My boyfriend thinks I have a wondering eye?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend always accuses me of having a wondering eye. We could be at the gym and if i happen to look in the direction of any guy he thinks is “my type” he accuses me of looking at them. I find it insane that he feels this way because i consciously will look at the floor and make no eye contact or even look at other men in the face. Why does he feel this way? And what can i do to make him not feel like i have a wondering eye?

[Hardon-Collider]

Start preaching discipline to him to prove that you know more about avoiding "wandering eye" than he does.

Start off with "even if you have a wondering eye, it's actually a good opportunity for self development, and once conquered you then will become inseducible".

There's nothing wrong in looking at other men. In fact, i would be more worried if you're so lacking in self control that looking away is the only method to avoid gushing over them.

How about this improvised exercise: at home, monitor your heart rate while looking at pictures of "your type" --- and learn to keep the heart rate low. See them as respectable human beings. Not as gods to pedestalize or pieces of meat to fuck. Not a lengthy session, rather just a quick 10 second reminder once in a while.

When a wave of horny washes over you, DO NOT immediately distract yourself, as if throwing a train off of its tracks. INSTEAD you should slow down, gently brake the train, and even if necessary go backwards a little to find a turn that leads to your correct destination.

There exists momentum that carries you into the horny town. It can not disappear. You either collect it and reuse in a better way, or it wrecks you.

Looking away is not the answer. ㅤ

[Asker]

My man is very respectful and doesn’t look around at other women. I don't feel like i look at other men but to him i do. Which is why i resorted to just looking down at the ground to avoid even the possibility of him thinking that.

[bowenw]

You may not be able to change his lack of self confidence, but it may help to reassure him that you aren't interested in anyone but him. If he continues to accuse you of looking whether you are or not, you may want to rethink the relationship as this could be a sign of things to come.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Alex-Snow]

He sounds very insecure. Also he does not have the right to accuse you of something that is not true. As u probably know all guys will notice and to some extent appreciate a good looking girl. It should not be any different for you if that makes sense. How is ur sex life with him... has his insecurity changed it at all?

[Asker]

Our sex life is great honestly. None of that has effected it at all.

[Alex-Snow]

Happy to hear the sex is going well... enjoy! Just tell him you are not interested in the other guys but it is human nature to look and at times admire members of the opposite gender for both guys and girls

[rebelsunshine]

Perhaps he's just being protective of you because he notices other guys checking you out?

For all he knows he probably assumes they're doing that because you make eyes with them even though you haven't.

[Asker]

Yeah i can understand that point of view!

[Spencer10]

Your boyfriend lacks self confidence... not much you can do about it.

[slatyb]

You need a new boyfriend. This one will ruin your life.

[Asker]

How might he ruin my life?

[slatyb]

He'll constantly be accusing you of one thing or another that triggers his insecurities. He will probably cheat on you, because the people who worry about their partner cheating are mostly cheaters.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Every lass worth her estrogen has a "WANDERING eye." Does your dude ogle other chicks?

[Anonymous]

How do u both look. What’s your type

[Asker]

I would say we are both attractive individuals. He is about 5’10, very athletic built, broad shoulders, nice strong legs, full head of hair, hazel brown eyes, a nice beard and mustache the cutest dimples! I absolutely adore him in every way.
Im 5’5 i also have an athletic built. Muscular legs with a nice butt, small waist, not insanely muscular upper body but toned. Long brown curly hair. Like i said we both look good in my opinion.
And i guess my type is athletic, respectful, funny and a great personality.

[Opinion Owner]

Are u both virgin

[Asker]

Lmao no

[Opinion Owner]

Any reason for his jealousy?

[Asker]

Not anything in particular he told me in the very beginning of our relationship that he is a jealous guy

[Opinion Owner]

Why does he like u?