Is something wrong with me?

Question

I feel like I have wasted my life, I don’t know why but a lack of any relationship and love makes me feel like a failure. I don’t know why this hurts me this much. I am trying my best to get past this feeling. Did you guys feel this way. I’m 25 and I feel ashamed to even have these feelings, I just keep feeling there must be something wrong with me

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First of all dont link your lack of not having a relationship yet as beeing a failure. Neither has to do with each other. Secondly its fine to feel a bit frustrated and of course lonely just dont carry this frustration outside or let it grow.

Dating and finding a partner in this society has become increasingly hard and there's neither women or men to blame. Dating apps and beeing online has changed us but there's no turning back now at least we ain't dealing with constant wars anymore most of us.

The best course in my opinion would be sailing the ship as it is, its no longer uncommon that young men are single or never had a relationship and this trend will continue. Life your live and make an effort to meet people, while meeting people online has become much easier and common, irl connections are way more healthy.

This might not apply for you but helped me a ton as "late bloomer": I highly recommend making an effort to have female friends aswell and value those relationship as what they are and not see them as potential romantic prospects. Often enough you are introduced trough them to potential love interests and if not its still helps to learn to not be awkward around women and learn a bit on how they tick and work.

Women value ofc looks but confidence and social status aswell. Looks can be altered to some extent like getting a new hairstyle, clothes or self care to treat acne scars for example. But confidence is something that has to be earned and builds slowly trough your life and experience you make. If you flee from all uncomfortable Situations like not speaking to that girl in the Café you find cute you won't grow. Anything that doesn't kill you makes you stronger afterall.

DextroShade · Accepted Answer

You are experiencing the effects of hoeflation: a man will now have to work much harder than his grandfather for a woman who is much worse than his grandmother. And you are far from alone: 1 in 3 men are either virgins or haven't had sex in over a year. Feminism has turned most modern women into fat, delusional, entitled, narcissistic whores. You haven't failed, you have been failed by these worthless modern Western women. All you can do is focus on getting money so you can afford to get a woman from overseas where Feminism hasn't so completely corrupted the women.

Cutegirl06 · Accepted Answer

I don't think not having a relationship at 25 makes you a failure. Maybe you're just not ready for a relationship now? No need to be ashamed of having feelings you're human just like the rest of us!!

slatyb · Answer

You are not even 30. You have a lot of time ahead. So work on yourself. Have you considered or tried professional counseling? It helped me a lot when I was having similar feelings.