughing and she wanted to show me some videos on her phone afterwards but I had to go and write an exam so I said I couldnt. She messaged me that night saying it was nice to see and chat to me and she's glad were on the same page, we've been sending a message every day to each other and she's been telling me about her pets and I've said that I want to hear all about her vacation when she gets back next week and she said "definitely". She also recently added me to her "close friends" on instagram and I can't believe we went from not talking for 2 months to all of this sudden communication and interaction and I'm afraid I'm reading the signs wrong. Do you think she really does want to try again, how should I be reacting to all of this and how can I get the ball rolling towards a reconciliation? I've been a little flirty with her and I'm making sure to take my time when responding because she did say she's quite busy at the moment and will probably take her time as well.

[secretgirlxx]

It seems like maybe she’s lonely and misses what you guys had, however I had something like this before with an ex when we broke didn’t speak for ages and then bam my ex started talking to me again as if nothing happened. It was so confusing. I thought maybe we could get back together and work but the issues were still there. A friend told me when we were done for good. “If you guys broke up for a reason and if that reason is still there why get back into the same mess you left as how is things gonna be better the second time ” it was a very valid point. As it was spot on and I regretted getting back in contact with my ex as it just had all the feeling there and I could have been that bit closer to moving on but it set me back a few weeks because after getting back with my ex even being friends first for a bit then relationship again it literally only lasted a few more weeks. It just brought all the pain I felt from the first time we broke up. I do think my ex and I just got back together as we missed talking to each other. That is something that happens if you spent everyday talking to someone then suddenly not that shit hurts and can feel very lonely for a while. I’m not saying don’t get back with your ex but ask yourself the question is the reason why it ended still there? Is the issues you guys were having from the first time you guys broke Still there?

[d1g1t4lg1rl]

I don't think you should read too much into it. Be her friend if she wants more let her make it obvious since she's the one that wanted to be single in the beginning you'll never know if she's done being single until she asks to get with you again