Do men compare women in real life to ones online?

[Anonymous]

As women we know how influencers online and even sometimes top pictures when you look up famous models and actresses get very heavily photoshopped. There are tons of women online who made money off of men who genuinely believe their 2 inch waist and h cup boobs are real. There is a big difference between a fit or genetically blessed women with nice assets and a lot of the women you see online.

It worries me because men often don’t seem to realize how easy it is to edit bodies and faces in photos and videos even live streams they compare real life women to these often times both botox filled and edited fake people. Some might say men don’t take it seriously but if you open any of those comment section it’s tons of men comparing their girlfriends and wives to these women or wishing for a girl like that when that girl isn’t physically possible. It develops an insane standard which literally does not exist. Do men compare real life women to the ones they see online?

[hahahmm]

The thing is that in the past women were not so focused on sex. Now it's as if that's all most women have to offer. It used to be that 99% of women were fit and had nice bodies. Plus took pride in trying to look attractive without looking like street hookers. It wasn't even something people had to talk about. In that environment, you know what mattered? Character. A man wouldn't be obsessed with finding a woman who had a better body because that wasn't the most valuable thing a woman had.

Now, most of you females (speaking generally, obviously)... that's all you have. You don't build a good character. You don't want to give a man traditional relationship benefits but you expect him to bend over backwards and do all of the traditional stuff that benefits YOU. Guys have figured out that this math doesn't work. In the old days guys didn't even need a lot from a woman but she gave him respect and loyalty & tried to be a good person or help make his life peaceful. Now you have drama queens and dream killers running everywhere. You have women acting masculine in many ways and being very disrespectful to men. Western society has become a sewer and that affects both men & women.

If a guy is online complaining about his wife, I guarantee you the problem goes deeper than just how she looks. Guran-ffffinnn--teeed. There's 100 things going on but I guess it's like if you had a car that you got tired of trying to fix. You may only mention the last or most obvious problem it has and not the other 100 things that have been bothering you & costing you money for years.

What you personally can do is to be the best person you can be & have high standards for the guys you take seriously. Don't make the mistake most women make today of being lower quality AND being attracted to lower quality.

[patois]

It's funny that you think men spend their time online focused on women's fashion. You really think guys are watching make up videos and merch hauls? Are clown masks and shopping really what you think guys are interested in? You really think that's how we spend our free time? That shit is targeted at women to sell women shit they don't need. It doesn't influence guys.

[Asker]

Im not talking about fashion influencers im talking about internet models, egirls, and only fans women. Their target audience is male and their followers are 100% male. In 2023 5.5b was spent on only fans 87% of only fans users are men.

[patois]

What do models do again? What are they modeling? You sure you're not talking about fashion...

[patois]

I've never heard any guy ever talk about only fans or paying for porn. Porn is free all over the internet... Guys don't really spend money on that. They are money laundering platforms for criminal activity.

[Asker]

These models are more akin to porn stars they are not selling clothes. Look up skirby or any other cosplay, egirl. The clothes are not the focus it’s their body so they can profit off horny men. No women are watching those women. Look at the followings of any only fans model or cam girl. If you’re in such disbelief explain the statistics of how much men spend and watch only fans or the audience bases of these women.

[Asker]

Thats the reason these models post online and gain such large follows so they have men who will pay for their nudes. Only fans isn’t an unreal thing just because you might not know horny incels doesn’t mean a lot of men aren’t paying. If you genuinely believe all those women selling only fans are coving for criminal activity and all the 420 million active users daily is fake i’m not sure what to tell you. I will say however most horny men aren’t just going to admit they’re paying to see a photoshopped dominatrixs tit pics for 10 dollars a month.

[patois]

The fact that you think 420 million "users" on those sites are actually people is hilarious. The internet is filled with bots. Crime is a big industry and small transactions help hide criminal activity. Just the drug business in the US is a $100 billion dollar industry. That money doesn't launder itself.

[patois]

You've got illegal arms trading, human trafficking, government secret trading, political interference, etc. Somebody has to be an intermediary for all that money so that it can pass from country to country without being intercepted by authorities. They do the job and get their cut.

[Asker]

if you really think the bimbos of the world of trafficking people and laundering money I’ll let you believe that.

[Asker]

men will never realize how despite other men are for sex because they’ll never see it from the perspectiva of a woman. Trust there are more than 420 million horny men.

[Asker]

desperate*

[patois]

Sure, men watch porn and there are endless sites that give you free porn from every single porn operation out there for free literally the day the videos are released. You don't have to give them your identity, you don't have to give them an email, you don't have to give them money they just try their hardest to shove naked women on you for free. The fact that you think men would pay for something that is not just handed to them, more so forced on them for free is hilarious. You'd rather believe a fiction that men are so desperate they will pay for porn that they already get for free because why? rather than accept the reality that scandalous women with lack of morals would take offers from organized crime to make more money because they are so upstanding and they would never do anything bad right? Come on man... All you have to do is search only fans and you will see the endless symbolism they use to flag what they are involved in. Shit there even are tons of accounts that flat out call themselves Illuminati this and Illuminati that.

[Asker]

Not saying they’re too good people. I’m saying if you think women dumb enough to do only fans are also doing organized crime I don’t know what to tell you. Numbers don’t lie, there are tons of men who admit to buying only fans and it’s not a thing about free porn it’s a thing about building list over a certain person so they can sell their body. Obviously they’re not just paying for randoms but when you’re an avid follower of a certain persons and a basement dweller 10 dollars a month to see more content and “support them” isn’t such a insane concept. And yes there are dumb horny enough men to do it just like they’re are dumb enough women to make the content. Agree to disagree

[Asker]

lust*

[patois]

I don't know how to break this to you, but organized crime rings often control strip clubs, pornography companies, escort services, and general prostitution rings. They pimp hos. They have an endless supply of poor desperate women that can be bought. The girls are often addicted to drugs, have gambling issues, and/or are have accumulated various debts that they can't pay on time. Your only fans girls aren't the fucking masterminds no matter how much you want to glorify women and try to degrade men as incels. They work at a very low level for men that are much smarter than them.

[patois]

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[Rei13]

I am sure some guys are like that where they compare women to unrealistic standards but most with a brain cell know better lol

[osmanthus]

Tell em to get his own botox injections and pay for a dick upgrade.

[osmanthus]

If he ain't willing to pay and you're not willing to boost those nips (boob job), he can go wank himself off forever and a day. You don't need to service the guy unless you're a whore. And if he wants whore, well, tell him to go get one.

[osmanthus]

You don't have to spend your time, monies, and energy on a guy who can go waste all his on a whore—unless you yourself are thinking of becoming one. Each to his/her own.

[MisterWack]

No. Women irl are far different than online, same with men irl are far different than online. Online is a cesspool of toxicity and trolling that you wouldn’t find on the day to day. I don’t compare women to their online counterparts since I know online isn’t the majority and the loudest voices aren’t the most correct by default. Respect people and see them for who they are, people. Respect women!

[TopShelfMan]

That's not really much different than many women expecting a man to make 6 figures and be at least 6' tall, even though with those two criteria, they are looking for less than the top 3% of men in the USA, not even considering if they are single or not. But out of 100 women, there will be more than 60% of them looking for that. 60 women wanting 3 men. Women are FAR more delusional than the majority of men are when looking for a mate.

[meepmeeperton]

It’s funny because how many men are even attracted to obvious photoshopped social media models? None of the men I know are, they appreciate normal female bodies. And yet it’s completely socially acceptable to view “beauty standards” for women as totally unfair and sexist since the 80’s or 90’s.

Interestingly, It is not socially acceptable to complain about women’s standards for men. Women who want 6ft and 6 figures aren’t considered as having unfair standards, they’re “refusing to settle for less.”

[Asker]

@meepmeeperton My perception of men’s expectations for men may be off but so are most men’s about women. Most women i know are dating average men they just clicked with some make more some make less some make the same amount some are super handsome some aren’t conventionally attractive, some of are short some are tall. If you look at real life couples not every man in a relationship is 6ft and rich they’re just average people who met someone they connected with. And men complain about the 3 sixes all the time 24/7 no matter how much women tell them it’s untrue. Most sane in the head single women you’ll meet will tell you themselves they want someone decently attractive to them who is kind and not dirt poor. That’s not a crazy standard. Both genders put bizzare ideas on eachother I guess

[meepmeeperton]

The guys I see complaining about the sixes are quickly labeled incels or misogynists by women and certain men looking to impress women. I know most women don't actually want an incredibly rich handsome tall man, but I'm just saying it's far more socially acceptable for women to have higher standards. The way women rate attractiveness also skews things. They find far more men to be "average" and far fewer men to be truly attractive. Friends of yours that are just dating "average" guys may be dating guys men would see as fairly handsome. And yet, the "beauty standards for women" discussion drags on. Women are generally allowed to have higher standards yet view themselves as victims of an impossibly high standard. Yes, I know not all women have crazy standards, it's just more socially acceptable for them to.

[adam6402]

Honestly, my standard of women in real life is completely separate from my standard of women online.

They're two different things. Online, girls have to compete against the most beautiful women in the world, but in real life, they're just competing with all the average people around them so it takes much less beauty to stand out.

[MasterRA]

I disagree a little, there are men who believe that these surgical or fake bodies are exactly that, fake, that they generate excitement when "touching themselves" but nothing more; As a man, I prefer a natural woman, a woman who does not abuse makeup and who loves herself just as she is. I can say that I am "scared away" by very voluptuous women with very toned bodies. I prefer women with little breasts but with great hips and butt and the main thing is that she has completely natural thick and fleshy lips, but a natural woman is the best

[meepmeeperton]

No, they don’t. Men are well aware of the filters, editing and plastic surgeries social media models use in their photos. Most men you will talk to don’t find it attractive, don’t believe it’s real, and will tell you they prefer a more natural look.

The only guys I can think of that actually like those photos online are horny teenage boys, and specifically Indian men who will offer to marry photoshopped models, LOL.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

I don't think guys are as gullible or as unrealistic as you seem to believe.

Most guys have noticed that women in the real world don't have natural h-cup breasts and six percent body fat. And they're fine with it.

A guy on here could make a post complaining that women all want a guy in finance with a trust fund who's six foot five and blue-eyed. But most women aren't that gullible or unrealistic.

No offense, but I think you're worrying about nothing. You'll be fine.

[Asker]

Maybe it’s because I’m younger (19) It’s not uncommon to hear boys talk about their preference for body types that seem insane. Maybe it’ll get better with time. I’ve definitely met guys who were attracted to me and will continue to so its less an individual concern and more of a concern that some men follow these women in such cult like hoards and what that will been for the future because like i said my generation is much worse about it or at least believing it.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

I mean, I'm 16, and I've figured out that most women don't actually have boobs as big as their head.

The guys who only want to date women with freakishly huge boobs, and girls who only want to date giant millionaires, probably spend more time online than in the real world, and don't know what the real world is like.

[LiamJHayden]

Undoubtedly many do, which is why they are so unhappy. Most real live women cannot compete with Photoshop and AI, but these guys have so little real life experience that they think women should look like those fantasies.

[KrakenAttackin]

No, that's a female mindset. Remember, it's women that consider 80+% of men to be "unattractive". Not average, not "mid", not acceptable, but downright unattractive. Which means women consider about 15% of men to be not unattractive, and only 5% of men to be actually "attractive".

Men are much more reasonable in beauty standards.

[Twalli]

I would legit love it if my girlfriend could look like some of my favorite OF girls. Yet I don't expect her to look like them and be the person she is. At the end if the day, personality is far more important than looks, because in 20 years (if OF stoll is essentially a porn site) almost all of those girls will be gone, because their body isn't the way it was.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Why do insecure women always make the false claim that internet or tv or movie model level beauty doesn't exist in real life?

It does, and its much more common than you think, especially in large cities.

[Asker]

again i’m not talking about actress/celebrity beauty. Brooke shields, adriana lima, ana de armas etc are all beautiful real women im talking about women online like Skirby on instagram or any of the billion kim kardashian clones or only fans models. I’m not insecure as much as I’m concerned that you men in my generation 18-20s are becoming so obsessed with these edited women. I don’t compare myself to them as much because I feel I have my own classical look of beauty and I know there are men my look appeals to but the amount of men who believe these instagram models are real and even women who feel bad about themselves over posed people with plastic surgery is alarming

[TheSpaceGnome]

I had to look up who skirby is, you can tell which pics are edited, especially since its very inconsistant with hip size, but her unedited ones actually look better, and I've seen real women who look like that in their 30s in person, both for her unedited pics, and even for some of her lesser edited ones.
Never been a fan of huge hips/butts personally.

I think you might be inflating the number of men obsessing over the edited pics though. If a guy is "obsessed" with the looks of an online model, especially a lewd model, they have most likely looked up what she looks like naked or at least in skimpy clothing on video, so they are well aware of what she actually looks like.

We aren't easily fooled, not by photoshop, not by makeup, and not even by plastic surgery when those are present. Just look at the number of guys on here being critical of how fake boobs look just as much as saggy ones, or that makeup is fraud, and you will see what I mean.

We spot the details better than the women who try to hide them or change them, so when we say "she's hot" or "she's cute" or "she's pretty" about a woman on the internet, we mean the unedited version, as thats the first thing we look up.

Also, Most of us are not actually interested in those models, we just use them as proxies to describe shorthand the facial features or body types we are into because verbalizing it otherwise is hard. So it literally is "just for comparing" (just not the via edits).

[paledreams]

It gives me some pointers about how women in most situations aren't nearly as hot as they could be lol for me at least , I'll hit dating apps and just see plain Jane after plain Jane after plain Jane - what hell 🤮🥱🥳

[Asker]

This is the problem. The women you see online aren’t real. The women you see on dating apps and outside are. Do you realize how insane it sounds that you believe magically all the hot women are only on instagram

[paledreams]

I'm just being shallow about looks. And unrelated to AI or models, I'm talking years now (I've been 20-30 the last 10 years lol) and in all my time the women whether online or in reality - very few are lookers and very few even would give me the time of day except politeness to a stranger bare minimum lol - I don't mind, I'm giving observational comedy here 👀

[paledreams]

Yet the observation, of mine, is true, I feel. I feel 🤔

[HawkPerception]

We compare to everything we've seen in our lives. It's human nature. Women do it as well. It's delusional to think otherwise. We're all judgmental to an extent.

[Asker]

This is so weird because men tend to look at women in porn and social media that have insane amounts of work done and editing while women see attractive men but attractive men that are at least natural. I don’t compare men i see online to men in real life because I know in real life an attractive guy is rare in itself making me grateful just to see an attractive man in his own individual way not comparing him to anyone else. It’s not human nature to compare someone else’s unique attractiveness to another’s at least I don’t.

[meepmeeperton]

The funny thing is if you look at the most popular porn stars, they aren’t pretty like models. They mostly have unattractive faces and average bodies with big boobs and asses. So porn doesn’t really set any standard for men, it just provides visual stimulation. I’m against porn and don’t think it’s healthy to consume, but I don’t think women understand how men interact with it.

[avery58]

They do know those influencers are photoshopped to death, many of them just don't care. Even though they claim to prefer natural women.

[Crazyced]

I absolutely do not. The level of deception online is crazy, hell it's AI generated now. Face filters on dating apps are now an epidemic. Thankfully it has not affected my ability to appreciate real women.

[Iron_Man]

What I hear from you and see from you online is what I expect in person not a different person with different stories. No, I don’t expect a different person. I Expect the same person online as in real life.

[Asker]

Not talking about me or normal women on social media 🤦‍♀️ I’m talking about the crazy photoshopped instagram models men follow and their their insane proportions are real when its clear to any women their body is fake

[Iron_Man]

Those girls don’t want to meet anybody some of them are probably fake and they just want attention to boost their ego online

[GoodEnoughThen]

I don't compare. That celebrity stuff is just bs, a distraction from real life.

[Yannae]

I can only compare to the way they talk. Whether I hear from her on chat, calls or in person shouldn't make much of a difference.

[Anonymous]

There are also women online whose insane bodily dimensions are 100% real! Not every smoking hot girl is fake, you know. Sometimes a girl actually IS smoking hot.

[Asker]

I said in the post there are some women who are genetically blessed or fit but there is a big difference between them and the women online. There are hot people but hot people still look like people. This is a prime example of men not knowing the difference because bone structures and anatomy still apply to everyone. It is not physically possible to be 5’0” with a kim kardasian ass, a 20 inch waist, humongous boobs, a microscopic nose you can’t breathe through. It’s honestly weird in the first place that’s become the beauty standard for women because it’s so extreme it doesn’t even resemble a human shape. I’m not talking about the jessica albas , beyonces, and brooke shields of the world those are real hot women. I’m talking about the millions of other copy cat egirls who don’t look like people at all

[Opinion Owner]

I see. Could you post a pic of an example of what you're talking about?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Stupid ones do.

Online and social media world is totally different from the day to day life people live in the real world.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Some men do, they really do however I think that is overall the minority

[ICanSmellTheCosmos]

Not really, no. Instagram and porn are just smoke and mirrors.

[Anonymous]

No, cause my only option is to date online far away

[Anonymous]

Most men would be intimidated by Instagram models. Average is fine with us.

[DishLady]

Probably in some visual level.

[ProbablyClueless]

No. Those are totally separate in my mind.

[Unit1]

I don't do that

[Allenlance]

Absolutely not to me totally different

[jahaims]

Only dumb ones