Do you remember what things you talked about on your first date with your partner? Do you suggest any topic? I mean to spark a connection what things do I need to talk about on a first date?
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On a first date you are exchanging basic bio with each other of course so that much is a given. I don't think having a date script is helpful.
Some guys like to talk and some guys don't talk that much. I'm in the later category. The things I am passionately interested in are not general interest. So after a sentence or two I am not going to bore you silly on those topics unless you express great interest. Its not that I can't carry a conversation I can; it is just that I am less inclined.
As I sometimes joke, that after a girl has established you are single, has a rough approximation of your net asset backing and cash flow then mostly they prefer to talk about themselves. And I like it that way :).
What I am wanting to see in a girl is that she is interested in the world around her because then we have a large subject of discourse. I don't care about her academic accomplishments but I do want that. So maybe some what do you think of XYZ questions.
When you go on a date probably you are best establishing if the guy is a talker or less of a talker and do less or more yourself depending.
At the end of the day I already know that I like your body and want to have sex with you (which is why I invited you out). Aside from that we can have fun together, I am starting to learn your character as you are mine. So some 'I think' statements are good.0
We don’t know your hobbies and his hobbies and what are you in personality
An example :A women at my clinicals is so ironic and arrogant she found exactly same match.. he is so dark his jokes make me puke like hers lol
You don’t create the spark with specific topics you just click or you don’t click. Unfortunately0
Keep it light and fun, talk about things that interest you, places you’ve been too places u want to go to, sports, movies… pretty much anything conversation will keep flowing if your with the rite person…. If it’s a person who doesn’t meet ur energy it doesn’t matter what you talk about it’s going to be awckward0
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On a first date, the goal is to start to get to know each other. Ask and answer questions about each other. Where are you from? What do you do for a living? Tell me about your family.0
On a first date, it is important to talk about topics that help you get to know the other person better and establish an emotional connection.
Here are some suggestions:
Ask him about his interests and hobbies: This is an easy way to start a conversation and find out what he likes to do in his free time.
Talk about your own passions: Share what you are passionate about and what makes you feel alive.
This can be a way to connect with someone who shares similar interests.
Talk about your job or career: This can be a good opportunity to share your goals and ambitions and find out if the other person shares similar values.
Discuss your favorite places to travel or explore: If you both enjoy adventure, talking about trips or places to visit can be a way to connect.
Discover the opinions and beliefs of the other person: Ask him about his values, his perspective on the world and the topics that interest him.
In general, it's important to remember that the conversation should flow naturally and not feel forced.
Also, it is important to listen carefully to the other person and show interest in what they are saying.0
Start by asking questions like "are you in school" or "what do you do for a living". Those questions will lead to fun conversations.
And search for things that you both enjoy doing.
Just have a fun conversation. Don't interrogate them or talk about anything divisive things like politics or religion. Those things can wait. Just see how well you get along and whether or not you are interested in a second date.
If you have fun on the first date and decide on further dates, you'll eventually learn more and more about each other through normal conversation.
A date will fail if it feels like a job interview.
Some people take dating way too seriously. They are either looking for sex right away, or their in a rush to find out immediately if their date is their perfect life partner.0
I usually wing it and allow my intuition guide me in the moment. Different personalities are different too, so a particular topic may note may not be too early to bring up for some people. But, the important thing is that you’re getting to know each other, and that you leave the dating with a good idea whether or not you want to keep seeing them or not. One thing that I’d want to establish quickly though is understanding their views on different things, to see if we share the same values, perspectives, and philosophy on things that are important to us.1
Talk about literally anything. Ask about things she's told you before and build off of that.
If she told a while ago that her dog got caught humping a pillow three times in a row:
Ask her if she threw away the pillow yet.
However she reacts to that, build.
If she says yes Ask her if it was expensive
If yes, Ask her where she found a couch pillow so expensive.
If no, Ask her why she didn't throw it away the first time.
It's really not that hard lmao. You're just talking.0
Ask a lot of questions fo not just be talking about you. It helps get to know someone and see their behavior with being questioned. Their body language alone will tell you a lot. Questions also help keep the conversation going. Id avoid topics of politics and religion or anything that may fuel a firey debate0
I don't remember the exact topics, but I usually just ask a girl something about herself and let her go on for hours.
Honesty, women always do most of the talking anyway, and it's our job as men to engage in active listening. That's been my experience anyway1
Personally, I'd be fascinated by a discussion about whether or not you would be willing to waive your 13th amendment rights in order to obtain enlightenment.10
Talk about politics and morals. You will either form an immediate connection, or you will quickly dislike each other and move on to someone you are more compatible with.0
music... it was always music for me0
Pythagorean theorem, minor guitar chords, Jane Austen novels, The Beatles and ticklish spots.0
get to know topics... where do you live, what do you do and the like0
Depends on the person. Sometimes you talk about vacations, sometimes you talk about movies and tv, sometimes you talk about pets. Etc.0
The things that I was talked about on a first date was to find out who my date was. Things during school how many is in her family. What were her hobbies. Her favorite studies in school0
I date friends, so the basic friendship aspects of a relationship are already out of the way. If you aren't friends already, I would recommend you focus on that.0
for starters i would like to talk them either by phone, text or both to get to know their interests so if or when there is a first date there will be less pressure and awkward silence moments0
Make it feel beautiful 🌷🥰0
Anything but politics and religion. Open ended questions. No weight shaming. Be there to listen.15
face food.. color. music. memories.. family.0
men and women are totally different page. if there is things to talk about it it's more like hobbies, future plan after marriage, vacation, jobs, family.0
Here are a few questions I've developed over the years.
1. What do most people get wrong about you?
2. What’s the most funniest thing that’s ever happened to you on a date? (Or traumatic, if they don't have a funny one)
3. What’s your earliest childhood memory?
4. What’s the last white lie you told and got away with?
5. What's your most irrational Fear? (Mine: Getting sucked into an escalator.)
6. If I showed up to the date and I was cross-eyed would you still date me?
When it comes to planned questions on a date with a woman, the key to keeping it interesting is by going deep, rather than wide. What I mean by that is, ask questions that dig deeper into her responses, rather than just moving onto the next question right away. Women don't enjoy being grilled like its a job interview, so they need to feel like you're interested in knowing more about the specifics of their responses in order to feel connected to you. So be genuinely interested. Lastly, have answers to these questions already, so you're not trying to think it up on the spot, especially if you're a bit nervous, as most people tend to be on the first date. And remember, you're there to have fun. Good Luck!