How would you get over someone who has a lot of options and may not want to settle down with you?

[Anonymous]

[osmanthus]

Maybe... assume the same viewpoint?

If you're just dating the person, there isn't much one can do; it's just the nature of the game market. Eventually, there comes a time for some people when they want to settle down but most of the time it's for fun and nothing serious to most folks, it seems. A way to pass time and be superficially interested for the sake of making rifts in their daily lives. I've been there, done that. I was also in the same position as you in wanting to settle down, too. It's not usually a surefire way of meeting 'the one' if you know what I mean much like match-making services.

[Billlewis]

@osmanthus Heiio, how you?

[osmanthus]

@Billlewis Hey, just sent a message to you an email. Doing dandy.

[HollyK21]

I would to stop looking at this like he’s a loss and instead, you’re the prize. Why hurt or stress over whether or not a guy is going to pick you? That is a lack of self esteem on full display.

[Asker]

I have deep feelings for him

[HollyK21]

And it’s costing you greatly.

[PositiveNote]

You won’t ever completely get over a person you were once close to. I remember well every serious relationship I’ve ever had whether a good one or bad.

[Anonymous]

How do u know that? Maybe the want to settle down with u

[Asker]

I don't know I had hopes but my therapist told me to be careful

[Opinion Owner]

Why do they have more options

[Asker]

What are you asking?

[Asker]

He has opportunities to get what he wants

[Opinion Owner]

Like what? I don’t understand. I think good looking people have more
Options?

[Asker]

He's got money and really good looks. Many girls want him

[Opinion Owner]

Dammmnnnn how old are u both

[Asker]

In our 30s

[Opinion Owner]

How do u both look

[Opinion Owner]

Actually even I am in a similar situation. He’s a extremely handsome 6ft fair guy , whereas am a relegious , boring , skinny dark skin girl

[Asker]

He's tall & brown skinned. I'm short and on the thicker side. Has he taken you out on a date yet?

[Opinion Owner]

No he Hasn’t. He just drunk calls me to use me as his trauma dump. He thinks am a easy ugly girl , so uses me as a handkerchief when things are bad

[Opinion Owner]

Wbu?

[Asker]

That sounds terrible. Me and him hangout and we've shared physical attractiveness between eachother but I don't know if he will just use me for sex so I kind of stay away

[Opinion Owner]

Wdym physical attractiveness? U mean u kissed?

[Opinion Owner]

My situation is so bad. I don’t think yours is bad. It’s just your insecurities. It’s just his family who’s rich right? He never earned it for himself. And looks fade. Stop putting them in such a high pedestal because of looks. Once they age u will not like them anymore and will see them for what they are

[Opinion Owner]

Well clearly state u are waiting till marriage for sex , and those are your values. Ask him what’s his casually.

[Asker]

It's him who has the money. Your right looks do fade. I actually think he got some work done but I like him more than for his looks. Honestly I don't wait until marriage like I really love sex. I'll hold out for at least a year?

[Opinion Owner]

Work done? Ok now u sound jealous. And that’s not good. Doesn’t seem healthy if u. What do u like more than their looks?

[Asker]

Lol me jealous over a guy I'm attracted to? I love his hustle and drive. He's motivated and sweet. He's smart and not afraid to show his emotions. I love his smile... his laugh.. his body. His face I'm really attracted to him. He's really tall too. We are both attracted to eachother

[Opinion Owner]

Then what’s the problem? Clearly u want the sex. U ain’t a virgin. So just have fun ?

[Asker]

I don't want just fun tho and I'm waiting on him to make a move.. again he's got a lot of options. I might just move on

[Opinion Owner]

What makes u so insecure. Why do u think he’s rich

[Asker]

I'm insecure because life has happened. Mental health got me to where I gained a ton of weight. And he can get other women who look bomb af. It's not why I think he's rich it's just he has money... I don't know how much and I don't care too much only as long as he can take me out on dates and provide like a man 😂😂 but we arnt there yet. Not much has progressed between us... and it's almost like he's waiting for the perfect time to but I don't know when that will be. Or maybe he's gay 🤷🏾‍♀️

[Asker]

I think he's bisexual but he could be dating someone else

[Opinion Owner]

How do u both look ?

[Asker]

He's hot, tall very handsome. I'm short, thick with a belly and cute both black people

[Opinion Owner]

Hmmmmm. How long have u been together

[Asker]

We arnt and haven't been together but we've known eachother for some years

[Opinion Owner]

Years? Damnnn. And still nothing?

[Asker]

Well... we both were distracted. Like it was always a hi and bye... but this last year he's got my attention now

[Opinion Owner]

So u were never even a thing. I think it’s best to let go. If nothing solid Formed and u had years , nothing solid can form with more time

[Asker]

So friends can never become lovers?

[Opinion Owner]

It didn’t turn into anything solid and there was a lot of time. So I don’t think so. They probably found someone who doesn’t need years to chose them

[Asker]

I never thought I had a real chance lol but you're right ill block all communications soon