Am I straight or do I just have stupidly high standards (I'm a guy)?

[Anonymous]

I've wondered for a while if I might be into guys, but I decided that probably I was straight, because whenever I see guys in a locker room, beach, pool, etc. where they are partly or completely underdressed, I find it gross, even repulsive. When I look at guy's faces (with the stubble), their hair, their feet, their hands, their chest, everything up close just want to puke. I get this feeling like I'm looking at rotten food or something. I generally don't think guys look good at all, and that most guys are ugly.

However, I have from time to time seen a guy and thought "wow, he's kind of hot". Like maybe once every few years. Recently, I was watching a music video, and I saw a guy that was so pretty I was kind of shocked. In fact, I've been thinking about it for a little while, and I realized that, not as a joke, but seriously, I wouldn't mind having sex with him. In fact, if I was single and I some how met him in IRL, and he liked me, I would definitely would go out with him. Usually seeing another guy's feet gross me out the most, but he had bare feet in the video and I though they were cute... WTF. I THOUGHT ANOTHER GUY HAD CUTE FEET. WUT.

Am I bi and just have stupidly high standards? Or did my brain just break for a moment cause he was too beautiful but I'm actually straight. Random people on the internet. Give me your wisdom.

[SueShe]

How you describe men "... I find it gross, even repulsive. When I look at guy's faces (with the stubble), their hair, their feet, their hands, their chest, everything up close just want to puke...", that is pretty much how I feel except for the vomiting part. A male (or female) body is nothing attractive, beautiful and aesthetic.

Given how you react, you are basically rejecting your feelings as you are obviously bisexual but deep inside yourself, you don't want to admit because bisexuality is something repulsive in your eyes.

You can reject that fact as much as you want but facts speak for themselves.

[Asker]

That's 100% not it. Bisexuality seems cool to me, though it wouldn't mean much for me now because I'm already in a relationship.

Like I would be fine with being interested in men but most men just physically repulse me.

[RebelinSteel]

From the comment about noticing guys and your other comments, it does sound like you are skirting the area of bisexuality. However, as others have said there appears to be some homophobia linked to all this. I would suggest having a talk to a support team that deals with sexuality, they can likely offer some good advice.

[Asker]

I don't think any of you know what homophobia is. I'm just trying to sort out my feelings about who I'm attracted to and you all immediately go to some psycho shit like "homophobia" is if I'm scared of gay people or something.

Dude, I would have no problem being bi, I just don't if I am, because 99% of guys physically repulse me. But there's that 1% that's like... well. Hot.

[Anonymous]

This is common with those who have been corrupted by porn. It's designed to encourage exactly these sorts of 'feelings'.

[Asker]

I don't watch porn.

[Opinion Owner]

You've never watched it?

[Asker]

Only rarely and about a year ago I stopped completely.

[Opinion Owner]

Only rarely is enough to do damage. It contains subliminal programming and all kinds of demonic stuff to encourage such thoughts. Most have no idea. It's good you stopped completely.

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you know if you’re straight or not?

[Asker]

Part of it is I guess is because I'm a femboy and I didn't know if the desire to be like a woman also extended to liking men.

I've been testing myself over and over to see if I have any interest in men but most of the time it's a hard no.

But then I saw this guy and it was like if I was single and I actually knew him IRL, genuinely, I would not mind being his femboy boyfriend, dressing up all cute for him, being like his housewife - cooking, cleaning, doing whatever he wanted in bed, but this is the first time in my life I've ever thought this about a guy, so... wtf.

[Opinion Owner]

don’t do any of this stuff stick to girls only

[Asker]

I'm already married and I like girls so I'm not changing my life over it anyways, but why do you think I shouldn't do something like that if I was single?

[Anonymous]

You sound homophobic and probably trying to come to terms with your own bisexuality.

[Asker]

Nothing I said is homophobic. What are you even babbling about? I have no problem with being bi if I am, and I don't have a problem with gay people.

[In_Trance]

I don't even know what to make of that