Is it bad that I plan on giving up on dating in my 30s if I don’t get a girlfriend before?

[Anonymous]

I don’t mean to sound like a sour puss but I just feel like if I never find one before than it’s better to just give up. I’m sure in my 30s I’ll see more potential matches considering that the girls that are single are realizing their dating pool is shrinking so they start lowering some of their physical standards but at that point what is the point. The way I see it they only find me attractive because the know their options are limited. They all got to have fun experiences in there 20s while I spent my teens and twenties alone. I just feel like Id be considered one of the “last resorts”. Ik I’m physically not a catch and Ik that my options are limited especially in this dating market.

And before you judge try to put your self in my shoes. You spend your teens and your twenties constantly getting rejected before you even get a chance. Then once you start getting into your 30s the gender your attracted too finally starts noticing you as a potential match because they are running out of options. But most of them got to have fun. They got to experiment. While you didn’t.

[lightbulb27]

yes, but I did the same in my 20's. Gave up for a while and just enjoyed keeping busy.

Ignoring your problems, taking yourself off the market is a way to avoid development and put yourself at disadvantage. But it's your life.

what you want is to be ready to win a date, put your all in and value that person. Otherwise, "ships will pass in the night"... all the time...

[Anonymous]

No, I quit the game at 19 and am far happier for doing it

[Crazyced]

I get what you are saying and you have a right to feel that way. However, also ask yourself, is being salty and staying alone actually going to make your life happier? Truth is, dating girls can be fun and it should be.

I'd say dip your toes in a way that you won't feel used as a consolation prize. I read a guy that went on a bunch of dates say: 'Go in there with the attitude that you were going to do that activity regardless (take a walk, sight see, try that new cafe) and that girl is just tagging along in the entertainment, like a buddy'. Remove all the pressure that she's trying to use you for your lifelong resources, that you have to win her over and see the experience as sharing a moment shooting the breeze with a friend and you will have fun regardless if she's interested in you intimately or not.

This makes it a lot easier to date and not feel used. It will also give you the experience in interacting with the opposite gender men so desperately need in order to best attract a mate.

[uniquelyshy]

Honestly I can understand, I was the same way I was gonna do the same as you but I found someone. I mean we've been together a year but since we were both financially not ready we are not together but we still talk and have fun. It's just we're taking space to work on our financial situations as well as our mental health because we both have not so healthy backgrounds that made us hurt to much. We've made some serious progress and maybe in a few years we'll be better and revisit our relationship right now we're focusing more on ourselves. Besides I don't know what you look like but I am positive your not bad looking I mean sure maybe your not how most woman want you to look but your definitely still attractive. Don't doubt yourself so much time ma feel fast seem fast even but it's not as fast as you think it all depends on if you remember the good times tha determine if time is fast or slow for you.

[paledreams]

Sir I present yourself me in the present. I'm not from the future. Can confirm I turned 30 this year. Have definitely retired. Can't even be sure if 20s women still look at me as bangable, bankable (just to use me for my money or free food dates ha and cheat on the side lol of me) or banged up lol 😆 (a basket case) 🧺 🍞
Oh well ❤️‍🩹😆 - I've found life cheaper and more hair and no fat by being single and I'll may as well keep being single. A broad would just weigh me down, "a broad" hahaha ♀️👠

[bobby_bush_eater]

I get how you feel and why you're feeling it but you gotta remember it only takes one day to meet one person. That can be literally any day but you have to try new things, put yourself in uncomfortable situations, and have hobbies or interests if your own.

If you're not physically attractive as you're indicating then get fit if you're not. That automatically makes you more attractive. Also become good at something, put effort or plan towards something whether professionally or personally.

If you do those things not only will you have better chances now but also in your 30s you'll still be able to date girls in their 20s should it not happen.

I know it's not easy but giving up is not the right choice in my opinion

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I personally wouldn't. I'm almost 25 years. old and I've never got to date either. But I wouldn't throw away a good relationship if I turned 30 just because no one gave me a chance or let me try yet. Better having a romantic relationship in your 30s instead of waiting until you're 60 and wishing you'd change your mind when you were younger. Being a late flower does suck, but there's some positives down the road. Can't tell you what but they will be there.

[Daniela1982]

Maybe you and the girls that think the same thing should be getting together.

We better hurry up and marry before we turn 30.

[DarkOsiris]

I used to think the same way and I know where you're coming from. Dude, there are still women without crazy experiences (20s-30s) who will view you as a good option in your 30s and even older. But to find them in your 20s, my advice is to put your best self out there and be open to new people/ experiences. Not a bar person? Go anyways. Taking courses online? Visit campus once in a while. Always at work? Strike up conversation network with your coworkers. But don't rely on the apps

[4ngelic]

you still have a lot of time to think about that, most likely you will get a girlfriend before then. by the way why do you get rejected all the time? are you overweight or something? or are you only hitting on very attractive girls?

[Anonymous]

I walked away from all dating and relationships decades ago. But I've always had a lot of attention from women. When I used to approach them they were always receptive. But I do not consider it a wise or good use of my time so I don't do it.

[HelpfulWoman]

yes. it shows why you're not chosen for a relationship.

[Asker]

I’m not. I never even get the chance to show my worth

[HelpfulWoman]

you sound like you're not worth shit anyway.

[Asker]

First off that’s extremely rude what did I say to make you come up with that conclusion

[Loner111]

Yeah... I know exactly what u feel and mean. Im in the same situation...

It's like I'm in my prime now that every now and then I feel like I get noticed... Trust me, I know what ur saying.

[sheikalana]

I think you should never give up on dating.

[genericname85]

how many girls have you taken out on a date? just curious.

[OddBeMe]

Tbh, it might be good to step back now and take notes. What are you doing wrong? Do you actually like women?

[Anonymous]

To each their own oh well the way I see it is that nature doesn't care if a man never finds love or never gets laid or never finds a woman but the reverse isn't true though

[LiamJHayden]

Focus on bettering yourself and date when and if you want. No reason to just give up.

[Anonymous]

You sound pathetic because you should be focused on an education and career. No woman wants a broke man

[Opinion Owner]

@hurremsultan honey ur ugly and desperate u don't have options pretty women do

[Asker]

I’m working pretty hard at my career actually

[Opinion Owner]

Focus on that. Women of quality want financially stable men.

[noohair]

Never give up on anything.

[Anonymous]

Try 44

[paledreams]

Here at 30 reporting 🫡👀😋