Do you think women find a tiny percent of men attractive?

[Anonymous]

I get guys and girls that have called me handsome. Even a female friend telling me I’m the whole a package, that I’ve got it all going for me.

I am tall and handsome I believe but I’ve never had a girlfriend.

It feels like women are only attracted to a tiny percentage of men.

Yes it’s true

No it’s not

Updates

+1 y

I have literally everything going for me so I should have a lot of interest.

[Kiss_Me]

I believe there are several key issues at work in this situation:
1. You have limiting beliefs that are killing your ability to attract women. The Internet is a fabulous resource. Research how limiting beliefs get started and how they kill your interactions with the opposite sex.
2. Read number 1... it has caused you to develop VERY LIMITING defensive reactions to women. The most common is wanting to avoid social embarrassment. Guys will avoid or even deny wanted to ask out someone due to the potential social fall out.
3. The above 2 become a self feeding attraction killing machine. Before long, you start saying things like, "No one is attracted to me. She would say No, so why ask for the date. Its better to keep my dating interest to myself. Its way safer." In other words it SLAUGHTERS your confidence. Every girl out there will tell you lack of confidence is an attraction killer.

[Anonymous]

If we're just talking physical attraction, then yes, most women find only a small percentage of men attractive.

But there are other things that influence whether a woman finds a man attractive. There was a study that found that women saw men as significantly more attractive if they were told he earned more money.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S109051381730315X

[Phoneposter]

Are there some women who only find the top 10% attractive? Yeah. But there's way more beautiful women dating average and even somewhat ugly men. The genes of less attractive men are able to persist because they're still able to procreate and have been for generations.
Odds are, you probably don't have a girlfriend because you're too shy to actually approach girls. And if you are genuinely handsome you wouldn't seem that approachable to an average woman as an awkward handsome man can unintentionally come off as aloof/dismissive

[Siri137]

Are you familiar with the (fairly old) song, "Is she really going out with him?" Within it the male singer expresses exasperation with how so many attractive women he sees in public have boyfriends who look like gorillas.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/FOoxcQjaKek

So no, I don't believe that, because it just isn't true. I see ugly couples all the time, and attractive women with ugly men, and when I do I think of this song.

[DishLady]

Some men are empirically attractive -- hello Henry Cavill 😉 -- but plainer-looking fellows possibly stand out because of their character (charisma, education, manners, etc.). Different guys are appealing to different girls... As they say, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

[Asker]

The problem is that people like Henry cavil take all the girls.

[Apple1996]

You gotta remember that looks aren't everything. A guy has to have a good personality and attitude to be in a relationship

[Asker]

I think for women looks are everything. I’ve seen very attractive men treat women like shit or ignore them and the girls are there just begging for his attention

[Apple1996]

I don't notice that. I see very ugly men getting married/dating everyday

[msc545]

Bullshit - all he really needs is money.

[Apple1996]

@msc545 money can also pull some women. Most of those rich men are ugly tho

[msc545]

Money pulls any woman unless she meets a man who is both good-looking AND rich, and then she replaces the original right guy.

[Apple1996]

@msc545 not all women are after money so it just depends on the woman

[msc545]

All of them are, including you. Stop lying.

[Apple1996]

@msc545 a man has yet to win me over with money

[msc545]

give it time.

[msc545]

Also, stop lying.

[Apple1996]

@msc545 I'm not a materialistic person so it'd be extremely hard to do

[Asker]

I’m broke but I come from a very rich family. I’m soon to start my career. It impresses women that you come from a great family and are very well set up. But they don’t care so much. It’s like a bonus.
Looks > Personality > Money

I never get when guys are like all you need is money.

[Asker]

The prettiest girls I know don’t mostly don’t marry rich guys but guys that are stable or in a good career. But not rich.

[Apple1996]

The men that lead with money do so because that's all they have. They don't have looks, personality or good family values. Money usually only attracts bad women that are trying to use the man

[Asker]

Yeah I actually prefer that girls like me before they find out I have money. That is essential for me. Then later she can find out and I’ll analyse how she responds to that

[Asker]

But I wouldn’t say money necessarily attracts bad women. It can attract a girl that wants to have a man provide for her, but not necessarily use him. There’s a difference.

[Apple1996]

Not all provider men are even rich. Some just make average money and are smart with their spending

[Asker]

True. But nowadays you need more than average money. It’s not just about being a provider as a man you should be giving your family the best living standard instead of being just comfortable

[msc545]

Maybe your family should be giving you the best standard of living instead. I don't recall any laws or rules that say you have to be the provider.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

I mean, you can look like a Greek God sculpture.. but do you have a personality inside you?

[ProbablyClueless]

I have not seen that to be true, no. Women find lots of men attractive, they're just super flighty.

[SotiCoto]

Most women prefer bears these days... because the bear is over 6ft and would treat her rough.

[msc545]

Statistically, women find only 20% of men attractive, and actively pursue only the upper 10%/. Hypergamy means they are always looking for a "better" man.

[msc545]

Depend on every woman who answers this to simply LIE.

[slatyb]

Where's the data?

[msc545]

Take a look at the OkCupid study.

[slatyb]

Oh, I read that a while ago. Men are the same -- they all contact the most attractive women and ignore the rest, then whine because they don't receive replies.

[msc545]

@slatyb Reread it - that is not what the data says.

[CaitlinSims25]

Some men can attracted to some low value people. i'm not that 10% of men are going have more opiotion for women. these men are low value for me. i'm not attracted to players, cheaters and rude people or men.

[handsomelad70]

At 70, I'm one of the handful of forever Golden Boys whose looks receive compliments from both sexes.

[In_Trance]

Your update is inaccurate. If that were true you would have a girlfriend

[Asker]

I know girls that are very pretty and nice and single. Anyone can be single. Famous people etc…

That’s a stupid response.
Your answer is illogical

[In_Trance]

Your logic is flawed

[DarkLegacy]

You have a very shitty and arrogant attitude, hence why you are alone

[_piotr]

Women do not find men physically attractive.

[Alex-Snow]

I hope and would thing that more than a tiny percentage of women find guys attractive

[thisAppIsGarbage]

Yes it's true and it's not what you think. It's below average looking guys with money and a great sense of humor

[LiamJHayden]

If we are talking about online, probably. In person it is far more complex.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Nope. Otherwise most men and women wouldn't be in a relationship.

[CrabCakes11]

I think most men look fine.

[msc545]

Another lie.

[CrabCakes11]

@msc545 lol are you ok? Are you upset I don’t fit your narrow idea of women’s preferences? Cry about it

[Anonymous]

I'm anon

[scott04sa22]

I'm a ugly guy lol

[HeftyLefty]

No offense, but how does your response help or add value to the question?