Boyfriend with a wondering eye?

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My boyfriend and I have been together about 2.5 years now. We have been overall angood match. The one issue we keep having is him checking out other woman. Unfortunately this has been a problem multiple times in out relationship and im really getting sick over it. He is incredible rude and will stare at woman right in front of me. Can we actually fix our relationship or should I just break up with him already?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Is your boyfriend a cheater? Is he looking to score other women? Didn't he choose you for your looks, personality and so much more? Is he unsatisfied with your face, body and/or sexuality?

I think it's unrealistic to think that a man wouldn't notice or appreciate the female form. What about in art or even porn?

I appreciate beautiful sights like sunsets, landscapes, flowers, puppies and kittens, beautiful art, and women. I'm not blind.

I don't think it's healthy to be jealous if two people love and trust each other.

When my wife and I are watching a movie, I might notice an actress and say "She's really cute." And there are certain actors that my wife thinks are hot.

We've been to the beach and seen particularly lush babes in tiny bikinis roller skating past. We'll both watch as she approaches and then turn to watch her sashay away. And, yes, she checks out good looking guys.

Sometimes my wife even calls my attention to a woman with a fine ass or prominently displayed boobs.

One time we were on a ferry in San Francisco Bay. A sail boat passed very near and two girls stood and flashed their boobs at our boat. My wife grabbed my arm and pointed so that I wouldn't miss the sight.

One time, we stopped at a frozen yogurt shop by a lake. There were four people in front of us who looked to be in their late teens. The girl right in front of us was wearing a beach top that only covered the top of her butt crack. She must have been wearing a thong bikini because it looked like her particularly round, plump, white ass was completely naked.

My wife and I looked each other wide-eyed. I jokingly reached out and motioned like I was squeezing that ample, doughy softness. Nobody else saw. We both laughed silently.

She knows that I like boobs, butts and feminine figures. I love hers. So it's not a big deal if I notice certain women and think "Dang!"

And it often leads to playfulness and ardor later when we are alone. Even porn can be a sexual stimulant.

meepmeeperton · Accepted Answer

Well, men tend to be visual creatures, but it's important to be respectful to our girlfriends. I don't check other women out because I don't want my girlfriend doing that to me, and because I want her to feel special. I'm a straight man so I like boobs and butts and lots of things about women, but I have one woman to look at all the time and that's all I need. Sometimes she will make a comment on a woman's body that she finds attractive, but I don't at all. If there's a nude scene in a movie or show sometimes I'll comment on it like, "she has weird nipples" LOL, but no lusting after other women at all.

Anyways, your boyfriend probably thinks it's no big deal because he's just looking, but if you talked about it he may understand.

Aubrey97 · Accepted Answer

I assume you've brought this up to him multiple times? If you've discussed it and he refuses to alter his behavior despite knowing how much it bothers you then it's not going to change and if it's as big a deal as it sounds to you, then your instinct to end it is probably best.

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

If you've addressed this issue and told him how upsetting this is to you and he doesn't take your feelings in consideration then maybe is best to let him go cuz how many more arguments are you going to have over the same thing over and over again? Must be exhausting.

AviatorTom · Answer

I'm pretty sure you meant "wandering" eye. As many women have told me, there's nothing wrong with  looking  ... it's  doing   that's bad.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Have you ever noticeably checked out another guy when he is around?

Sometimes, guys like that have to get a little taste of their own medicine, literally an eye for an eye scenario.

If he doesn't like it and brings it up... you then have an excellent opportunity to say, you're not really fond of it, when he does it either, but what's good for gander is good for the goose.

You can then say, if I don't do it, will you stop doing it, and see what his reaction is? If he's two-faced he'll try to skirt the question and make it more about you looking either that or he won't agree to it. Either way you have your answer.

DrPepper12 · Answer

I'm going to tell you what my mother-in-law told me on my wedding day. We had been dating for years before we got married and as soon as we said the ideas my mother-in-law came up to me put both arms on my shoulders looked me square in the eye and said "You can still look at the catalog, you just can't order". If he's rude about it say so cuz that's not cool.
Turn tables on him and ask him "Wow babe, he's cute! What do you think?"
Ask him "What did you find attractive about her?" when you catch him. It may be insightful.
Lastly, try don't be jealous. He seems oblivious but not malicious.

serious · Answer

I suppose you mean "wandering eye"

Well, I think you should already know the answer to your question. If he has a wandering eye then that is red flag and it is an indication towards cheating as well. Though he has not cheated on you yet, but sooner or later that day will not be far off.

DontAskMePeople · Answer

Yea I definitely look but if I'm next to my partner I am very forward/ honest with my actions and tell her or indicate I'm looking but yea I don't stare too long and have her feeling uncomfortable next to me, don't want my girl upset. On the flip side if I notice a guy with good abs no shirt etc I'll quickly tap her and say babe look at that 🤣

So guess this makes it ok?

handsomelad70 · Answer

As long as he's just checking them out and nothing else, tell him it makes you uneasy, but don't leave him unless he continues or is attempting to line up another lady. He's a boy, and at any age, we boys will ogle hot broads.(By the way, lady, why aren't you eyeing the lads?_)

exitseven · Answer

It is okay if he just looks. especially if she is hot It means he has a pulse

Billlewis · Answer

I'd strongly consider locking his genitals in a chastity restraining device.

LazerBean · Answer

Making someone change to improve a relationship really works. Better to break up and get with a man who isn't broken.

ICanSmellTheCosmos · Answer

He probably won't change, but just to show how it feels, make a point of checking out other dudes overtly when he's around, that way he'll register how his behavior is affecting you. Or, just leave.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Every guy looks I'll look and not hide it perfectly natural doesn't mean you want them

Apple1996 · Answer

If he won't stop then it's best to leave. Men like this tend to be cheaters

spartan55 · Answer

If it wasn't that I'm sure it would be something else. Just end it.

DishLady · Answer

If it’s a consistent problem for you then it’s probably best to just leave him.

Dongie · Answer

You NEVER look at another man no matter how much he got it going on? I figure everybody glances around a bit. I think maybe it becomes less as you get older. Until you glimpse a smoke stack.

Anonymous · Answer

😆😆😆 it's the way you worded that "wandering eye". Next thing you know you're going to complain that he doesn't look you in the eye.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Yeah, not cool, not respectful. Have you told him directly how this makes you feel?

Anonymous · Answer

Have a threesome with him before you split up. It will make you feel better. Who cares about him at this point?

Twalli · Answer

As long as it's just his rules, that's fine. If it's hus oenis, then there's a problem.

noohair · Answer

It is the caveman brain. Guys to it without knowing. It is normal.

Anonymous · Answer

Stare at other men. It works for both you & him

Daniela1982 · Answer

When your eye offends you, pluck it out!

Jennz6 · Answer

It has happened to me too

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Which other woman?

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yeah. Sorry. But no. It’s always going to happen.

Staximus · Answer

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