What is appropriate to talk about on a first date?

[Potteplante]

aight, I'm doing it. I'm going on my first - first date and I've no idea what I'm in for. I absolutely HATE small talk, I've trained myself into small talking in professional settings - so I could try and use that but I don't want a date to feel like a professional meeting. I'm so close to just canceling the whole ordeal. 😅

[Leapfrog00]

Start with interests, so you can see what you have in common. Ask them what kind of food they like. Tell a funny story. As them if they have any funny stories. Ask them if they have any pets. If they're a dog person or a cat person. Talk about yourself too. Shift back and forth. Talk about yourself for a while and then focus back on them.

People love stories, so tell some stories about things you've done or other people have done. Just don't talk about religion or politics. People get weird about that, especially Trump supporters, Ops, lol. <---I was making a point. Seriously though, people do get passionate about that stuff, and you probably don't want to start a political debate.

When it's time for the kiss goodnight, tell him how much you enjoyed the evening and how interesting you found some of things he told you. People like when you show an interest in them. It's selfless and makes them feel good about themselves. It's OK to be nervous.

When I'm on a date with a girl, I think it's cute when she's nervous. It always reminds me of that scene in the little mermaid when they're in that boat and Ariel has to kiss Eric to make Ursula's spell work, and she's staring down at her hands all shy, waiting for him to make a move. Just remember, he's going to be nervous too. Us guys are always pretending we're confident and strong but put us in front of a girl and we freeze up like a deer watching that car come closer and closer, lol. Goodluck!

[Anonymous]

Congratulations on taking the leap and going on your first date! It's normal to feel nervous or uncertain about what to talk about, but there are a few topics that are generally safe and appropriate for a first date.

1. Hobbies and interests: Ask your date what they like to do in their free time and share some of your own interests as well. This can be a great way to find common ground and get to know each other better.

2. Travel: Ask your date if they've done any traveling recently or if they have any upcoming trips planned. Sharing travel stories and experiences can be a fun and interesting way to get to know each other.

3. Work and career: While you don't want to turn the date into a professional meeting, it's still okay to ask your date what they do for work and what they're passionate about in their career.

4. Food and drink: If you're at a restaurant or bar, talk about the menu and ask your date what their favorite foods and drinks are. This can be a good way to break the ice and find common ground.

5. Goals and aspirations: Ask your date about their goals and aspirations for the future. This can be a great way to learn more about their values and priorities.

Remember, the most important thing is to be yourself and let the conversation flow naturally. Don't be afraid to share your own thoughts and feelings, and be sure to listen actively to your date as well. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

What do you like to do for fun?
What are your goals, future plans?
Have you traveled anywhere fun?
Do you have any embarrassing stories to tell?
What are your dreams and aspirations?
What are you passionate about?
What do you do for work?
Do you like your job?

There's an endless amount of things to talk about but those would be top tier for a first date. I would know because I went on one with my boyfriend for the first time and it was nerve-wracking until I just let things flow. Just don't ask those questions like you're giving an interview and you'll be fine.

[jennifer_bloom]

I would say that on a date, a smile is always in style. Talk about vacations, amazing grandmas and grandpas, holiday traditions and parties in your culture, positive social events like a marathon fund raiser for heart and stroke, amazing animals you saw at a zoo.

[BarryLiverstone]

Announce the elephant. That means you and him will both feel nervous and awkward and scared on some level. So don’t fake like all that does exist but embrace it. When you first see him and can get out a few sentences just say:

• “ I just wanna be honest with you that I’m nervous about this date and have enjoyed talking to you. So please let’s not try to be perfect and let’s agree to just relax and enjoy this time together. Guaranteed we will laugh together and when I mess up just remember I’m willing to be silly :)”

[BarryLiverstone]

Think about it. If he told you that would you feel better?

[Potteplante]

He's aware that I'm nervous, he knows it's my first - first date and that it's been a while since I've had other relations than platonic.

[BarryLiverstone]

Then no need to worry about what you will say. It’s less about the conversation and more about how you all vibe. What are you worried could happen?

[Potteplante]

Mostly - that I'm not ready and it will show, he's been warned by that possibility but none the less that does worry me. I'm not good in one on one with people that I don't know well (no matter how we vibe), unless I'm being professional and I'm afraid I'll by default become professional to accommodate for that.

[BarryLiverstone]

So then tell him that’s what you are worried about and give him tools to pull you outta a professional mindset. Sure you may default to that because it’s your norm and comfort zone. So because you will be there physically and trusting him then tell him if you get too serious he should just poke you in the nose or wrap his arm around you and squeeze a bit. Something silly and physical that isn’t professional at all but you still would feel safe and that he hasn’t crossed any boundaries.

As a guy on a first date one of the things we gotta figure out is how yo break the touch barrier and what you feel comfortable being physical with at what time. So if you give consent to something safe and silly that touch can pull your mind outta being too serious and then you can poke him back and start to play.

Does that sound reasonable?

[Hulk_kitty]

Don't cancel, get out your comfort zone, you only need to go for a coffee, nothing big. Just ask questions, and its a good time to find out what the person is like. Yes its about good about other stuff, but it should about getting to know each other.

[Potteplante]

We're only going for coffee - that was my term for accepting. I'm just afraid I'll scare the poor fella with my questions about life and death - and everything in between. 😅 And I'll become very uncomfortable talking about myself - so asking questions about him would help that situation.

[Hulk_kitty]

ok good, well you are going to have to do it, but don't give to much info away about yourself, until you trust him.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life I always say if you never try you will never know & in life if you like someone don’t be afraid to let them know. As for dating especially when it comes to first dates just be yourself & congratulations on your upcoming first date as well.

[comekitty]

Oh, no!! Don't cancel!

Good topics are interests or hobbies, fun travels, pets, favorite places to visit, etc.

It won't be you doing all the talking. He may have questions where you can elaborate more and of course he'll have things to share about himself that you could ask more about.

Just relax, smile, and have fun! I hope you have a great time! 🙂

[Pudsmucker]

Ask simple questions. What's your employment like. Do you have any siblings? Your parents still living? What are some of your hobbies? Do you like camping? Do you like photography? Do you do gardening? Simple little questions can last the whole evening. What do you do on holidays? Do you like children? And it goes on. And don't forget to have fun.

[exitseven]

Talk about yourself. Describe your job or your hobbies, if you have pets, what you like to eat, movies that you like, if you have friends, what kind of car, where you went to school, how much you like going out on dates. You got this

[Andres77]

Work, hobbies and family and then dive into religion and politics around the time dessert arrives

[HighValue]

Talk about what you want out of life long term to see if each of you two's desired futures ate compatible.

[shades777]

Just be natural don't plan a conversation, thats why going on a walk is a good idea, you will see stuff to talk about, yhe goal is to wnjoy each other's company not to interview like its a job

[OddBeMe]

If he asks your period schedule, or if any of your relatives are gay, I’d change the subject. But keep making him buy you drinks.

[NathanDavis]

Cheetos... has always worked for me

[ImalwaysrightOK]

I absolutely hate small talk too.

[Jerre]

Talk about anything except Politics.

[Googlemyahoo]

Bowel movement viscosity.

[Potteplante]

I think I stick to that topic at work. 😂

[Jennz6]

Sexual activity?

[Potteplante]

I don't think my past sexual activities are appropriate first data talk. 😅 Though, he knows a little of it since we have some common former friends. Also a topic I fear when the time comes.

[Jennz6]

Sure, anything but politics right?

[Potteplante]

So it seems.

[Jerre]

I would love to talk with you about sex. Of course I would be sitting there with a hardon

[Jennz6]

Just kidding