What to talk about in a first date…?

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I happen to be sitting next to a young couple on their first date.

The guy confesses it’s his first real date ever (he’s ~22/23) and has started talking about going to therapy…. 🤦🏻‍♀️ (This had all the initial markings of a total disaster.)

The girl is an absolute angel. Very calm, simple personality with a young teacher vibe (~21/22) with her act together and gently shares a few details she knows about therapy and meeting the guy at his level. She starts talking about her therapy certification exams and — very smart move — tells the guy how nervous she was to take the exam…. On that note, he seems to finally sit back and open up.

They’ve been here for my 2 cups of coffee (~20-30 min) and will likely be here for my third cup since they’re hitting it off.

So my question to the group is what would you chat a girl up about on your first date… and how can she put you at ease with her (verbal, physical and emotional) response?

TonyMetal___86 · Accepted Answer

You have to work in the C. I. A miss dish 🤣🤣

Now i have to make sure if miss dish have ears in my walls haha

Anyways, they are still at an age where they feel shy or nervous or lost, resulting in acting in an awkward way...

I believe that the 1st date should be casual, talking about ordinary things, getting to know each other and not bringing the negative side because it makes the other repulsed since they still don't know the person good enough yet!

If i was in a 1st date right now, maybe i'll be busy eating and enjoying my meal, talking with the person like i knew her from years, get straight to the point about what i want from a relationship and telling her my likes and dislikes and will ask her about her likes and dislikes and what she wants from a relationship and why she accepted dating me, than make a loud earthquake burp and thank god for the delicious meal given to me on the table, pay the bill and will see what happens next 🤣🤣

I was just joking about the burping thing miss dish haha

The last thing that i would think of is being nervous, i'm not a teenager anymore or a youngster, when someone is about to hit 40 miss dish, they go straight to point and feel relaxed, i mean i'm walking in this path wether she says yes or no, i don't want no drama or experiments, i don't have time!

You want to end up a housewife or not? If yes than you're welcomed and if no, goodbye my loooooove goodbye 😂😂

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Uw2kgg2fylI

Phoenix98 · Accepted Answer

I typically talk about a wide range of things, work, hobbies, things I enjoy I ask questions about her if I stumble upon something she’s passionate about or really enjoys I’ll engage more that same when things we have in common come up. And stuff like what she wants in life, the future etc,

i don’t typically talk about things like real serious issues, politics, etc because we’re supposed to be having fun and I can find more about that stuff later if I choose to pursue her more.

1st date is more just finding more about her in general, seeing how we connect etc.

Iron_Man · Answer

You talk about your future plans what you’ve been doing what been going on with your life talk about traveling talk about sports talk about movies talk about your families all that stuff complement the girl complement the guy

NathanDavis · Answer

I prefer a more genuine experience... no pre-planned, no pretending... let's make it truly interesting instead...

smd_5545 · Answer

Be natural and realistic. Also for first date I guess talk about interests, experiences towards different things. Try to get connect the bonds. Try to read mind and knowledge about mindsets towards things. Etc...

Dongie · Answer

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